I was w/ my ex for 3yrs. when I found out I wasn't the only 1. It hurt like hell!! It's been over a year & I still can't get past the pain. I've gotten over him (of that I'm sure!) but I go around feeling hate for everthing. I hate seeing others holding hands, kissing, smilling(looking happy) it makes me sick to see others' happyness in their face, I wonder if they really R & Y that couldn't and now can't be me. When/How will I stop feeling this way??
2006-11-05 14:47:01 · 11 answers · asked by ♥less 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Violence - Get a punching bag & beat the crap out of it. It will help relieve the anger and hate for a while. Hit the gym hard, work out your emotional pain physically. You will be too tired to be bitter.
Remember the beautiful things in life and go visit scenery that makes you happy. Be with people who make you happy-friends,family
hope it works out.
My bitterness & hate is only for one person- my ex. Those things help me for a bit.
2006-11-05 15:04:12 · answer #1 · answered by Star Luvy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A year and half is not unheard of I kind of feel you. I know I spent two maybe even three years pining over someone. Didn't want to go anywhere, everywhere I looked people were coupled. It seemed and still seems I am not a part of the world. I tell you this, because you do not to get where I am today after almost seven years pinning over a lost love and not making room to find someone else. You are only at the year and half mark, start making changes, let it go open yourself up to allow room for another. I am still alone after my lost love, but I have become accustomed to it and have been resigned to accept it. I believe you still have time. Get away from him do not make any excuse to see or communicate with him, it will lead you to believe there is hope walk away. he cheated on you so it really shouldn't be that hard. If someone were to cheat on me, I would be disgusted with her and there would no longer be an appeal. Good luck
2006-11-05 23:01:09 · answer #2 · answered by 817_TX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all wounds!!!
You will stop the hate of seeing others happy when you find someone new. Almost everyone gets hurt by love, I know it happen to me and it took me a few years to get over it. I don't think about it anymore, well until now, thanks a lot!(Just joking).
I'm happy now, and the pain is gone. It just takes time. I wish you the best!
2006-11-05 23:04:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I understand..it's very hard to get over a broken heart..I was with my ex for almost two years..I still am healing over him..now I can talk to him and not cry..to get over your pain you have to let him go in your heart..you said you are over him but if you can't handle seeing people in love then you are not...date other people..get yourself into a class or somethng...keep really busy and then all of a sudden it will be days..then weeks..then months..before you even give him a second thought..it worked for me that way.
2006-11-05 22:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by Deb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody has been there first of all, believe me! This is going to sound like a cliche but TIME does help. Just imagine how much you felt for him and learned from the relationship to be used when God sends someone who is right for you your way. AND H E WILL. Take care, Dot
2006-11-05 22:51:44 · answer #5 · answered by hotmamma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't forgiven him or yourself. Him for doing it and yourself for not figuring out sooner. Sometimes that is the hardest part. I learned a long time ago that same message. Forgiving is not forgetting it is letting go of the hurt. Once you let it go you will build yourself up to be a happier person and learn to trust again.
2006-11-05 22:55:47 · answer #6 · answered by bouiver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my sister says the best way to get over a man is to get under another man !! but I say time heals all wounds and soon you will just wake up one day and find someone who will make you forget all that crap
2006-11-05 22:53:15 · answer #7 · answered by russ_russ_kautzman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to say. I might try seeing a therapist, and helping you get past this. Remember your feelings are normal though, but if you aren't sure why you are still feeling them, maybe there is more that just him behind it.
2006-11-05 23:13:46 · answer #8 · answered by joulesofaffection 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will come with time. Try doing something constructive with ur feelings like writing them down or something. Sometimes it helps u get over them, because u can finally express them openly, instead of bottling them up.
2006-11-05 22:51:04 · answer #9 · answered by Alternative Chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A pastor could really help you with this. Bitterness is poison to your own soul. You have to forgive, truly forgive otherwise you will continue to suffer.
2006-11-05 22:50:46 · answer #10 · answered by Sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋