It's been going on for so long, this depression. I have no one to talk to about it, im in college so I'm away from home... but it's not like my mother was much of a mother anyhow. I cry myself to sleep every night. I can't go talk to a professional because my parents cannot find out. I'm the perfect child with the 4.0 and they will not approve without disowning.
2006-11-05 13:31:39 · 13 answers · asked by Me 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Tana, sound to me like your parents are not being what I call good parents. They are controlling your life and you are afraid that you will be cut of either on a financial level or love level if you don't meet up to their expectations.
You say that you are in "college away from home". This means that you are an adult and you can by law talk with a professional psychologist. (I am saying psychologist, because I am a clinical psychiatrist an I know my peers). The momen they hear you say depression, they go deaf. And they pull out the Rx. and write you a prescription for a drug that will make you feel good. (The problem is these drugs are addictive and they will make money off of you as you must return for another prescription).
By law anything that you share with a professional it is 100% confidential. They can never inform or tell your parents.
Even when I see a child that is either handed to me by the court system, or parents have given me authorization to see a minor, I don't have to tell the parents one thing the child shared with me.
Even a court order if no 100% specific on their needs, they will get nothing from me. The court must be 100% specific as to what portion of the medical records they desire and why. Then they only get that portion and nothing else.
I can not walk in your shoes, but I can feel the pain that you are going through when you have parents who want to be in control of your life. Especially if they use the leverage of money or you are no longer their child if you don't comply.
Life is short Tana, and sooner then later you must be your own person and not what your parents want you to be. This is the way it is if you want to have and live a quality life. Just remember they lived their life the way they wanted. So likewise you must live your own life as you see fit and not what other people expect you to life your life as.
Drugs will never solve the root cause of your depression. Drugs only mask the root cause. So I don't use drugs, unless the person is a danger to themselves or others.
My goal is to work with you to find out the root cause of your problem during our first session that will last two plus hours asking you questions. After I evaluate your answers, on your second visit I will tell you what the root cause is and then we work together to resolve. This means that I will give you alternative solutions to your problem. You must pick out the alternative solutions that you feel are best for you. An if asked, I will tell you what is the light at the end of the tunnel with your choice. (All the choices are good ones).
If you feel the need to ctc. just click on "minddoctor & send an email. I will do my very best to help you overcome your depression.
Clinical Psychiatrist, France
Excuse my english. Again to my knowledge all colleges have a school psychologist.. You can talk to him/her in complete confidence and your parents will never know.
2006-11-05 13:54:31 · answer #1 · answered by MINDDOCTOR 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
indulge in what makes you agressively okay, don't blow it just have a better life know that you have some freedom, in "moderation" is the known fact, that is never tabled very well. see what you can enjoy and do it so that you fit in and seem Happy don't ever get the idea that you are Happy it just doesn't work that way, even the guy that can't sleep doesn't know when he fell asleep. you sound like you don't trick your self but assume that your behavior fools your parents, but what is it like to be you if you want only to be approved. try to see that where you are is over try looking back at it. stop and then go some where else and try seeing how others who can't handle it as well go, are there plenty of religious methods of helping love your time to be a student and run and exercise, is so important to exhaustion, try letting others around you be portrayed as strong and you just do your self minimum things to require of your self stack up the whole thing and just Wait to try a little different feeling to know your not giving up and your not in a rut , move your self and give yourself the competition that is defeating a win so that you let it get the best of you and you move away from it cause some people get locked up into to trying to do too much and growing up today is a challenge that the Nexted Generation book is all about stay strong, stay loose
2006-11-05 22:15:37 · answer #2 · answered by bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are over 18, the doctor or any other medical professional can NOT speak to anyone without your consent!!! Not even the insurance company(That is if you are not under your parents policy) If you are on your parents insurance, go to a free clinic.
There are free clinics everywhere! All you need to do is pick up the phone and check out the mental health services in your area or go to your college counselor for some advice.
You are going through life and with that comes changes. Whether we want them or not. You are not the only person to feel this way. You will not be the last. SO you are not and will not be alone with feeling this way.
The next move is yours. It is up to you to get yourself better.
Good luck and best wishes!
2006-11-05 21:51:19 · answer #3 · answered by warandpeace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm depressed all the time also so I can relate. Disowning type parents if they find out that you are depressed? Now I know that you must know this sounds pretty weird to other people.
If you are over 18 you can go see a doctor, a therapist, a psychologist, or a psychiatrist and they can help you with therapy, and or medication. And by law they cannot inform your parents unless you are suicidal and are silly enough to admit this to them.
You can exercise. You can meditate, or you can find a Faith that you can follow. You can get into a new hobby, or go volunteer and help people who need help. You can do all of these things because you have a choice. We all still have choices, or you can sit their with your 1/4 blackness and whine and cry and feel helpless and hopeless. You can sit their and feel powerless about the cruelties of life, the universe, and everything.
In this world sweety we have to help ourselves, because in the end, we are all that we have. Even if you believe in God he won't be too quick to help you unless he sees that you are trying to do something about your situation yourself.
Get up off of that couch and make a decision today that you are going to do something different about your life.
It's all up to you .
2006-11-07 14:56:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can talk to a school counselor, private physician, or call a crisis center for options. Depression is treatable so you should see a doctor, even a general practioner can start you with something that can help, you don't need a shrink if thats what you are worried about. Right now 1 in 10 people suffer from depression, so it is more common than a cold. Get treatment.
2006-11-05 22:23:57 · answer #5 · answered by Marty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the easiest to help recover from depression but also the most vulnerable to a complete collapse and even suicide. You have been a outsider in your group of friends and family all your life and don't speak the vocabulary or know the hand signs. The road back starts alone and small and in a safe place. Then find one new friend who is also an outcast to get an honest opinion of your words and actions. Use only what you know and can test. Remove all false expectations as they appear.
2006-11-05 22:48:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probably depressed because your parents put so much emphasis on your achievements rather than you as a person. Maybe you need to confront your mother and tell her how you feel. In the meantime you need to believe in yourself as an individual and focus on your strengths, as you see them. Find some good friends that you can hang out with and have fun, or a hobby that can serve as a good distraction. The college must have a counselor with whom you can talk without your parents finding out. Good luck.
2006-11-05 21:41:17 · answer #7 · answered by luna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a school counselor you could maybe go see? I'm sure if you asked for it to stay confidential, it would...
I do recommend you seek some sort of help. Maybe even talk to a teacher you have a good relationship with. You shouldn't keep it bottled inside you- that's not healthy.
Best of luck.
2006-11-05 21:41:28 · answer #8 · answered by Lonelily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you will need to find some people who look more positive than you, and when you hang around with them, you probably will changed (but don't talk about your stuff to them, just to hand around with them). If you always lock yourself up, you will become more depressed.
Or, you could get something to keep yourself busy, so that might help to temporally forget about the depression.
2006-11-05 21:40:14 · answer #9 · answered by I am Faked 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay one thing that really helps me out when i feel down a lot is think about things you like. Think about your friends. Stuff that make you laugh, things you wanna do with your life, stuff your looking forward to,Pretty much think of only things that make you happy. And when you think of something thats bad QUICKLY change to something that makes you happy! Why don't you think of your positives..You have a 4.0 GPA
2006-11-05 21:36:11 · answer #10 · answered by PANEVINO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋