my dad died today, i cant stop crying?

Question

this is the first time i've dealt with death, my dad died of a stroke today, November 5, 2006
i was in the hospital with him for 6 hours, telling him i love him but i dont know if he was able to hear me..

sigh, how do i deal with this

Answer 1

Dealing with the death of someone you love is not easy and it takes time. First you will go through a time of not being able to believe it happened, then eventually you will come to accept it. Give yourself time, though, and don't expect to feel better until a year or more. Your life is forever changed. But you can't just dwell either. You have to move on and keep the good memories and try not to think of those last few hours. Stay busy and do things for your father, in his memory. You'll be okay, I promise.

Answer 2

You poor thing. Yes he could hear you and will alway be able to hear you. It will take time, my dad pass 11 years ago and sometimes I just cry because he can talk to me. I talk to him all the time.

What I did when he first passed was got a notebook and started writing in it to him. I did this for at least 2 years weekly and sometimes daily, I still do sometimes. It help me alot. Write all your feeling no matter what they are it is good to get it all out.

I will keep you in my thoughts.
So sorry for your loss.

Answer 3

I am very sorry for your loss. When mom died suddenly of a heart attack nine years ago I was devastated my dad was killed in a motorcycle accident when I was six so losing my mom even though I was grown up was terrible. I thought I would never stop crying but as time goes on you do cope but even now I feel sad when I think of her. Say prayers to God to help you and I hope you have people around you to help. Good luck and you will be okay.

Answer 4

Dear Twiztedwe:My wife of 48 years went to heaven October 31, 2006. There is no answer for you which will help you cope with your loss. I like you am grieving and will for sometime. You are not alone during these moment of sorrow. Just remember your father just met my wife in God's playground with all the other Angels. He is so relieved to be free at last of all earthly sufferings. The most beautify part of his passing is being with the other Angels, for all eternity!
Just remember these thoughts and you will endure and hurt less with time. We are together walking down the path of sorrow holding hands comforting each other turning over God's pebbles.

Answer 5

I am so sorry. It's ok to cry. I lost my mother 4 months ago and I know how you feel. It will get better as time goes by. One thing the nurse told me was to keep talking to my mom because the hearing was the last thing to go. So, YES, your Dad heard you. He couldn't answer you, but he could hear and it made him happy. Your good memories will help you through this time of sorrow.

Answer 6

sorry to hear about ur dad, i know its a hard thing to deal with but he heard everything u said now he will be watching over u. everyone deals with a death in all kinds of way, and crying is ok. its a way to show how u feel i know its hard, but it will take some time

Answer 7

so sorry about your lost, you have to take it one day at a time. I lost my dad too last year and i thought I wouldnt be able to cope with it, but I have and I mean it will be hard for a while but remember all the good times you had. that will help you through the most difficult times. It worked for me and now its almost 2 years later and all I have are good memeoires to hold on to and it really doesnt feel like he is totally gone but more like if he is on vacation and I know one day I will see him again... God Bless.

Answer 8

i am sorry for your loss. i know exactly how you feel. i lost my father 6 years ago. he died unexpectedly, alone and by himself in front of his condo door. everyday it gets a little easier. you won't ever forget him, but it will be easier to talk about him without getting choked up as time goes by. the first few months i couldn't even think about him without crying my heart out. you will always miss him, but i am positive that he heard you and he knows that you love him. i still mention something about my father practically everyday and love to talk about him to people that knew him. i'm afraid i will forget him somehow. sorry to ramble, just take it one day at a time. the pain will lessen and you will forget his death, but remember the good times and memories of when your dad was alive.

Answer 9

I lost my Dad too. You won't always feel what you are feeling now. But it will be awhile before you are better. Same days are better than others. I have been 3 years for me, and I still have days that are hard to get through without crying. I think if him everyday, but now if feels good to think of him, so I don't always get sad.

Answer 10

Hugs to you, and sorry about your dad.
I know he heard you, and I know he loves you and you love him dearly.

Remember all the good and beautiful things about him. Pray for him, and keep his memory alive like: let's say he liked gardening or wildlife, make a donation in his memory. All the best, and if you like perhaps a grief group you can ask at church or look up on the net. Blessings.