ok, i've been sortof seeing this guy. we're friends, and have hung out, gone to movies, a few dates, where he has labeled them "dates", and he has never kissed me. so today, we hung out all day, he hugged me, we tickle fight, laugh etc, and when he leaned into me, i thought he wanted to kiss me, so i leaned in too and then he backed away totally repulsed. i was surprised and totally taken off guard. I mean, why would he send all these lets go further signals and then back away? should i just cut my losses, chalk it up to he is not interested and forget about it?
Totally confused here. he's been doing this back and forth dance for months and i have no idea what to do. Thanks.
2006-11-05 12:30:05 · 12 answers · asked by Joyce K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like he is either toying with you or he isnt sure if this is what he really want, talk to him and ask him if he really likes you as a gf or just as a friend. Tell him that he is confusing you and your getting mixed signals and you dont want to put your friendship into a weird state.
2006-11-05 12:32:46 · answer #1 · answered by Don A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably not at the stage yet where he feels willing to kiss you. Keep going on dates for awhile; good relationships can take years to build up to the point where romanticness ensues. But if you feel it's been far too long since you started dating (I'd wait until at least a year since the first date) then you can dump him. But do it in a kind way, e.g. "I just don't think you love me...".
2006-11-05 20:37:31 · answer #2 · answered by ultimateprogrammergod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are just like that. They play around like they are into you and just when they finaly have got you they back out of it. It's kinda like a game to them just to see if you will fall for them and then they backout when they realize they've won.
There are also TONS of guys out there who have never kissed a girl. Alot of them you would never expect it. He could just get really nervice when you go for the kiss and he might nor have intended it.
I hope that helps.
-Cody
2006-11-05 20:37:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend of 4 years doesn't like to kiss either some guys just don't show emotion . Talk to him about it , It never hurt anyone to ask ,"hey what the hell is going on?"
2006-11-05 20:35:26 · answer #4 · answered by carolianian85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u should ask him why he did back up is he a chicken or something? if he doesn't have a reason dump him. that's not really nice to miss a kiss. sux just ask him maybe he was scared
2006-11-05 20:32:56 · answer #5 · answered by *~butterfly~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing you could do is to flat-out just ask him. If you can't bring yourself to do that, you could try sending HIM signals and see how HE responds. Look into his eyes, see what his eyes tell you when he looks in yours. If it's not obvious, there is nothing there.
2006-11-05 20:36:29 · answer #6 · answered by Phatpenguin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is shy and not ready for a kiss? soo you go for it it is normal for a girl to kiss a guy first.
2006-11-05 20:40:32 · answer #7 · answered by Detective Emil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.. thats kinda weird, i guess he could be kinda iffy abt kissing... or he wants to but hes afraid to, ive been through that before, although ive never backed away... maybe u just caught him off-guard
2006-11-05 20:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by RedHead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's repulsed when you want to kiss him, I'd say dump him and find someone who appreciates you.
2006-11-05 20:34:11 · answer #9 · answered by Computer Guy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just sounds really shy... U should make the first move or talk to him about it.
2006-11-05 20:33:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋