Well i've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and we live together. The thing is my boyfriend is really sexual to me. Sometimes it gets annoying and i don't like it. Like the other day i was getting in the shower so he stripped down and came in with me. Only to kiss me the whole time we were in there. And sometimes when im just wearing a shirt or something he will rip it off me and push me against the wall a touch me, or something like that. Ive even waked up to see him on me, naked. What do i do. I tell him to stop but he doesn't. Help please
2006-11-05 10:40:01 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
but it seems like he is using me... i love him a lot but how many time have i heard him say "I love you" to me, like 2 times
2006-11-05 10:44:40 · update #1
alright sit down with him and talk to him or be safe and go to a friends house and talk to him there or something and if that dont work then leave him move or w.e just take him out of ur life that is bull sh*t tat he would ever do that even tho u tell him to stop if u say stop tat means stop right then and if he did tat shower thing every once and a while i think u might lik it but im guessing he does it only for his peasure when its all about urs and not his well im srry he is lik tat he kinda ruins it for all the other guys out there goood luck
2006-11-05 10:47:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kayla, he's being very disrespectful to you, and your body. The only thing we will ever own, is our body. It is ours, we as women make the choice as to how we want it treated. No one else is allowed to mistreat us, they do not have that right. Yours sounds like physical and mental abuse. I hope you can stop this behavior out of him, before it go's any further. You might just try once more to tell him how you feel, and let him know that you don't appreciate it, that you have a say as to how you want him to treat you physically. That you are not a piece of meat, and he should stop acting like an animal. Also I suggest you show him some of these answers.
Texas girl
2006-11-05 10:59:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kayla it sounds like your bf is very physically attracted to you.
I suggest that you sit down with your boyfriend, without any distractions and be totally up front with him how you feel.
Before hand, find some time with yourself and decide what boundries you need to set.
Verbalize them in your conversation with him and stick to it.
I have a hunch if you express your feelings with him and he truly cares about you, your feelings and well being, he will comply.
I don't like how he tosses you against the wall.
Sometimes tearing off cloths and tossing around like that can be fun but only if it is mutal. In this case I read it is not. This needs to be discussed. If he doesn't comply or makes a fuss, perhaps it is borderline abusive.
Go with you gutt feelings and trust yourself. Be strong.
2006-11-05 10:47:40 · answer #3 · answered by opinionative_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to break up with him, but stop living with him. This seems like it would eliminate the unwanted sexual contact. His reaction to this would reveal a lot about his personality...like if he's controlling, or violent. If he sees your serious about it, and he really loves you for more than sex, he'll either respect your decision to move out or change.
2006-11-05 10:44:31 · answer #4 · answered by Mariah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally it seems like he like to take advantages of a girl privacy and since you are allowing it and not being strict about it, he will only continue. I don't think it's safe to stay in this relationship, but then again, it is not easy to just leave him after 3 years. I think if you try to leave him he would probably try to harm you in a bad way(yes they can become psycho). Good luck!!
2006-11-05 11:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by 2Hott2Touch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes words arent enough. if you live together, you should expect alot of sex, or sexual things. if you really dont like it, you can show him by pushing him away. or if you really hate it, move out and in with a friend for a while, at least till he gets the message.
2006-11-05 10:44:33 · answer #6 · answered by March Mommie 07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He need to resepct you and if you dont want to give it up.. then he should undertstand. He probably isnt pleasing you right?? Hes just getting his groove on and hes not worried about you. You have to think how he is in the other areas of the realtionship.. BUT you need to tell him that you are uncomfortable when he forces it on you... Good luck and let me know. :)
2006-11-05 10:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by sassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out. You don't have to stop seeing him but you really need for him to respect you more not just use you as a release for his sexual tension.
2006-11-05 10:44:55 · answer #8 · answered by perplexed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would be very happy if it were me. Those times are when the passion comes out. You must be very sexy and appealing to him. Remember - if he is like this with you and you don't reciprocate that there is another.
2006-11-05 10:49:39 · answer #9 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u might want to talk to ur mom or something maybe or not ready u know if he loves u he should respect that u dont want to do that with him now u no what I am sayin he should respect u but if he dont just leave trust me but do what u want
2006-11-05 10:44:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋