I like this guy, and he likes me, but we arent going out. One day while hanging out we go all the way. I thought our relationship would be ruined, but he seems even closer. Do you think he's using me?
2006-11-05 14:45:30 · 23 answers · asked by billafer204 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just be careful...anytime you are having sex you seem closer, especially in the beginning. I dont want to say he is using you, but if you are not worth dating...he is not worth giving it up for.
2006-11-05 14:49:38 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should step back and access the situation more. Is he getting closer so that he can sleep with you again or does he want to maintain the friendship and not sleep with you again? (unless he wants you as his woman). It's up to you? Do you want to be with someone who wants to be with you and want a relationship or do you want just sex? You have to decide...........that will tell you if this dude is using you are not. It's all in his approach.
I know nowadays. Most young guys just want a cool off. So you will have to decide what you want?
2006-11-05 22:53:16 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a young female in this world ...u have to be strong and assertive...therefore...u should not even have to wonder whether ur being used...simply don't allow it!!...u don't want to have children until after u are married....just make sure that does not happen....and the best way is to abstain from going all the way.....it's really very important...if u are under 25 yrs old there is an abundance to time for sex later on after you get yourself established educationally and financially.
2006-11-05 22:52:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that whenever you have sex with someone you feel closer to them... especially if you already have feelings for them. It's an emotional thing with women..it's like you have given him apart of you.... I would say just talk to him about your relationship..if you want more than sex..let him know and see what he wants with you. He might want the same thing!
2006-11-05 22:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by Tru-Gem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay...you slept with him b/c you like him...that's why I say save yourself for marriage...you wouldn't be asking ..."Is he using me"? if you had just kept your legs closed...not to be rude or anything...it's common sense... if those kind of things bother you..I suggest you stop having sex...until you're married...he probably sees you as a sex tool now... =\ not sure...don't know him...but that's usually the case...
2006-11-05 22:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by 1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, ask him if he wants to take the relationship to the next level, as in going steady, and see his reaction. If he hesitates, then yeah, he's probably using you.
2006-11-05 22:47:57 · answer #6 · answered by Liz P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly. Try to get him to start a relationship with you. If he rejects the idea, then yes, I'm sorry to say he is using you.
2006-11-05 22:48:14 · answer #7 · answered by .Cami.B. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is using you ,did you use sex to catch him ??
Move on and dont sleep with someone you are not in a serious relationship with
2006-11-05 22:54:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be careful and wait things out if you don't want it to become just about sex. Try to hold out on the sex as much as possible, and see if he stays interested.
2006-11-05 22:48:08 · answer #9 · answered by acvader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be using you- he now knows your body but not you- you missed lots of levels- that are before sex- keep your pants on and ask him what he thinks of you- he may lie to keep getting in your pants- respect yourself and your body and don't be giving it away!! D
2006-11-05 22:54:22 · answer #10 · answered by Debby B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋