had a couple longterm relationships (5 or more years) without marriage, and you are wearly of him, what should you say to him? I am not the type of woman who would ever live with a man without marriage and not looking for on ongoing relationship that leads no where either. I am weary of any many who has such long relationships with someone without marriage. Should I avoid this person the minute I find this out or is there some way that I can talk to them and get across to them I will never be in that type of relationship? I find this situation with guys I meet through dating sites and just don't want to waste time on a guy who isn't the marrying type.
2006-11-05 14:02:11 · 7 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you know that much about him, it's okay to ask him about those relationships...why did his marriage end...why did he not marry either of the long-term women? Does he think he'll ever marry again (or is he open to it) or does he think he'd prefer to not do that?
Those questions are perfectly fine to ask someone you are getting to know, and considering dating...I frequently get asked "what are you looking for" by guys that find me online, and that question often comes VERY early in any chatting we do...they want to know if the person they are talking to is wanting a relationship or just some 'fun'...it makes perfect sense to see if you and the person that's caught your eye are on the same page, before bothering to see if there's potential for things to go anywhere...
2006-11-05 14:08:58 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you are in the state you are in, you need answers. It is not your first rodeo and it isn't his either. You need to discover what kind of baggage he is carrying. Why did his other relationships did not work out? Remember you are only get his side of the story so read between the lines also. Relationships, at best, is a gamble. Sometimes you have to put it all on the line and go for broke. This is what you are looking for. Let him know there will be a time to put up or shut up. Staying without him making a commitment will just empower him to not deal with it.
2006-11-05 14:09:09 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You decide how people treat you and the standards you have. If a man doesn't want to get married and you date him there will be a long prossess of threats on your part for him to make a decision or you will leave,etc. There is an old saying, "if you convince a man against his will, he will have the same opinion still..."
Personally, I believe that if you know what you want then you shouldn't lower your standards.
2006-11-05 14:07:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try telling them what your looking for up front and ask if they plan to marry any woman there dating if the relationship gets serious.When they say no,say good bye and walk off.This should take less than five minutes of conversation.
2006-11-05 14:11:57 · answer #4 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to hurt their feelings , just tell them that you just want to be friends and nothing more. That you both should be able to look for the right person , that special someone that you each would connect with.
2006-11-05 14:08:42 · answer #5 · answered by confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing you can do is talk to them and tell them what you are looking for.
2006-11-05 14:04:39 · answer #6 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand what you are trying to say
2006-11-05 14:04:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋