I'm not sure if I should talk to her about birth control or not. She had a couple of hickeys on her breast one time and one time on her neck. I have seen her boyfriend and her laying on her bed watching tv. At my house bedroom door must stay open but at his house they go to his bedroom with his door closed. She will not open up to me about their relationship and sex. Any advise?
2006-11-05 14:04:26 · 21 answers · asked by Kathi T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
At 15 it is well past the time to discuss the birds and bees with the kid. Inform her to make wise choices and explain the virtues of her virginity and to not give it up to the first guy that she feels she is in love with. My fiances daughter did this a couple of years ago when she was your daughters age and now has a bit if a reputation as well as it lowered her self-esteem. If your daughter has access to a women's health centre or a place where she can get free condoms and sex information this would be very helpful for her also as she may be uncomfortable discussing with you and be more open with strangers willing to help her learn.
2006-11-05 14:10:10 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im wondering how far on her 'breast' were these hickies and how did you see them.?
As a mother of a once 15 year old that got pregent and now has an 11month old I will say as much as it will make you crazy you might want to put her on the pill. Yes I know it will feel like you are saying that it is ok to have sex but would you rather have a grand baby that she does not need or can not afford. ?
If you are not comfortable with them in her room, door open or closed I say do not let them stay in there. There is only so much you can do about his house other then talk his mother or father is you are comfortable with that or do not let her go over.
She may hate you for awhile but that is better then the worse happening. She will get over being mad at you. You can get over having a baby at 15.
2006-11-05 14:21:41 · answer #2 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you are a little late on being concerned. If your daughter is 15, the truth is that her boyfriend, if you let her have one period, she never be in her bedroom, nonetheless on her bed. Take charge, this is your daughter's future you are talking about. It's not just about a risk of pregnancy, it's about teaching her to respect herself and keeping her from getting hurt. What are the chances of her truly being in love at this age. Watch her closely, talk to her, and make it clear to her that having sex at her age is unacceptable. I REALLY hope you addressed her directly and gave appropriate punishment for that hickey. I am 19 years old and I am still not allowed to just hang out with my boyfriend in my bedroom. These days, people have TVs in every room, why can't they watch TV in an open area that doesn't involve a BED. You are giving her millions of signals that sex is totally ok now.
2006-11-05 14:11:22 · answer #3 · answered by K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely talk to her, she needs to know your point of view and she needs to know you care. It's going to be extremely awkward for both of you but just try to think of what you're going to say in advance and think of how she might react, be tactful but be yourself, and make sure she understands your opinion, but don't be too quick to judge that she's having sex and don't accuse her of anything. If you're worried, the best thing you can do is have them stay at your house with the door to her room open, they won't do if you're supervising them. The worst thing you can do is have them hang out elsewhere because they're more likely to do it if they aren't supervised. That doesn't mean you should never let her leave the house though. Birth-control might only make it easier because that in a way removes the consequences that could happen if she does have sex, it's your decision but think it through. Let her know the importance of her losing her virginity to her true love when she marries him, nothing is more special than that moment.
Good luck, be cool, be yourself, make your point known.
2006-11-05 14:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by Michael H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, im only 16, but im one of the nice guys so... ;)
even when she seems to not be listening, she is and im sure she respects what you say... that is wat u gotta do, say the things u need to say... you may never get her to open up about her relationships with boys, but if you tell her something, she will listen... don't ask her if shes sexually active, just suggest to her that it would be a good idea to start using birth control at her age... you cannot keep her from making the decision to do something with her boyfriend and still keep her respect so keep her respect and keep her a bit safer by making sure she won't get pregnant if she does decide to go forth with that... thats all u can really do isnt it? try to keep her safe?
2006-11-05 14:13:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is hard to tell what is really going on in their relationship. some girls make out and don't go any further than that. others do things that you probably don't want to think about. since your daughter is fifteen and has a boyfriend, i think that the best thing to do is to hope that you raised her to respect herself.
just let her know that if she is considering taking it to the next level that she should know that your door is always open... let her know that you want her to be safe..and if that means that you have to go and buy her a pack of condoms. do it. if she wants to have sex..she'll find a way to do it. better to be safe rather than sorry.
good luck.
2006-11-05 14:10:22 · answer #6 · answered by meeee! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her go to his house- and hickey on the breast- Please- are you denial??? Sounds like his parents will let him have sex and do whatever- and your daughter is fine w that= she needs to know about sex ect a few years ago- and what values have she been learning since she was little?? D
2006-11-05 14:09:29 · answer #7 · answered by Debby B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow.. tough one. teen with a boyfriend myself its hard to say.. hickeys on her breast. thats far.. shes 15!?? well what im wondering is how old is her boyfriend? ive been involved with alot of guys who seem nice but only want in my pants.. im not sure. im sure you should be close to her though. i think every teen needs a parrent that will take them out to dinner for family time or mom and daughter time or whatever. the most important thing is dont make her feel like she has to talk. talk about your life for a while, then say, so how have you been. or whatever. then be like so your boyfriend seems like a nice guy, is he good to ou? if he isnt she will probably lie but tell her to make sure that he is respectful to her because she deserves respect. if she opens up about the sex life or if the time feels right mention birth controll or whatever. but make sure she feels comfortable. and dont make her feel trapped like your hanging out with her only to find out about her bf. its ok for moms and daughters to hang out, and dont center it about guys. talk about girly things and fun things yahta yahta... hope i helped.. good luck
2006-11-05 14:13:09 · answer #8 · answered by Amyscastle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weeeell I think you should talk to her about it. You can never be too careful. And you can always use the Bible, in the first few chapters of Proverbs it has a ton of stuff on this type of thing, it can be really helpful. Also I think you might want to talk to his parents about the whole door open thing.
hope i helped!
2006-11-05 14:09:15 · answer #9 · answered by Sam-Wise 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A 15 year old girl shouldn't be having her breasts sucked on. If she's not on birth control get her on it quick or you could be raising your grandchild by this time next year.
2006-11-05 14:11:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋