I fell in love with this guy... my friend. And well he has a gf and I don't know what to do, because I like him so much but hes serious with his gf and I can't tell him about it cuz he'll probably get weirded out and stuff... I'm not sure what to do about it. I need help, because he and I are close and I know that its pointless for me to like him because hes with his gf, but I can't help myself... I just need advice on how to get through this... please...
2006-11-05 12:35:39 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So I think you already know the answer, but don't forget about him entirely. He may be "serious" with his gf, but lots of things can go wrong before they meet at the altar.
2006-11-05 12:39:19 · answer #1 · answered by Computer Guy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in your shoes many times. It doesn't take much for me to be attracted to someone, but it does take time for me to fall in love with someone. It is usually someone that I have been known for a longer period of time and it is usually because I have come to know them for the quality person they are, the kindness in their heart, and fairness that they treat people. I realize how special they are and wake up one morning realizing that I really do love them. I had been spending a lot of time with them as friends and in some cases I was helping them handle a crisis in their life. Your only two options is to tell him or stay quite about it. If you stay quite, you miss an opportunity and if you tell him, you might ruin a good friendship. I personally do not want to live with regrets. I would tell him. These would be the points I would stress:
* You are a great friend
* I value your friendship
* I want you to be happy
* I want you to have a beautiful love life
* Whoever you spend your life with, will be a very lucky person
* In then event that the current person doesn't work out, I would like to interview for the opening.
* You may have taken him off guard. He does not have to say anything. It was something that you wanted to share with him.
* You will always value his friendship.
2006-11-05 12:50:20 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has someone already, you need to chill. Chances are he will break up at some point and you will be there to pick up the pieces. Don't do anything stupid to try and break them up you will just end up on the wrong side of things. Wait it out and be there for him and then you can tell him how you feel. In the mean time get out there and start dating, you never know he may feel the same about you once he knows you're out and about come packing to you. Good luck girl, and be patient.
2006-11-05 12:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by crkristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i sort of had the same problem i liked this guy (which was my neighbor) but he had a g/f and he and i would talk about different things well he and his g/f broke up but i was with some one. well the guy i was with and i broke up and by this time my neighbor and i was best friends and i ended up just telling him how i felt about him and here we are a year later living together and have the best relationship. so yea go ahead and talk to this guy but be sure to tell him because you feel the way you do you won't interfere with his relationship because you want him to be happy and let him take it from there
2006-11-05 12:59:18 · answer #4 · answered by sam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and let him have his girlfriend. A woman's love is more valuable than any gemstone in the entire world and if he doesn't want its value there are others who do! It hurts for a while and your heart will ache but after a while you will find someone that values you for who you are; a fine "Gemstone!"
2006-11-05 12:41:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're that close friends, he should understand. Let him know that you like him, but out of respect for your friendship you won't get in between him and his girlfriend. Leave the next move to him.
2006-11-05 12:39:02 · answer #6 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!!! i'm going through the same thing. i'm so sorry! all i can say is to tell him at an appropriate time, like if he notices that you're kinda down-in-the-dumps. you could also tell him that it's too hard to just be his friend and explain why. i really do hope he picks you! i wish you my best.
2006-11-05 12:46:34 · answer #7 · answered by trey cool moi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All's fair in love and war, especially if his girlfriend is not your friend. Seduce him or tell him how you feel or get him drunk or let him "accidently" see you (partially?) undressed. Be prepared for possible rejection, loss of friendship, and/or an angry woman hunting you down whether you win him or lose him.
2006-11-05 12:41:51 · answer #8 · answered by ljlemer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give your self some distance, and talk with people you can trust. If you are not comfortable talking to your parents, try talking to someone else with experience in long term relationships.
I would watch confiding in peers, as they may not maintain your confidentiality. I wish you luck.
2006-11-05 12:40:42 · answer #9 · answered by Supplicant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's wif his gal and he is serious, then i wud say dont go in between. come on, if your serious wif sumone wud u like someone else coming in between? but yet again, the whole question is, is he serious wif her, is she the right person for him, are they happy and are they going to carry on happy? well if not they will break up anyway and that leaves the arena to you, but if they are, still wait for them to break up :D that my best friends wedding business happens in da movies, come on, its a movie.
2006-11-05 12:44:40 · answer #10 · answered by Inviz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋