What do you do when you can't deal with your damn parents?

Question

I am in adolescence. They are overreacting to the smallest things. They are also hypocritical. Any advice?

Answer 1

Suck it up and suffer until you get out of the house. Write down what they do to annoy you, and make sure you don't do that to your children.

Answer 2

Ahh... children don't come with a manual on how to raise them... so remember your parents are doing the best they can with what God gave them (you). They are going to make mistakes. What you need to do is learn how to be more forgiving of your parents. They ARE human (honest) and they are probably trying to avoid letting you get by with mistakes THEY made when they were your age. What you can do is show them you are responsible. That you will own up to your own mistakes. That you can be trusted. And remember, there are things parents CAN do that children cannot..... if you are really stressed about this, talk to a school counselor. They can usually help you through these conflicting feelings you have towards mom and dad. You are not alone, I don't know any adolescent that doesn't have some sort of conflict with their parents. Mom and dad probably don't want to see their "baby" grow up so fast... and "baby" is just dying to get on with their life!!! So cut mom and dad some slack. let them be human. and if you want to be treated like an adult, start acting like one... and that means being accountable for your mistakes, accepting responsibilities, doing well at school, being reliable... all that adult stuff.

Answer 3

It's your hormones. That's the most logical reasoning. You might not like this answer, but it's the truth. There's almost nuthing you can do about it, except remind them that your body is going through hormone changes and it makes you feel crazy at times.

Also, try to remember, that those 'damn' parents of yours still foot the bill for your housing, food and clothes.

Answer 4

so i guess the real question here is what do parents do when they haven't taught their damned kids all the good stuff about love and respect and then they can't deal with them as they become adolescents.

Answer 5

Despite how it must feel to you right now, your parents aren't out to make your life miserable. They want things to go well for you as you move towards adulthood. They fear that the small things that they've been making a big deal over will lead to big things which could really throw your life off track.

Try talking to your parents. But don't talk to them when you're angry or they are. Pick a time when they aren't stressed out about their jobs or something else. Tell them that you really want to talk things out, but you don't want to fight.

Good luck, hon.

Answer 6

Deal with them anyway. They are your parents and whether you know it or not today, you'll be grateful for thier interest and guidance.

The only way I would advise you otherwise is if you are abused or starving and neglected.

My daughter is now 36 and has her own kids. She has just recently thanked me for my discipline in her adsolent years.

Believe me, you have no clue as to the wisdom on parents.

It'll get better try not to oppose them all the time.

Answer 7

all you can do is mind them. it sucks to be your age, but I promise that it will get better. just understand that if you throw fits, yell, curse, basically throw tantrums, you will NOT be respected. also try to understand that the things they do to you are done out of love. parents are as confused by their adolescent children as the children are of them. try to talk calmly and try really hard to accept that they do know what they're talking about and aren't nearly as rediculously stupid as they seem...

oh, and being a sweet heart and hugging & telling them you love them will get you tons and tons of good stuff if you can do it in a way that seems sincere

Answer 8

take a look in the mirror. There job is to protect you and love you and look out for you. They may seem hypocritical now, but i suspect in 10 years this question will embarass you. Try to respect there concerns and win there respect

Answer 9

one day this will be all behind you as far as the way your parents treat you its because they love you I'm sure there is a half dozen kids who have no parents would trade you in a second one day they wont be here you ll be a adult and trust me it will hurt like hell just know they care and want the best for you even if you think they are over bearing

Answer 10

Quick, move out and support yourself while you still know it all. They will save a bundle. But seriously, while your under 18, you do have to do what they say. Alto of times it really bites, but look at it this way, when your 18, you can do what you want then, as long as it isn't under their roof.

Answer 11

Since you are still a child and living in their house you have to follow their rules. You are to respect your parents even if you don't like them all the time.