I can not stand my mother-in-law! She is the worst person to get along with. She is very manipulative and rude, and she is mad at me for marrying her son! She never pays attention to anything that I am doing and she pretends that me and my family don't exist.
2006-11-05 11:02:46 · 17 answers · asked by Allison W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sometimes you cannot no matter how hard you try.Trust me I tried for 28 long years.I thought for the sake of my husband it ws the right thing to do.Finally I said I am out of that part of our relationship.He then decided he had had enough of them too and its been a year and a half since we have spoken to them and I have never seen my husband happier.What makes me mad is I waited so long.And as for the kids,In my case because they never wanted their son to marry me,they never treated my kids the same either.They are grown now and married.Incidently it was my oldest sons wedding event that was the last straw for me(the way they talked behind my back before I even got to the reception site )!Sometimes the bloodline is toxic and you have to cut your ties.People dont stay in bad marriages as long as I put up with my inlaws and beleive me I tried everything.You cant choose your inlaws but you do not have to tolerate cruelty either.How long have you been married? Talk to your husband about this and let him know it is his responsibility to be the buffer in this situation.If he cannot be then tell him he is on his own with them.You chose him not them.
2006-11-05 22:24:26 · answer #1 · answered by kimber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem, and finally I won their respect by standing by my husband through illness, good times and bad. I was relentlessly respectful of my mother-in-law and father-in-law and never missed an opportunity to show that my husband and I were united. Since she loves her son, it was hard to pass years and not have some respect for a person who also loves her son, as I do. Remember anniversaries, birthdays and remembrance days (Mother's Day, etc.) and even if she never changes, you'll know in your heart you did the right thing. Guess I'm also suggesting that you let her meanness roll off of you as rain rolls off feathers.
2006-11-05 13:28:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your husband then you will need to find a way to get along with her. It is no good complaining to your husband about your mother in law as you know we humans can change ourselves but not others.
You could show her yourself to be the ideal partner for her son because:
1. You take your wedding vouws seriously.
2. Your relationship with your husband is a committed loving one
3. You support your husband 100% and he supports you.
4. You are prepared to dedicate your life to your husband and to the family you will have together.
If I had a daughter in law these are the things I would like to know about her.
2006-11-05 11:10:45 · answer #3 · answered by Imogen Sue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another one of those questions that a thousand people have asked.I don't know what the percentage is but,its high.The couples who go though this.Most of the time people have to stay completely away from their in-laws.This is sad because there is often children that suffer.I wish I could give you a good answer.Try not to fight with husband because of her because this does happen alot and I think mother-in-laws get a sick gratification out of it.So pour all of your Love into your husband and pretend she doesn't exist.Maybe she will see how it feels and have a change of heart.
2006-11-05 11:43:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a mother in law. She died when he was 10 from Pancreas Cancer. She was 43. I do have a Father in Law though, and he's a typical know it all.
2016-05-22 02:08:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force it. If you don't get along with them then you just need to keep your distance as much as you can. In the situations where you're forced to be with her, you just need to grin and bear it for the time. Also, be sure to carefully express to your husband how his mother makes you feel so that he may not ask you to be around her as much to save you both a lot of trouble.
2006-11-05 11:05:43 · answer #6 · answered by Jocelyn L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but getting along with in-laws never works.
2006-11-05 11:06:04 · answer #7 · answered by tictac_lvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok now give her respect treat her well just for a few days show her that u care regardless of what she feels of u. She may change seeing that she hates a person who actually cares for her.
Take Care
Regards
AJ
2006-11-05 11:33:47 · answer #8 · answered by AJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just avoid her. In laws can be a huge pain. Been there done that.
2006-11-05 11:24:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kindness if you want to get a person, you treat them with kindness it will break them down to see that even though they treated you really bad that you were still nice to them, trust me when I say kindness.
2006-11-05 13:56:12 · answer #10 · answered by This is just my opinion! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋