we never had an actual wedding nor a reception,or gifts etc;.... what should i do? should we have one. or just forget about it cuz im already married to him?this is my first marriage,and last.
2006-11-05 13:05:41 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i dont want the gifts you fool
2006-11-05 13:15:05 · update #1
How about you throw an anniversary party to commemorate your 10 years of marriage and renew your vows? That way you can invite your family and friends, wear a gorgeous dress, have him in a tux and write your own vows. Renew the vows at the place you're having the party then have dinner and dancing just like a wedding reception! Congratulations on your 10th anniversary!
2006-11-05 13:16:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean getting married for the first time and not having a wedding in the church and having a reception or gifts. I think you and your husband should renew your vows and do it big. That will give you a change to have the wedding you always wanted. If he love you enough he will give you your dream wedding and stand by your side with a smile.
2006-11-05 15:47:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you have a civil ceremony at a judge or justice of the peace?
Do you have a marriage certificate from the state you lived in at the time?
If not, you may not actually have a legal marriage, but be "common-law" married. In some states, couples who have lived together for a certain number of years are considered married in fact even though they haven't gone through a wedding ceremony.
You may want to do one or more of the following if you want to celebrate your life together.
1. Have a repetition of your original vows together done by your pastor or a judge, or a captain of a ship at sea (like on a cruise).
Write vows if you never did that before and say them as a sign of your devotion to each other.
2. Have a party! We have friends who eloped 25 years ago. This past June they rented a meeting room and catered in a buffet for about 100 people, and had a DJ and a dance floor. They had a table with posters set up with picture of their 25 years together, and their current pastor "married" them again and they sang a song together. Since they really didn't need gifts to start a new marriage, they asked for donations to their favorite charity instead.
3. Take a very belated honeymoon. You don't have to spend much, or take much time away from your family and jobs. Just celebrate 10 years of successful living together and making it work.
Congratulations! Not many couples actually make it 10 years together anymore. Marriage is a lot of work, and you are special and blessed to have each other.
2006-11-05 13:26:49 · answer #3 · answered by Mmerobin 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I are planning to renew our vows on your ten year anniversary - our first wedding was done in a rush, and so this time we want to do it the way we had always dreamed. Of course, it's not for the gifts - you might get some as it is your anniversary - but it's about having that chance for a once in a life time moment were you share your lvoe and commitment with everyone around you.
I say do it - lots of people renew their vows at landmark anniversaries even if they had a full proper wedding.
2006-11-05 14:13:21 · answer #4 · answered by Chrys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might be nice to have a vow renewal for your next anniversary. You can do it up just like a wedding, except to have the ceremony shorter and where the party is. That way, if you really want them, you can get gifts for your anniversary! It might also be nice to go away on a "honeymoon". Since there wasn't a big wedding I assume you didn't get that the first time around.
2006-11-05 13:16:49 · answer #5 · answered by spacedchic00 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To some it never matters, but to you it does. Even if you wait another 10 years, you will still be saddened by the fact that you didn't have the wedding you wanted.
So plan one. If you have the means to have a large one, do it. If not, plan one you do have the money for. And if there are children & you want to include them do that, too.
There are many couples who do vow renewals. They do them for a variety of reasons. There's been infidelity, or just some trouble. But most of the time it is to reaffirm the love they have. And some actually do it every 5 years!
Explain to your hubby how important this is to you. I have a feeling he'll understand. :)
2006-11-05 13:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that should be discussed with your husband not us . However , if you feel the need for help I'd suggest that you could have a party with the people that mean allot to you both . Don't go in it for the gifts. Trust me ,that's not what is important . By having a party now, you will both be able to enjoy it, unlike allot of people at receptions. There just to tired, worried,or busy to have fun.If you do get some gifts,take them as an added bonus. But remember to have fun and celebrate your past,present,& future.
2006-11-05 13:26:31 · answer #7 · answered by just.stew 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I totally think that you should celebrate, and like some other people that have already answered then renew your vows as a special anniversary occasion. Make it into the wedding party that you never had. Loads of people do it and I think it;s a great idea.
2006-11-05 22:53:34 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to them! It is totally cool to have a ceremony to renew your vows! Sort of a reaffirmation of your commitment to each other! It is also quite appropriate since you did not have a wedding to begin with! We got married in a judges office, and I always wanted to have a real ceremony with everyone there! Of course everyone thought that we would not make it two weeks, that was almost 20 yrs ago!! Go for it! And have fun!!
2006-11-05 13:20:57 · answer #9 · answered by suequek 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if you have been married for 10 yrs you could get married again or whatever its called you could rent a place or do it at your home invite everyone you know and have a reception you would be rededicating your selves to each other and it would fill in for the loss you had of not having a wedding
2006-11-05 13:42:31 · answer #10 · answered by Avis S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋