walk out and never look back, should i leave home and sever my family ties.? they all believe and said i'm trash, that i come from a long line of no good **** heads eversince i was a young orphan. they still do today. they never tried to say something nice when i was good. it seemed they were trying to keep me down all those years for some sick reason, jealousy. they just can't stand it if i do better than their own kids. they want me to come undone. they would really like that. providing me for all of those years was just an obligation for them, nothing more than that. so what would God want me to do?
2006-11-05 12:45:44 · 29 answers · asked by listlessbutdiligent 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Your sense of self and worth will come from unexpected places. Put yourself on the track of being the very next in line to receive it and the universe will provide it to you. But it may not be from your family. It your eyes and heart is open to positive reinforcement, you will receive. I believe that God wants you to also provide that same positive reinforcement to others so that there is plenty to go around. Be thankful for the physical provisions that were given to you and offer forgiveness for the emotional provisions that were withheld. Once you have forgiven and move on towad a positive place, you will find yourself attracted to others who will both benefit from your gifts and who will provide the love and attention that you deserve. If you are young, you may find these positive influences at school. If you are out of school, seek them in your everyday experiences.
Sorry to bore you, but God loves you and wants the best for you. Please help him in that wonderful pursuit.
You are NO mistake. Now get going and prove it!
2006-11-05 12:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by Serendipity 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh my heart so goes out to you, I am sincere and wished you were my child cause I would love you unconditionally. I have a grandchild being raised like that and it's been agonizing. I know God loves you as well. You are being emotionally abused! I don't know your age but if you are of age I'd leave that place a soon as you can find a suitable living arrangement. If you are a minor you need to tell everyone you know whats going on like a school counsler or teacher, preacher, anyone that can help. Please don't come undone. There are people out here who don't even know you but still care. God would want you to be the better person and forgive and love them but He wouldn't want you to be abused you are to precious in His sight for that!
2006-11-05 20:58:55 · answer #2 · answered by Brianne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry. I'm not adopted but there were many times i felt like this growing up. I used to even say, "I was the left over ****," that wasn't supposed to come out with my twin.
Just know that the problem isn't you. It is their problem. Many families will unconsciously try to sabatoge their kids success, for the real reason that they are afraid to let them go. My parents did this to me. but when i finally left, i saw that i could make it on my own, and that they had really underestimated me. Then they accepted me leaving later, and i think they found a new found freedom, and like their peace and quiet. When my whole family gets together now we really have fun. I'm sure your parents love you, but really, don't let them bring you down. You can succeed.
God bless you
2006-11-05 21:01:27 · answer #3 · answered by chara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Legally, if you are 18, or even 16 with the court's permission, you can leave at any time you wish. And if everything you say is true, then my suggestion is you not wait.
If you are under the age of adulthood, then you must obey them, but you just listen to what God says about you, and forget what they say. The only thing God would tell you is to honor your parents so that your life will be long. Do it, even if they don't deserve it.
We don't honor our parents because of who they are, we honor them because of who we are. Be that person that rises above the name calling, honor them until you are able to leave, and then go, respectfully.
2006-11-05 20:58:41 · answer #4 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have a Bible, read it. you'll be amazed at what you will learn. if you are able, and are old enough to leave and be on your own. Then God will not punish you for that. However if you are to young or can't, then comfort your self with the Holy Word of God and talk to a trusted pastor. Or talk to Christ following friends. and until you can leave, hold out and at all cost follow God.
God bless and be with you!
2006-11-05 20:58:20 · answer #5 · answered by clancy g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE NOT A MISTAKE> every hair on your head is counted. If you are a good, faithful person, you are one of God's children. This supercedes any ill will in any earth family. To rise above them, not with hatred or vengeance, but with gratitude for what they DID do (which sounds like bare minimum), is what I would think the Lord would want. You sound like a strong soul, be good, be loving, be forgiving. Be like Jesus, be sinless in spite of the way they treat u. God bless u ~ for real:o]
2006-11-05 20:52:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be strong, God don't make mistakes.
Perhaps God is working in you, perhaps your time has not come to flower yet, be patient, especially with your family, some day they too would flower when it's their time to grow, to see the whole picture, to gain knowledge and understanding.
My grace is sufficient for you, my power is made perfect in weakness. 2 Corinthians 12:9a
It's the number one attitude he blesses.
The Bible is filled with examples of how God loves to use imperfect, ordinary people to do extraordinary things in spite of their weaknesses. If God only used perfect people, nothing would ever get done, because none of us is flawless. That God uses imperfect people is encouraging news for all of us.
2006-11-05 21:05:25 · answer #7 · answered by inteleyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God would want you to honor and love them regardless, but he didn't say anything about liking them. The only thing you can really do is continue with your life: keep in touch with them and look forward in your life. Maybe as time goes on they'll realize that what they did was wrong and they'll gather up the courage to tell you so.
2006-11-05 20:56:26 · answer #8 · answered by Amie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first,be grateful that your situation is not unique.you are not alone with this issue.
it sucks that we can't pick our families.
in my opinion, we should love one another, BUT, that doesn't mean that we have to live around them. i have family like that. they never did much with their life, lived with their hands out.
God forbid if i came into money and didn't offer them any.
A few years ago, i decided enough was enough and have kept them out of my life and i have been better off for it.Now,i still love them and wish them no ill will(no matter what they tell others about me). my wife and my friends know the truth and that's good enough for me.
it sounds as though they're pretty insecure if what you're saying about them is true.keep in mind, misery loves company.
i am not able to speak for God, but he lead me to my decision, maybe through prayer, he will lead you to yours.
Good Luck and as always God Bless You.
2006-11-05 21:07:29 · answer #9 · answered by bblackie71 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think God would want you to protect yourself and still try to love your family at the same time. God doesn't make junk people, and you're one of His beloved children. No one should have the right to hurt you and try to crush your self-respect.
But at the same time, God also says that we're to love those who despitefully use us. You can tell them that you love them, but you can't allow them to hurt you any more. For that reason, you're going to have to back away from them until they understand what they're doing to you.
Treat them with love and respect, even though they don't reciprocate. But you also don't have to subject yourself to their abuse. You are NOT a mistake, and God loves you.
2006-11-05 20:52:48 · answer #10 · answered by Wolfeblayde 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋