I've been feeling a bit alienated lately...looking for someone who can pehaps relate to what I'm going through. Feeling a bit flat most of the time...unhappy with my lot in life. I'm told it's a midlife crisis...very common I believe, but perhaps no one's talking about it because I can't find anyone else who (even remotely) understands how I feel. The marriage is not good and I find myself feeling pretty worthless about everything I'm involved with. Spend most of my free time porn-surfing the web, trying to seek out some form of pleasure. Contemplated throwing the marriage (of 25 years) in; and use my 'frequent fliers' to head over to Bangkok for one of these middle-aged sex romps. Feeling like I'm not achieving in my career. My wife is a religious zealot, which adds to the mix. I've go a household full of teenagers (1 boy, 2 girls)...and have no life to speak of (at least not of my own). Long bouts of depression; and a desire to reclaim some of my lost youth. Is anyone out there??!
2006-11-05 13:56:26 · 5 answers · asked by r-u-t-1-i-need-2-talk-2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am certainly not a professional person. I am 46 years old and my life is as flat as a pancake. I can relate. I feel my life has no destination at this time. In the last 2 years I have been living a life of hell. In November 2004, I walked out of my marriage due to domestic violence , two weeks later I was sacked from the job I was doing through lies, which I thought was the last straw. In March 2005 I was diagnosed with bipolar (severe depression), in July last year I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I feel completely alone and useless. If you would like to contact me please do, maybe we can cheer each other up or help each other.
Kim Perth
2006-11-05 14:44:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the love is really gone and you feel it isn't fixable maybe you should be gone too. Your kids are old enough to understand you and your wife are not in sync or love. And if you are so disappointed in how things are in your life right now i'm sure they have noticed. It's ok to feel out of control, and unhappy - sometimes. But if you feel you are stuck in a pit of crap maybe you really should consider finding a talk buddy of some sort, just someone to vent to. I hope you know that a lot of people go through this stuff (well , i don't know about the porn part), but most can move on from it and keep going. I often reply to " what's up" with "work, kids, eat, sleep, repeat" and laugh, it is unfortunatly true, but that;'s life at this moment and i just gotta slag it on through. Just remember that you can get away from it all and take a mental holiday but that cant change the reality, that is what you have to deal with. Best of luck to you!
2006-11-05 22:09:30 · answer #2 · answered by Skanky McSkankypants 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup...sounds like a midlife crisis to me.
Sounds like you are totally disconnected from your wife, your kids, your own sense of any passion in your life. Porn is a really poor empty substitute, but I am sure you already know that.
I think certain ages are for re-evaluating your life. You are looking at your life and realizing it's become dull and lifeless. You need to rediscover some passion in your life, and that doesn't necessarily mean a sexual passion. Just find something that gives you a charge.
2006-11-05 22:02:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you need is some good friends. people that will uplift you, and make you laugh and want to live. people that will not tear your life apart but help you to better it, for you and your family.
2006-11-05 22:04:27 · answer #4 · answered by ღсяаՀу∙թіхіе∙ժմѕτღ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need a day off...i kinda know
2006-11-05 21:58:54 · answer #5 · answered by imurhuckleberry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋