My father died when I was young b/c of.. well we'll say complications from surgery (The Dr's ****** up). And my mom has been sick all my life, and is never well enough nor financially fit enough to go anywhere.. I just had a baby and my husbands mother is healthy and able to come up and see her grandkid, and I just get so mad at him b/c he's always been able to do things with his family, no one's ever been sick or anything, and I never can... We live states away from my family, we're saving now to go see her next yr, but she may not be alive next yr... And I still hear my mother-in-law complaining that she doesn't get enough time with her grandson and she never gets to do this or that... etc.. She was here when he was born!! How can I get over this, it just breaks my heart...
2006-11-05 12:46:43 · 10 answers · asked by Me... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
To many answers but yes it is and only time and brains will.
2006-11-05 12:48:33 · answer #1 · answered by pirateron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A quick solution to jealously, take 15 seconds and think of things that you are mad or jealous about... After take another 15 seconds and think of things that you are happy about or make you proud. After you complete this exercise decide which 15 seconds you want to spend the rest of the day in.
As far as family matters, your mother-in-law might feel isolated if you start to keep her away and then you might lose her too. As long as your mother-in-law is kind to your child and wants the best for your family you should keep her involved. There are too many estranged families these days and children should have all the love and attention they can possibly get. Instead of saving for the three of you to visit your mom it might be cheaper to bring her out to visit you.
2006-11-05 13:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by carly h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealously is part of the human condition. It tells you that you are bonded to another person. It is not wrong to experience jealousy. But it is wrong to let it make you do something that you know is hurtful to those around you. It is wrong to become consumed with jealousy, because then it is not the relationship that is important, it is only your pride in being the "chosen" person.
When your inlaws insist that you always put their family over your own, that is destructive. Try to make your needs clear to your partner and enlist them in running interferrance with your inlaws. You are not asking for much considering the advantages your inlaws have had all along. And you certainly have a right to stand up for your need to see your family. You are an adult and sometimes the inlaws simply have to put up with you whether they like it or not.
2006-11-05 13:15:55 · answer #3 · answered by Rann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be thankful that your husbands parents are a part of your kids life.
as for being jealous because your husbands mother is healthy, yet your fathers gone and your mom is too sick to travel.
grow up you are a parent now [you know one of the two in your relationship] start acting like it. How can you honestly say you love someone enough to marry them , when instead of being thankful that unlike you growing up he was blessed enough not to have to deal with the loss and suffering that you've had to deal with all of your life, you should be glad for him.
anyway what doesn't kill you makes you stronger!
2006-11-05 13:05:23 · answer #4 · answered by mark_grvr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong to be jealous in this situation. Instead of going next year, go this year
let her see her lovely grand child.
And as for the mother-in-law needs to understand that your mother dosen't have the
privilages in her life to see her grand child and you and your husband like your
mother-in-law has. Explain that to her. I hope everything goes well and your mother
improves.
2006-11-05 12:54:46 · answer #5 · answered by tigersoto 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is heart breaking... but being jealous wont get you anywhere. just hope for the best and hopefully your family will get to see your baby. Dont worry about your mother in law and worry about your child and yourself.
2006-11-05 12:50:25 · answer #6 · answered by jbljackie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy over anything is hard to cure,the only way I get over it is by trying to be a bit more rational about the situation by telling myself its not the other person's fault things turned out the way they did.
2006-11-05 12:57:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to yor husband and make him understand that this is how you feel adn you need to work together on things....and have him talk to his mother to eliviate some of the stress you don't need anything like that its hard enough being a new mom
2006-11-05 12:49:32 · answer #8 · answered by chele 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is kind of wrong to be jealous but being jealous is part of life. Talk to him about it tell him how you feel.
2006-11-05 13:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll never get over it. But you gotta learn to deal with it. Talk to your husban and remember to be SENSATIVE to him about this too.
2006-11-05 12:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by jasmine b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋