Now that dad is gone I am basicall in charge of my sister. She is living with mom right now but I live in the area about 10 minutes away driving. Anyways, she really likes this guy at church who seems like a pretty nice guy. He's got together with us a few times for dinner and he's always been polite, however, sometimes you never know about these guys because they can put on a show. Do you think I should hang out with this guy a few times by myself to see what kind of guy he is like or just let them go ahead and court? Mom seems to like him.
2006-11-05 11:33:47 · 20 answers · asked by Lucky L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Court? What, is this an e-mail from 1923? At least she met the guy at church and not a strip bar or something.
2006-11-05 12:43:13 · answer #1 · answered by mtce007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're going to catch hell with that question. However, KUDOS from me! Your Dad is gone so you step up. Great idea. You won't be able to do much more than detective work, but still the love of the family unit is there. Also the word courting is basically taboo now a days. It's way too old for some people even though the premise is better than dating! I think yes, you should take this guy out for a guys night out and pick his brain. Don't assess his personality, but make sure he is not a lazy bum. My experience with my fellow Christians is that most are allergic to hard work. So most play with computers all day. Calling this work. If he makes a good living and can support a small family then by all means give him your blessing.
2006-11-05 12:34:59 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first I want to address an issue that seems rather dysfunctional in this picture. Your sister is 22 and, thus so, no one is "in charge" of her, as you put it. Once some one turns 18 (or whatever age required for their respective country), they become a legal adult, meaning that even if you wanted to, you couldn't legally force her to stop seeing the guy.
As for your opinion of him. I can understand your feelings about wanting the best for her. I have a little sister myself. For now, just trust and welcome him. If you are really worried, hang out with him when he gets drunk. The truth really comes out when inebriated. If this is not so, have a friend of yours that he hasn't met chill with him but not let him know that you two are friends. He will act natural and you will be reported back to on whether or not he "behaves."
If you find out he is not such a great guy, tell your sister what you found out. Then let her decide. She is an adult. And more than just the thought of trying to look out for her, she is going to want you to be accepting and supportive. If he is a great guy, then what is to worry about? If he's a bad guy and she does follow your SUGGESTION that she not date him, them you helped her. But if she dates him and he isn't so great, she will need you to be there for her.
After all, that's all a little sister wants from some one she looks up to.
2006-11-05 12:01:31 · answer #3 · answered by Shel K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well shes 22 shes can make her own choices, but you are in charge. I dont think it will hurt for you to hang out with this guy a couple times. After all, your looking for the well-being of your sister
2006-11-05 11:37:46 · answer #4 · answered by Danny/Edgar B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let them court only your sister will be able to determine a good relationship for her self. But he sounds like a nice guy.
2006-11-05 11:43:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is 22 - and a legal adult - you are not in any way in charge of her life, even if her father is absent. You need to trust her to make her own decision as an adult and respect her decision.
2006-11-05 11:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by Chrys 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No hun, ur mom is enormous time incorrect for no longer being there for u. Its a shame that's she's ignorant of ur desires. yet on the authentic, shes the only which will omit out. On gazing ur babies starting to be up. It sounds like u have had some fairly undesirable success in ur starting to be up, yet u will be nice . It sounds like ur mom is back on the pipe, that's why she dose no longer elect u there. Its probable for the ultimate, u and ur babies do not elect to be round that form of existence form. I wish that there would properly be some thanks to Cheer u up, yet i understand ur dealing with some emotional feeling authentic, and that i wish u the ultimate.
2016-10-16 07:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, your sister is 22. she is old enough to make her own decisions. If you interfer, she will get mad at you and possible end up doing something the whole family will regret.. If your mom approves then let it be
2006-11-05 11:59:43 · answer #8 · answered by goodlookin.mama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is 22 yrs old, she is a fully mature adult woman. You have no say in what she says, does, or acts. You are now an observer in her life.
As I've said to my brother many times over, "Get over yourself."
2006-11-05 17:27:30 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY IN THE HELL ARE YOU RUNING AROUND BEING IN CHARRGE OF A 22 YEAR OLD FULLY FLEDGED ADULT ABLE TO MAKE THERE OWN DECISIONS IN LIFE AND IS OVER I8 AND YOU HAVE TOO CHAPERONE AND PUT A DOG LEASH ON A 22 YEAR OLD ADULT?? YOU SRIOUSLY NEED TOO LET GO AND LET SISTER LIVE HER OWN LIFE, AND MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS. BUZZ OFF GET A LIFE!!
2006-11-05 11:38:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋