what is an appropriate form of punishment for a child?

Answer 1

Taking away things they really like, like toys, games, etc...

Answer 2

A child is a product of her/his surroundings. If you punish a child she/he will not learn anything. Talking, explaining UNTIL THE CHILD UNDERSTANDS what she/he has been doing wrong is the only way of "punishing". No other way will work.
Look at the world situation - the only way to reach peace is to TALK, sometimes compromise and eventually drop the rest of the misunderstandings. Nothing will ever be perfect. Punishments will only make things worse.

Answer 3

The punishment and the severity of it, depend on the intelligence, age and maturity of the child, also on what the child has done.
I'm no councillor, but ill give a shot on what i think is "appropriate".

Bold language- a time out, or take away a toy everytime the child does it. until he/she gets the point that that is wrong.

Playing with things he/she isnt suposed too- a firm warning of what can happen

I can go on for days, please tell us what he/she did, and then we can state a much more accurate answer.

What i said at the start of my answer, about age maturity and intelligence..If the child is handicapped you should obviously lower your standards and give more patience, as they are usually simply not capable of doing things they aren't suposed too.

Answer 4

Depends on the age. a time-out works for smaller children, but make sure that it isn't too long, maybe just 2 or 3 minutes, b/c any longer, they'll forget what they did wrong. For an immediate punishment, a slap on the hand works. Older children, take away things they like.

Answer 5

The concept of punishment is not effective in the long run. I suggest reading Alfie Kohn's book Unconditional Parenting. He argues that punishment creates conditional love. The child learns that they will only get what they want if they do what the parent wants them to.

In Unconditional parenting the goal is to reason with your kids when possible and only to intervene when danger is at hand. He does not say that it is easy, but in the long run you end up with children who are more loving and who learn to make decisions based on the effect it will have on others, not the consequences to themselves.

Answer 6

it depends on the child's age if the child is very young say like 1 or 2 really nothing cause they are not old enough to understand but say like 3,4,5 around that age I'd say some sort of time out a few minutes in their room or until they start to behave but if it's a teenager you could take phone or television privileges away or not let them go out with their friends

Answer 7

Well, that is not very specific now, is it? Are we talking about a little 2 year old or an 8 year old? You can`t punish them the same way...besides, you should not use the same punishment over and over anyway. Trial and Error, that`s how we all learn, you should try it sometime.

Answer 8

Remove things that they really like,but explain why you have done it. it depends on the age of the child, for an older child stop pocket money or going out with friends

Answer 9

Time out, grounding (removal of priveledges), claear communication of what the did that was not appropriate and why it was not appropriate...

Each child is different and each child will need a discipline tailored to thier personality... If you start with a basic plan of strategies (i.e. time out grounding, etc) then tailor it to each child while time out may work wonderfully for one child another child may respond better to grounding... Be a bit flexible and willing to try new approaches as needed..

As children reach early teen years allowing them to judge thier own behavior is good... For instance your son stay out past curfew ask him to write 5-10 punishments he thinks are appropriate.. then go through the list and they two of you decide which of his punishments will be used... Be sure to discuss the pros and cons of each as related to his misbehavior...

Teenagers feel more in control when they have a voice in thier lives you as a parent however have the final say... By working with your child to achieve appropriate behavior both you and your child gain from the experience, you gain a deeper insight into what exactly makes your child tick.. Your child gains a platform to begin learning how to self govern instead of being governed by you...

Answer 10

well that depends on the issue that they are being punished for. If it is a minor thing than take away privileges like TV, computer, game-boys, etc. If it is a big issue than I say, ground them for a long time along with taking away everything that brings them enjoyment!

Answer 11

it depends on what he has done. if it is something very bad like stealing something big (a piece of jewlery, valuable) you should tak away almost all his privelages (watching tv, desserts, shopping, video games, reading, anything he likes to do) and also ground him - for a while (as long as necessary but not under three days or over a month). If it's REALLY bad, take away something permenantly. don't use physical violence, because it can be considered child abuse and does not teach the child much - it hurts but it only lasts a few seconds and he/she is liable to do the deed again. if he has done something not so bad - behaved badly at school - take away one special privelage for a week. don't be too hard on him/her but don't spoil the kid!!