I'm feeling pretty low right now. I'm a single mother going through a divorce. I feel like nothing is turning out right in my life and i'm struggling financially. As hard as I try, I feel like i'm getting nowhere fast. Sometimes I feel like there's no place left for me in this world and I really hate feeling that way. What can I do to make these feelings go away? Can someone say something that might make me feel somewhat better?
2006-11-05 13:56:46 · 14 answers · asked by ♫Joshua's~♥~Girl♫ 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
We all feel this way sometimes. Just remember God is with you and he will get you through life one day at a time. There is always tomorrow. Smile, I just said a prayer for you. if you need a friend please message me. Maybe you could help me out some day.
2006-11-05 15:30:02 · answer #1 · answered by Claire 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was there 10 years ago with a 2 year old and pregnant. I felt such feelings of despair, but I knew that my children counted on me and I drew strength from that. I understand the feeling that everything you do turns out wrong, but the truth is that it really doesn't. Don't give up, and live one day at a time. If at all possible, find a counselor that you can talk to. It's good to just get all these feelings out to someone that is neutral.
By the way, I now have 2 wonderful boys ages 12 and 10, and I can hardly recognize that lost feeling I had in the past.
You can make it, you are strong. Nothing is ever lost.
2006-11-05 22:17:50 · answer #2 · answered by monica m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been down the road that you are going down now. It IS hard, and theres nothing that any of us here can say to make you feel better. It is all on you, really. You have to make the best of what you have and so far thats what I can see you are trying to do. Being that your finances arent exactly at their peak, getting professional help is, as I understand, not an option. I have been there too. Try looking in your phone book for some Churches or organizations. A lot of times you can find free counseling there. Something that helped me was called Catholic Charities (even though I am not catholic). They helped me out with diapers for my son, formula sometimes too, plus they had a support group for divorcees, kind of like AA, but not to that degree. It was nice knowing that there were more women like me going through what I was going through. Support groups can be a big self esteem booster. I am glad I did it, and now 10 years later I am happily remarried, with another child, and my life is finally back on track. It will happen for you too.
2006-11-05 22:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by lyfsavr1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people have given alot of encouraging words but I am sure they wont really soothe you right now. I would suggest that you draw close to your family and friends for love and support and this time. This will help you to deal with the emotional aspect of it. You said that you are experiencing financial problems. Are you working? or is your salary just not enough? You may want to ask your family for all the help and support with the kids so that you can go and look for a job/another job, so that you can balance. ( if you are not stable financially, it will add more stress) Keep yourself busy, it will keep your mind off the problems. Try to spend more time with the kids, enjoy them more.
Just remember that what you are going through now is normal. It's the death of a relationship! Just allow yourself time to grieve and remember that things will get better.
2006-11-05 22:22:06 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through 2 divorces with my mother. I've seen her in her ups and in her downs. But she's made it through, just like you will. Your trying and that's what matters. It takes a very strong woman to buckle down and handle her stuff! That's you! That's what you're doing. Think of this as a fresh start. Go get a hair cut or color. That always seemed to help my mother, kind of represented her new self. One day at a time. I'm sure your kid(s) are super proud of you.
2006-11-05 22:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by WhitneyR 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Then you must feel like an outcast in life and don't belong to any group. Unless you are in a secret group you are always fighting with the winners . You need someone like yourself who is honest kind and good but an outrsider. Then you can trust them for true friendship. There really is a diffference. Start reaching out and let your spirit guide you until you learn more about life.
2006-11-05 22:32:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie i have been there...preg at 17 new mom at 18 and alone..no family support, no child support..I took it day by day doing only what i could...sure i had some really bad days even weeks but my child kept me going..staying busy with him and work along with communicating with my friends kept me from dwelling on the situation..most importantly...don't be afraid to ask for help whether it is emotional or financial..there are a lot of resources out there to help..never be ashamed of a situation..the ones to be ashamed are the ones that don't ask for help because their pride gets in the way..
your going to be okay..it is hard to think that right now but trust me..it work out and you will be so proud of yourself...
2006-11-05 22:04:45 · answer #7 · answered by styling 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, my mother is a single mother with 2 kids, and it is hard but you just have to keep on going and know you will get through everything. Especially for your child.
2006-11-05 21:58:42 · answer #8 · answered by jenna r 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i been where you are now but you hang in there don,t give up,when you are feeling down pray to god to help see your way through those rough times remember god loves you,and your kids do too for caring for them but when they are small sometimes they dont understand a parents sometimes need to be appreciated.so hang in there you are doing a good job being a good mom.you notice the birds don,t worry how they will eat and god feeds them he will do the same for you because he loves you its a lots of things you qualitfy for so get help if you need help.
2006-11-05 22:09:29 · answer #9 · answered by annjilena 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God loves you and you are precious to Him. Have faith in God.
In the Beginning God created heavens and earth.
God gives you air to breathe and sunshine to enjoy.
God gives you water to drink and food to eat.
God gives you a wonderful body and sound mind, to live.
God loves you, and you are precious to Him.
Son of God died on the Cross to save us from condemnation.
Jesus’ love is boundless and everlasting.
We have the hope of Heaven through Jesus.
Life therefore has fantastic and glorious future!
(Digestion of above can even prevent depression and suicidal thoughts.)
2006-11-05 22:02:52 · answer #10 · answered by Moriahho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋