whats the nicest way to dump a guy?

Question

Hey. i need help dumping my boyfriend. hes really nice but i was forced into this relationship by my friend. I am not the kind of person to dump some one(i suck at it)...i dont want to be a B*tch i want just to be nice and innocent... but i dont know what to say!.. can some one give me ideas?

Answer 1

First off, dont call or email or text, see him in person so he knows that your really sincere and not a B I T C H. Meet him at a coffee shop, or in a park, or in a nice comfortable place with a comfortable atmosphere. Make sure you;re around people, it makes less tension, which would probably make it easier for you. Start talking to him first and then ease your way into letting him down, dont just blurt it out. Tell him simply,
"Look (name), I just want you to know that i really like you, your an awesome person and anybody would be so lucky to have you as a boyfriend, but i have some things in my life that are going on right now that might require me to take my attention away from you, and i think that we would be best as friends. i care for you, as a friend, and i value our friendship and what we have, but i would really just like to be friends with you, I'm sorry." Or something like that, just be really nice, even lie about something if you have to (like your job requiring you to do some xtra office hours and u not having enough time for a boyfriend or whatever..etc). Just let him down gently. Hope everything works out, good luck!

Answer 2

Ways To Dump A Guy

Answer 3

First of all....NEVER ever let anyone force you into anything..especially a relationship. You can't blame your friend. you have to take accountabliity for your not saying NO.

Tell the guy that although he is sweet and wonderful, you just don't think that the two of you are a match and that you both need to move on .

If he begs or gets wheepy.....for heaven's sake don't give in.
You need to develop some personal backbone or you will constantly be a people pleaser and in that lose who YOU are.
You don't need to be selfish to be who you are, you just need to know when to say yes or no and mean it. You really don't owe him any explaination past the part of you don't think you guys are a match. The more you try to explain it the more you will stick your foot in your mouth and the more convoluted your explaination will be JUST becasue you are trying not to hurt him.
If he pushes it just continue to say. ..."I just don't think we are a good match and that is all I am going to say about it. I wish you well" Then walk away or distance yourself so that the question
isn't asked over and over again.

Believe me the longer you wait to do this the more painful it will be for both of you. YOU NOT wanting to hurt him is NO excuse. YOU will HURT him more by hanging around when your not into the relationship.

Keep it simple, brief and quick.

Answer 4

reaaal tuff one...

i have also in the past been dumped... an as a guy i know even though we have a masculine ego... most men are actually quite sensitive inside...

dnt say the obvious lines "its not you its me"... or "i just dnt feel the same way anymore"

be completely honest just face - to - face ask him... pick the moment maybe go out somewhere... i walk in the park... somewhere quite on ur own where his "ego" wont be hurt... becuase although he may be a really nice guy he still has dignity/ego which ever way u look at it.

then jus sit down together... look him in the eye... maybe hold his hand and tell him the truth... but first ask how he feels the relationship is going... maybe he will say not too bad... then u dnt feel like the complete "b*tch"...

if all else fails and he feels its goin great,,, you've got to accept this is going to be hard for both of you... just say ... you feel as though you were forced into an unwanted relationship and would like to stay friends for the mean time...

but bottom line... do not lie... do not try an think of an easy excuse... you are completely see thru here and will make the guy think you are cheating on him :)

oh an btw... i know this is more of a guy thing... but do it face - to - face... i got dumped by txt... and its still as hard for guys :)

Answer 5

-First of all, try not to do it in a public place. He will feel that you only chose it just so that he wouldn't make a scene. (If you have to do it in public, do it on a park bench or something.)
-Explain to him that you think he's a really great guy and that he has a lot to offer, but you just really aren't into having a relationship. (Don't add the words 'right now' or 'at the moment' to the end of that sentence, because he will perceive that you will be ready for a relationship with him in the future.)
-And finally, if you genuinely enjoy his company, say that you still wish to hang out with him and do things together, just with no romance involved.

Hope this helped.

Answer 6

Hi,
I think if you tell him that you are not into a one on one relationship right now even though he is a nice guy, he will take it in a positive way. Let him know at this point in time you are ready to hang with a group of people, but not ready for a one on one thing.

Answer 7

There is no "nice" way to dump a guy. The fact of the matter is, you're discarding him. Sooo... just get it over with. You're going to be a b*tch regardless, so just stop worrying about that. Just make sure he gets the point. And do NOT use sh*tty lines like, "Oh, it's not you, it's me." *gags*

Answer 8

tell him the fact. mendacity will basically make it worst. somewhat make him sense as in case you settle for him for who he's yet there are some issues he has to alter to make him an more desirable guy. somewhat the fact than locate out later which you dumped him via mendacity to his face. do no longer use the line "it me no longer you" on account that's the worst dumping line to apply. have faith me it occurred to me and that replaced into the main cowardly thank you to flow.

Answer 9

First off..you sholdn't allow your friend to force you into relationships like that.

And to answer your question, there is NO nice way to dump someone or be dumped...sorry.

You can try to be kind, but it never ever works out like that.

BM....

Good luck : |
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Answer 10

There is too little information to concoct a viable excuse. Regardless of how you do it, it will hurt him some, just be prepared for that. If you are gonna go in the big pool, you gotta know how to swim.