Girls answer this? ONLY GIRLS?

Question

Well recently I had an anal sex with my boyfriend, I mean I let him because I love him so much plus he was begging me. Anal sex like 8 times already I’m not enjoying but I’m afraid to tell him to stop because he might leave me. My question is why you let them do it. Is it because you love him? As I do or some other reason.

Answer 1

If it is sore and you are not enjoying it then dont let him do it..its disgusting....would he want something stuck up his ars e???????
You are letting him because you think he will love you more..well if he loved you he would respect you and not do it.... a lot of people dont do it.

Answer 2

You have asked only girls to answer. I am a man, and I think I have something to say in this matter. Please be patient and hear me out. It's for your own good.
In sexual matters, anything you don't like is WRONG FOR YOU. Get your bf to understand that sex must give pleasure to BOTH of you, not him alone. He might be wanting anal sex either because you have a particularly attractive butt, or he's a closet gay (perhaps bisexual), or has HIV. This might need some investigating.
If he is into butts, it is highly dangerous to have normal sex with him as he will infect you badly, which might make you sterile in the long run. This holds true even if you have normal sex after he has penetrated your own rear. Your own germs out there will enter your reproductive tract and damage your system, maybe permanently.
If he is HIV, he might be under the impression that by having anal sex he is making it safer for you. VERY WRONG. He can pass HIV to you by ejaculation into your anus as well. Remember HIV was first discovered in 1980's in Frisco's gay community, and spread to heteros only later.
As to his being a closet gay (or bi), you have not mentioned if you've had normal (vaginal) sex with him, before going the anal route. If you did, did you enjoy it? Did HE enjoy it? Or is he enjoying the anal much more? That should give you something to think about.
Avoid anal sex. It's not meant to be that way. I think anal sex even for heteros is perverted. I'm sorry if you find my view conservative.
Keep to normal vaginal sex. You'll be safer, and much happier.
As to your question, why do you let him do it? I don't think it's love. As you say it yourself, it's your FEAR you'll lose him if you refused. Is he your first? Do you think you have difficulty in finding boyfriends? You may email me for help or advice. Click on my avatar and type in your message. It's a straight offer, with no mischievous intent. It's up to you.

Answer 3

I had a little trouble getting used to it too.

Here is what I suggest, watch something on it, what I watched and you might want to look for it "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women." It really is a good thing to watch, it helps.

After watching that, you will have more information on it. From there you just need to open you mind and realize that when you relax it can be a good thing, and feel great, and that you will actually want to have anal sex.

Of course if you do all this and you still feel it is not for you, then you can talk to your partner, and let them know you have it an honest try, but it is just not your thing. An understanding partner is just what you need. Communication during, and about anal sex, is very important.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Lucy~
It is your body. Never do anything that you are not comfortable doing.

If you are going to have anal sex, it is important to know what type of risks you are taking. It can be a dangerous act. I do realize that a lot of couples enjoy it, but you must be very careful.

The skin between the anus and vagina are very thin and rip easily, you could be putting yourself in danger if this happens. You may even end up in the hospital with a serious infection.

Answer 5

If he leaves you because you are not having anal sex any longer then he doesn't love you! If you are not enjoying it then you need to tell him and he should understand. He has to understand that you have feelings too and you are human. Ask him if you can get a nice big dildo and get him anally. If he says no, well then ask him why not!!! It is no different. And yes we do this because we love them and want to make them happy sweetheart but what about your happiness, you count too!!!

Answer 6

I hate to be all non-politcally correct again, but let's be honest we probalby all have done stuff with guys we really aren't that crazy about. I mean who really likes giving a guy oral??? so why do we do oral? to either get somethign back from the guy (love, oral, sex or whatever). You kinda got to be careful with anal cause it can cause physical damage if you do it all the time so maybe tell him it's like just a special treat now and then. For me, oral either hurts or is kind of just ok, it's never something that I would say I enjoy, but once in awhile if you love the guy and he's into is probably worth putting up with.

Answer 7

Well I have never done it but if I do decide to then it will be because I have an open mind and I am willing to try new things sexually. I would never try something because of pressure from my boyfriend. If I didn't like it then I would stop and go on to new things. If this guy will break up with you over that then it is obvious he does not love you..he just loves getting some.

Answer 8

Okay, if you even think that he might leave you because you dont want to have anal sex anymore, then this guy is NOT right for you. You shouldnt have to do something you dont like to do just to make him happy, or in fear that he will leave you. I've let mine do it, a few times, just because he wanted to and i felt that i should let him, since it made him happy sexually, after about 4 times, i told him i didnt like it, and he RESPECTED me enough to not do it anymore. I think you should tell your boyfriend that you dont like it (for whatever reasons you have) and ask him not to do it so often. If you can handle it, and you WANT to let him do it just to make him happy, then i guess you should let him. But it sounds like hes doing it very frequently and you really dont like it. Have respect for yourself and tell this guy to stop, that you dont like it! Tell him you're all for making him happy sexually or non-sexually but this is just taking it to the limit for you. If he leaves you, TRUST ME, you can find someone else, there are thousands of fish in the sea that are willing to respect your feelings. I hope everything works out for you and your man. Good luck!

Answer 9

Ok I knwo you jsut wanted girls to answer this but I felt inclined. If you don't liek it then tell him no. Guys can be liek animals and demand it. But then it forces away the person you love. And when that happens you jsut want to beat yourself. So tell him no and if he says goodbye then hes jsut a jerk. And he is not worth your time. But if he truely loves you then he will say ok and not ask for it anymore. That's something only the girl should ask for not the guy.

Answer 10

Lucy, If you don't wanna have anal sex with you boyfriend or anybody. Then you don't have to. If you tell him and he leaves you, then that just shows how much he cares about you feelings. Not all girls are the same. Some girls like it. What I am trying to say is Tell him you don't like it. If he leaves you then it shows that he was just with you for the sex. ( Haha not a bad commplement Though )

Answer 11

You do it because you love them so much and you want them to stick around you do it because they mean that much to you and you know if you didnt you would feel bad because you know they wanted it. But i think you should tell him you dont like it. Maybe just drop some hints if your scared he might leave. But if he really loved you he would accept that you just dont like it like that.