I am 16 years old in highschool. I kinda look like my icon, 5'10, skinny, and kinda strong. I want to be able to talk to girls more. And also about dating. I havent had a girlfriend, but have went on a couple of dates with my friends and his girlfriend, and her friend. (but i didnt talk, didnt know what to say or what to talk about). I can be myself around friends, but not in school. But recently i have been more outgoing and speaking more. But it comes and goes to my mood. Its not so much that i am shy. But i think more of... i dont know. I can talk to anygirl about anything else, but have never really been able to ask a girl out myself, and i dont ever know what to talk about. I want to get more dates and talk more, and to show my true personalitly, fun, nice, outgoing. I dont know really what to do. Any comments will help. but really its up to me if i wannta change...thanks
2006-11-05 10:38:42 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well you sound like a pretty impressive guy. If you just be yourself then you'll be able to find someone that will be tru to you. If you don't know what to say then just think about the things you like and asks the girl if she likes the same thing. Thats how you'll find a girl with the same interests as you. Ask about the things they like to do and maybe you could accompany her in doing some of those things. Be respectful when approaching her. Always pick the girl that you can take home to mom, over the girl that will give it up because the girl you can take home to mom will most definently have more to offer.
2006-11-05 10:47:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, u sound a lot like me, except i am a girl. I have the same situation but the other way around, Im 15 and i hav'nt had a boyfriend and i cant ask a guy out. I feel that the guy should do the asking. Anyways i too never no what to talk about and it sucks because i can goof off and be myself with mt friends.
So i guess i am not much help, all i can say is try to be yourself and just say something anything even if it is stupid, because that sometimes is better then saying nothing. As for asking a girl out it doesnt have to be directly just ask her to go to the movies with u or with u and some friends, that way she should get the hint that u like her.
hope i helped :)
2006-11-05 18:49:15 · answer #2 · answered by Pado 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are stressing too much about what to talk about in advance. Haven't you noticed that girls do most of the talking? Just relax and chatter away and don't worry about everything you say. If it seems like the conversation has stopped, say somthing funny or compliment her. You asked her out for a reason....let her know what you noticed.
The more you go out the easier it will get. Just start asking and you can think of the first few datesas "practice" if it doesn't go well. And if it does, then she'll tell her friends how fun/interesting you are, and they'll tell their friends and eventually you'll be too busy to worry about it anymore.
2006-11-05 18:50:09 · answer #3 · answered by honey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A girl is just another person. Whatever you talk about to your male friends, is about the same as to what you'd talk about to a girl. There's girls out there that like many of the same things as do boys. If you have a hard time coming up with things to say to a girl, why don't you ask her questions? In this way, at least one of you will be talking. Ask her how her day was. Ask her if she's seen the latest movie. What are her interests? Does she like sports? Does she like to read and if so, what is she reading now? What's her favorite car? Ask her about her family. How many brothers and sisters does she have? Does she get along with her relatives--neighbors? Does she like the snow or the rain? Does she like to go swimming? What were the highlights of her latest vacation?
If you will notice, all these things I mentioned are much the same things that you might talk about with your buddies.
Lighten up. Be kind to yourself. Trust me, these girls are probably more nervous about what they should talk to you about and then they are probably nervous about getting closer. The same things that make you nervous and unsure, affects them as well.
2006-11-05 18:57:54 · answer #4 · answered by Call Me Babs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain that both your parents are rich and drive a viper in their free time and a jag for work, and your going to an expensive college that you have already been excepted to, to become a doctor. And that when your parents die you'll get all their money. Don't forget to express the "fact" that your parents are super rich. This should get about 90% of women automatically attracted to you.
You can also lie about what your parents do, make it seem like they have power, the two things women like best in a man are 1) money 2) Power but not necessary in that order.
Good luck with the girls!
2006-11-05 18:43:49 · answer #5 · answered by D 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would date you if you were just yourself and came up to talk to me. I am a brown hair/eyed, gymnast who is 5'1 and 90lbs. I have a sweet disposition and caring attitude. I don't pms from oct to march cuz I have to train really hard then. Just bite the tip of your tongue and talk!! GO 4 IT!!!!!
2006-11-05 18:42:13 · answer #6 · answered by Michael 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 19 when I got out of my "frightening shy" phase and 21 when I really figured it out.
The trick is confidence. When you go out with a girl, you got to KNOW she likes you and KNOW she'll kiss you...etc.....
like you said, it's up to you. Nobody here will be able to help.
2006-11-05 18:40:54 · answer #7 · answered by lucky 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you just need to build your self esteem, talk to more girls online, that will help
2006-11-05 18:40:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋