I just recently broke up with a 29 yr old woman. I'm 24 and the relationship lasted 9 months. Everything was perfect in the begining and went well through the middle. The last month of the relationship though, she became very troubled and distant. It became harder to spend time with her due to her job, family and her trying to get into grad school. I went a whole month without saying anything becuase I knew she was very stressed and busy. I finally said something and she looked at me and said, you're right...i don't have time right now to be your gf. We work together and we see each other every now and then. I still talk to her and have ensured her that I want her back as soon as she deals with her issues. Its been a month and I don't know what to do now. Should I just continue being that friend type or should i try to ask her out to lunch or something. I don't want this too drag too long and have her forget about me.
2006-11-05 10:33:35 · 7 answers · asked by Doug051 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Seeing as she's been dealing with many stressful things, instead of separating and giving her time to deal with her problems, you should of offered to be right there with her helping her through every obstacle, it would of made the relationship stronger and let her know that she has you for support. Now its been a month and you still see eachother, and i'm sure you still feel the same way towards her, so you should def make a move and try to get her back, and see where she stands emotionally. If you have a fear of her "forgetting about you" then your ties with her weren't as strong as you thought they were and if she tells you she's not ready to get back w/you then it would be better to try and move on, its going to be hard to let go, but i'm sure that it'll make you stronger as a person. I think she needs to make time for you just as she makes time to deal with the obstacles she's dealt with. Just let her know that she has you for that extra oomph people need now and then.
2006-11-05 10:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by ☆Karma☆ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I waited 8 months for someone to get his crap together.. and he came back when he was ready...But be sure that shes not giving you an excuse.. Because you dont need to waste time... Good luck I know its hard as ever...
2006-11-05 18:40:33 · answer #2 · answered by sassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go with wait. It seems like if you stick it out, you two will go back to being great. Your relationship will be stronger because she sees that you can commit. However, you should be sure that she's not trying to break up with you indirectly...
2006-11-05 18:37:02 · answer #3 · answered by Mariah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let go of her... move on with your life, and if she comes to you later when she's ready and you're still single, give it a try at that point.
2006-11-05 18:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give her her space and be the mate if she wants the relationship she will come back to you. If its meant to be it will be..
good luck
2006-11-05 18:35:51 · answer #5 · answered by sylvia c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a tough one. I'm not sure if she still cares about you or not. I would ask her to lunch and ask her how she is doing, and what she is feeling.
2006-11-05 18:36:50 · answer #6 · answered by I'm Trying 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its time to let her go
2006-11-05 18:36:13 · answer #7 · answered by dara s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋