My ex and i are not together, he told me that he didnt know what he wanted.. there is this girl that is 10 years younger that he might like and he needed to figure it out... so i told him to call me when he did figure it out.. well he keeps calling and telling me that he misses me, but hes still hanging out with her.. the way he talks is that he wants to get back together, but he actually hasnt said that yet. I dont want to get my hopes up, its only been a week. people are telling me to ignore his calls and totally avoid him. but i dont want to cuse i love him. Its hard to hear that he is hanging out with her. I dont know if this is his way of trying to figure out who he wants to be with or if he is just stringing me along. what should i do.
2006-11-05 13:37:44 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she is a virgin.. or so she says...
2006-11-06 08:16:42 · update #1
I think that he does really love you. That chick is just a F**k right now. But while he is gone, try to pay attention to yourself and enjoy your life as much as you can. The hardest thing to do is ignore the calls. Your breakup is still fresh. As time passes either you will get tired of his BS and move on, or he will leave her and come back home so you can work on things. He might just need some space to do his thing and if you are willing to take him back after that, then more power to ya. Just make sure you don't neglect yourself while hes hangin out with "miss new booty".
2006-11-05 13:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is playing with your feelings and have no intention of coming back to you. He is treating you are a backup plan coz he know you will stick around despite him telling to your face that he's with another girl. This glorifies his ego. Don't let him crush your self-esteem. He's NOT WORTH IT! occupy your time with friends and things to do- get out there and socialize- with time and it will be soon- this asshole will be a thing of the past. you will look back and say why did I even give a time of day to him in the first place!
2006-11-05 13:51:13 · answer #2 · answered by Jacq 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey.........the truth is staring you right in the eye!
Let him go.........n get on with your love life with someone who is clear headed, sincere, loving & who adores you as you are.
Obviously this guy is just keeping u as his 'spare' while he is carrying on with his younger........n this hurts........sweeter,more joyful & lovable......n probably (he thinks)....much more dynamic,energetic n meeting his 'requirements' n satisfying his ego (having a much younger girl looking up to him & adoring him!).
Some men are just immature & infantile..........n it doesn't matter what age they are! They've never grown up or have a mind developed to the stage of maturity n responsibilty....i.e. in the mangement of male-female relationship ..............n dealing with care & consideration .........a love partnership situation!
N there are men who thinks ahead...........or I should say who 'scheme' ahead. If they have a much younger lover.....they believe they are getting a better deal........over a longer period (sustainable period of fun, love & joy)...........n they even imagine that the youthfulness of the girl would rub off n benefit them!
These r not oriental myths.........it's the same the world over. Every man will believe........when it comes to girl...........the younger the better.
Its the wise men who recognise that girls....... who are still young................... but with a generous mindset, great personality & exuding mature charm & loving......... yet caring & understanding.......are the real treasures!
He still calls u n try to get back with u is base on purely selfish reasons. He wnats an insuirance..........knowing the much younger girl will sooner or later find him too 'old'........worn out.....of an earlier generation....... of previous century's left-over..........will dump him for a guy of her own age!
He could then fall back on u........becoz......u, like a fool enchanted by his 'charm',..........is willing to adore & love him........even though u know he's having (n enjoying) .......someone else!
This just also shows that he does not respect u at all!
He's playing musical chairs...........when he loses out n failed to get to sit on that new stylish younger chair....... he likes to slump his fat axx into the old comfortable couch (oi.e. YOU!!!).........that is always placed there to catch him!
Get smart, dear, move on & find someone who not only loves, adores, cherishes u............but gives you his whole ......with due human respect!
2006-11-05 14:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by sandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know its hard for you and it hurts but move on because if he does this to you now what happens when u two get back together and a girl ten years younger comes along again you need to find someone who loves you and wants to be with only you and have no second guesses. good luck best wishes to you.
2006-11-05 13:42:08 · answer #4 · answered by nuzzihuzzi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At least he's honest and is letting you know that he is torn but it is not fair to you. I mean what are you suppose to do while he's deciding? And also what if he decides that it is you he wants but later he meets someone else. Are you going to be willing to go through this again? You need to take all of this into consideration before you answer another of his calls. I know it's easier said than done but you have got to put yourself first. He obviously isn't.
2006-11-05 13:43:32 · answer #5 · answered by gateach 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your friends and ignore him. You don't need to be strung along by this guy. He is keeping you both on the hook so that he doesn't have to make a choice. He'll go back and forth forever. Find a guy who loves you and wants only you.
2006-11-05 13:41:12 · answer #6 · answered by libra1079 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time he calls, if you know he's still hanging out with her, tell him "Don't call me, anymore. I'll call you when I figure it out". Then ignore his calls for a while. I think he'll drop her after a while.
2006-11-05 13:43:02 · answer #7 · answered by vinny_the_hack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know this is the type of guy that wants you and his new girfriend. Go out and enjoy life, buy yourself clothes and give yourself a new look. your friends are right.stop waiting for him You will be a very loney person if you accept this live. change your live around.
have fun fun fun! doing it . when you meet someone else you will forget him. bye the time he figures it out, I will be to late.
2006-11-05 14:04:44 · answer #8 · answered by queenbefree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on he is not putting your feelings first, and he may be stringing you along because it is an ego thing/control thing. Especially if he is still hanging out with this new chic.
2006-11-05 13:41:12 · answer #9 · answered by DBL L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sugar, you are being strung along...it's clear...he's spending time with her (not you) but keeping you interested in case he either tires of her, or she tires of him...
Don't let yourself be led along like that...if he cared about you, he'd be with you...you're his "backup" not his first choice...cut yourself loose so you can be available to be someone's first choice...
Besides, if he did come back to you, what makes you think he wouldn't pull this stunt again? Have more pride and respect in yourself and your self worth, than to wait around for some guy to decide if he likes someone else better than you...
He's not worth it...
2006-11-05 13:43:20 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋