I am still tryin to break up with this married man and the problem is I love him and I dont wanna break up the relationship because everytime I tried to, he'll just keep bothering me because I work together with him and me and him see each other everyday, thats the hardest part. And now Im finally starting to think that I will definitely BREAK it up with him because I feel like Im doin the wrong thing and I know I am wrong, so Im goin to step up and be a woman and tell him to stop this relationship right now. But how will I go about doin that. Because the problem is that I see him everyday at work and I even work FOR him.
2006-11-05 14:34:38 · 10 answers · asked by simplegurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey, it the girl with the best answer from your other question.
i also worked with the married man. it's gonna be rough, but you HAVE to stand firm. tell him you are tired of being the other woman, and you know that there is no future with him. and you just dont think it is fair that you should be in a relationship with someone who cant give all of his heart to you.
and you are gonna have to remember that it's true, you deserve better. you deserve someone who can devote all of his heart to you and no one else. you deserve someone you can really trust, someone who can be there day or night without sneaking around. hell, someone you can walk around town with and not be afraid of who is gonna see.
if working for him becomes a problem, your first choice is to get a different job. if that isnt possible, and he is giving you problems, tell him he needs to back off before the wrong person finds out about the affair.
stay strong! you can do this. he was never really yours to begin with, he most likely will never leave his wife for you. if you need extra motivation, get mad at him! think about how he expects you to be waiting patiently for him while he is out with his wife in public, and makes you hide in the dark! think of him as a player that is only using you for a steady piece of a.s.s! do whatever you have to do to get through this, and with time the hurt will pass. you will find someone to call yours, the someone you are meant to be with. just hang in there.
2006-11-05 14:50:04 · answer #1 · answered by melinda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break off the relationship...and start looking for another job. All you are doing is hurting yourself and the innocent people in his life..like his children and wife. Now you know why you should never mix work and pleasure....be friends at work, but you should never date anyone from your office because you have to go there even when the relationship doesn't work out. Good luck.
2006-11-05 22:39:53 · answer #2 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i know what your going through. Ive been there and its very hard when you have true feelings for someone. First all, you might need to find another job, if you can. Second, you need to pull him to the side at work, or meet up with him somewhere and let him know that even though you love him, you cant be with him. When i was in my situation, i felt like i was missing my blessings, so i had to leave it alone. And once i did, so many great things started to happen in my life.
2006-11-05 22:44:08 · answer #3 · answered by nell16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame on you and more so shame on him. You both could lose your jobs. You couldturn him in for sexual harrashment. You could take him down and he could take you down.
And you think you love him? What part of being a cheater don't you understand? He is cheating on the woman that he promised to love, honor and be faithful to. If he cheated WITH you he WILL Cheat ON YOU.
You love him because he makes you feel special and adored. You are addicted to the rush of being with him. Afterall look what he could give up his job and his family. Bull. He is using you like a cheep trick and he doesn't have to pay.
Get as far away from this man as you can, Don't let him creep back in to your life. If you can change jobs do so, If you can't then turn him in to headquarters for sexual harrashment.
Let him go or he will be like a hugs stone around your neck dragging you down for the rest of your life. YOu will never get all of him, he will NOT spend holidays with you or sit by you if you need surgery. He gets what he wants from you and that is it.
2006-11-05 22:46:30 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new job. Easier said then done...I know that, but it is the only way to get him out of your system. You will never be able to move on unless you leave your job. What is more important? Your job or your happiness and dignity. Get out while the going is good before things turn ugly.
Remember a man who cheats on his wife is a MAN WHO CHEATS ON HIS WIFE...and with his employee. What a creep.
2006-11-05 22:39:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do it and be wiling to deal with the consquence and repocations stand for for what u hnow is right and the end result you would feel better knoweing that you did was right decision no matter the outcome of the sitiuation
If you love him enough you would let him go its best fore u and him and his wife Its just lust
2006-11-05 22:45:01 · answer #6 · answered by D.REED 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships with co-workers/supervisors are not for everyone. If you want the relationship to end..end it. I imagine that it will be very difficult to work with him everyday, maybe you should apply for employment elsewhere to help with the transisiton.
2006-11-05 22:38:58 · answer #7 · answered by ajd1bmf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is old knowledge that you should NEVER date your co-workers especially the boss!!
Sorry, you have to learn this lesson but truly the best choice is find a new job. I know you know this to be true.
2006-11-05 22:42:01 · answer #8 · answered by James 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to find another job. This job is not worth your dignity and morality - and that is what it is costing you.
2006-11-05 22:37:34 · answer #9 · answered by fruitnroo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-05 22:38:00 · answer #10 · answered by kane011592 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋