My last 2 boyfriends I've had have been really rich and I got in the habit of only having sex with them after they bought me something or we went on a trip someplace. It doesn't bother me too much but I kinda feel like I've been a prostitue. I guess I wasn't very good about playing them cause they both dumped me cause they got mad cause I wouldn't do anything unless they had spent some cash on me but in my mind I was just making them romance me a little. So am I a ho or not?
2006-11-05 13:24:19 · 38 answers · asked by kayla j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Na. you aren't a ho. It will be the same when you get married! lol
2006-11-05 13:27:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If I were dressed in a policeman's uniform, and I arrested people on the regular. That would make me a cop. If you are having sex with your really "rich" boyfriends only when they gave you something that cost money, then yes you played the part of a ho. But it doesn't seem like it bothers you much. Since you are on a roll, next time get something to really show for your work, get a car or a house or something.
2006-11-05 13:44:51 · answer #2 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well let's see you were having sex with men that you must not have care to much about or them buying you thing wouldn't have been the most important thing in the world to you. And then there's the thing of after the paid up you put up. So since you asked sort of sounds almost like you are very close. Romance doesn't have to come with a price tag neither should it be the only reasons for sex. Sorry, wish you all the best.
2006-11-05 13:36:50 · answer #3 · answered by bigjg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not exactly a prostitute. Just a bit selfish and greedy. At least a prostitute is straightforward about the deal... just kidding.
Romance has very little if anything to do with money. Maybe the next time you date someone, hold off on the s*x. Wait to see if you actually like eachother. Then, go from there. If you really liked them, the "gifts" would not matter.
2006-11-05 13:28:55 · answer #4 · answered by rottymom02 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex isn't something to offer in reward or withheld as punishment. It sounds like you only went out with them because they were rich and could buy you things. You deserve what you got. Now brush yourself off and learn from the experiences. Sex is not to be taken lightly. Get to know the next boyfriend well before you have sex. You'll feel better about yourself and the relationship.
2006-11-05 13:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by j05gemini 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, considering that you actually had relationships with these guys I really don't believe that it makes you a prostitute. Maybe next time you could see a guy for what is in his heart and not his wallet, that is the only sure way that you are going to find true love. Don't be so hard on yourself, you are not a ho, everyone makes mistakes.
2006-11-05 13:28:44 · answer #6 · answered by jennikay32 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A relationship based on games like you have described is not healthy. These patterns cheapen intimacy. Sex should not be a reward that can be bought for the right price, it should be a union of intimacy between two partners in marriage. Don't worry about whether you are a certain label or not, just try to find some tools to help your relationships be healthier.
2006-11-05 13:38:48 · answer #7 · answered by Lyf 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't kid yourself. You weren't asking them to romance you, you were providing them your company only when there was something of a material nature in it for you. Like you said, you played them both and they dumped you.
So, yeah, you're the same as a hooker, just not a very good one. A good hooker will at least keep her clients. You couldn't do that.
I'm usually not this harsh, but the idea that you don't get it is just ridiculous.
2006-11-05 13:29:11 · answer #8 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe not intentionally but thats how u r coming off honestly. i wouldnt say ur a whore unless u walk the streets jus to eat. but a lil adivse. dont put out so much cuz the guys might think that ur a whore and then thats all there gonna want cuz they think they can get it all the time. im sure ur pretty and or u wouldnt b hookin up with all these guys but jus dont put out so much
2006-11-05 13:29:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are realizing that maybe your next relationship needs to be different...and I appauld you for that! What we do in the past does shape / influence our future......but change can be done. YOU have the ability to make your own money (there is the power trip!!) do it, go back to college/school and earn your own!!
Your not a hooker, or a who*e......don't label yourself yourself with those female hate words...........empower yourself.....then find your mate!!
Best wishes!
2006-11-05 13:29:02 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No your not a ho, but what you have been doing is wrong, if you like they guy why do you insist that they buy you something, if they want to that's a different story.
be a better person !!
2006-11-05 13:32:25 · answer #11 · answered by stormyjoem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋