Relationship question for women...?

Question

Just got out of a relationship with a 29 yr. old woman. I'm 24 male and basically was left confused at the end. The last month of relationship, she became very distant and cold. We stopped having sex, and she even rejected me twice. I figured she had a lot on her mind...work, family and school so i let it go. I finally couldn't take it and asked her if everything was alright. She said shes been going through a stressful time and had been doing a lot of thinking. We broke up because she could not find the time to be my gf. But it seems kind of strange to me that she would hold out sex for so long. She claims that she just doesn't have the sex drive...and gurantees me that its not becuase shes kicking it with someone else. Its been a month since the break up and I still want her back. This has been our only issue within our 9 month period. I told her I respected that she needed to get somethings figured out and that she could always rely on me. Its been a month...i'm still waiting

She has no kids and is very independent. I am 24 and have a job and have a career. What makes things wierd is that we work in the same place and see each other from time to time. We started talking normal for the first time last week. It seems like she misses me but she standing by her decision to remain single. I know all I could so now is remain friends and hope for the best. She was a wonderful gf and i treated her like my queen. I think it just might be that she see her self at 29 with many things that she has not completed. And right now she needs time alone to get things done. I offered assistance but she would not take. I'll continue waiting becuase I know how special of a person she truely is.

Answer 1

what are you waiting for? she broke up with you, you need to accept that and not wait for her.

Answer 2

You said family, so I'm assuming she has children. And if she is working and dating you, that makes me think that she's a 29 yr old single mom. And throw in school, that would make her a single working mom, who is also taking college classes. That's a HUGE load. Right now, I work 32 hours a week and go to school full time. I couldn't imagine throwing a child into that mix. If sounds like she may have just gotten overwhelmed by it all. And don't think of the lack of sex, as her withholding it. With some women, it's really hard to be 'in the mood' if there's a lot of other concerns/things to worry about going on in her life. Have you talked to her in this last month? You need to find out what she really wants. Ask her directly, Is this going to amount to anything? And demand a direct answer. You need to know so you can get on with your life.

Answer 3

This is just a guess now, but maybe she wants the whole marriage thing and does not want to pressure you into it. At 29 one year from thirty. Women view 30 as a big birthday. I could be way off base, but I did date a guy that was 4 yrs younger than me. I cared for him and he did propose, but he was only 21 and I thought he needed more time to sow oats. I am now 39 and very happily married to someone else. Just be patient and give her her space, but try and keep at least a talking friendship going you never know. Good Luck.

Answer 4

"IF"...She is not interested in someone else. Then her problem may be you. Women are emotional by nature. If she feels a need she has is not being met; she will disconnect. Men on the other hand are physical by nature, their physical need takes precedence over their emotional needs.
That may have been what happened between you two. Maturity levels may have reared it's ugly head. A woman being 29; mentally she is 36. A man being 24; mentally he is 17.
That is a huge age difference.

Answer 5

All good things must come to an end.
It's time for you to accept reality and move on.
She'll soon be thirty and she's been doing a lot of thinking.
She doesn't want a 24 year old boyfriend.
She needs a mature man. Send her my way.

Answer 6

What are you waiting for? Move on don't wait sounds to me like she met some else and I think you should do the same. If it was meant to be it would be, and it's not. Find some one around your own age who has the same interests and forget about her.

Together 14 / married 6

Answer 7

Some women feel a strong relationship between sex and their emotional state regarding the other person. If she felt a disconnect with you, then she probably didn't feel comfortable having sex. Just because she wasn't having sex with you doesn't mean she was having sex with someone else.

Answer 8

Was her birthday coming up. I bet she was turning 30 and thinking that you would soon dumb her because you were still in your 20's and think she was turning into an "old lady"
I don't think there was another man involved. I am assuming everything in your relationship was relatively "normal" and she was not supporting you and paying for most everything.

Answer 9

I would think that she is probaly going out with someone else . If it was something you had done she could have had the balls to tell you what it was . i would go out and meet new people , Try to forget about her. Goodluck ,

Answer 10

do yourself a favor and move on A she is having a fling with someone else B she is a dyke apparently she has no interest in you and you are wasting your time life is way too short and there are millions of women out there don't waste anymore of your time!!!!!!!

Answer 11

Good God, man, I haven't had sex for almost 2 years. And guess what?? I'M ALIVE!!