I was raised by my mom to be a nice guy and recently I have learned nice guys are a turn off for young woman. It's like any woman under 35 wants nothing but bad boys. Seeing how I have never been able to get a date I think this philosophy is probably true. Should I try to become more of a bad boy or what?
2006-11-05 10:31:56 · 22 answers · asked by InvicibleStar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't DON'T change.
This is to all of the girls in the world who can't accept the nice guys for who they are:
I'm sorry that I was raised with respect;
not to sleep with you when you were drunk
I'm sorry that my body's not ripped enough to "satisfy" your wants
I'm sorry that I open your car door;
and pull out your chair like I was raised to
I'm sorry that I'm not cute enough to be "your guy"
I'm sorry that I am actually nice;
not an asshole
I'm sorry that I don't have a huge bank account to buy you expensive things
I'm sorry that I like to spend quality nights at home cuddling with you, instead of at a club
I'm sorry that I am always the one you need to talk to,
but never good enough to date
I'm sorry that I always held your hair back when you threw up,and didn't get mad at you for puking in my car,
but when we went out you went home with another guy
I'm sorry that I am there to pick you up at 4am when your new man hit you and dropped you off in the middle of nowhere,
but not good enough to listen to me when I need a friend
I'm sorry that I don't understand that he cheats on you but you take him back; but I'm not good enough to understand that he loves you
I'm sorry if I start not being there, and being used as a door mat, only to be thrown to the side when the new asshole comes around
I'm sorry if I don't answer my phone when you call, to listen to you cry for hours, instead of getting a couple hours of sleep before work
I'm sorry that you can't realize I've been the one all along;
But hey....now you're sorry
I'm sorry that you tell me how much better I am
Yet I am not good enough for you
I'm sorry that im attracted to your personality, instead of your body
I'm sorry if you read this and know someone like this
But don't care
But most of all....
I'm sorry that you can't accept me for who I am
P.S. I married a "Nice Guy" I am only 21, and so is he. I love him more than I could ever say
2006-11-05 10:36:00 · answer #1 · answered by Niki O'Brien 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
As a mother of two young adults one son , one daughter, I disagree that you should become a bad boy to attract women.. My 25 year old daughter has chosen nice guys as she finds them more real. She and her friends are not into bad boy type. The right woman is out there waiting for you and her to meet. Join something that you are interested and the right girl will be attracted to you like a magnet. Changing who you are for a woman or a man is always a bad move. Be yourself and get involved in your community let's say volunteer, play volleyball etc.Get yourself out of the house as she will not come to your door knocking. All the best . Donnarene
2006-11-05 10:44:56 · answer #2 · answered by Donnarene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so untrue. I am 31 and find bad boys a complete turn off. I wanted a nice guy, who hasn't been around the block and had good Christian beleifs. Thankfully, I found him 10 years ago and we have been married for six.
I suggest staying out of the bars and clubs as you aren't going to find anyone worth dating there. Are you involved in church? I would suggest joining a group for someone your age or try match.com. Good Luck!
2006-11-05 10:35:29 · answer #3 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't convert to bad boy behavior. So many people are looking for you. Some women stay away from typical dating scenes because too many bad boys hunt good wholesome women. Being nice guy is an A+.
2006-11-05 10:36:53 · answer #4 · answered by Honey 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The survey says: WRONG!!!!
Some girls (not women) are thrilled with the bad boys (for some reason) who mistreat them and everyone else.
Rest assured, there are plenty of wonderful ladies out there who appreciate a man who acts like one. And the age range is all, including under 35. You are just looking too hard in the wrong place.
2006-11-05 10:36:45 · answer #5 · answered by Nuk.Nuk.Nuk 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first off your momma raised ya right. But sometimes theres a time and place to be nice and a time and place to be bad. I don't mean break the law or anyting. Just a little bad. But for the most part just be yourself. Eventually there will be a girl who likes you for you and you'll be happy. Hope everything works well.
2006-11-05 10:37:45 · answer #6 · answered by denverbroncos 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bad boys at first grab a girls attention but girls are really looking for the guy that will treat her right. Be outgoing and look like you are the life of the party. Girls are attracted to outgoing guys who look like thay have fun. A girl will then fall in love with you because you are nice.
2006-11-05 10:35:42 · answer #7 · answered by s_fhockey 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
noo
women are initially attracted to a bad boys but really want a nice guy
...damn i'd like to meet a nice guy.
you are a dying breed! don't change. it's hard enough to meet a nice guy without them getting the wrong idea about what women really want.
you'll find someone.
2006-11-05 10:35:29 · answer #8 · answered by Artemiseos 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, it was true for me 2 till I learned to grow up! I was brought up sort of like u and i rebelled the wrong way. I still had morals but 4 ex. i even hung around bikers. Now I have someone like u and i am happy, maybe bored, but not scared of life. Stay the way u r.
2006-11-05 10:38:17 · answer #9 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, just read the girl's questions here. The worse guys treat them the more they want to make the guy like them.
Find some poor girl, trick her into thinking you are bad and untrustworthy and then slowly let your true self come out. Hopefully she won't notice and dump you.
2006-11-05 10:36:25 · answer #10 · answered by hankthecowdog 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋