My grandma is almost 80 years old. Everyone takes advantage of her. Especially my cousin. He uses her a lot. He'll bug her to get money so he can go buy drugs. She just gives it to him. The whole family is too blind to see all this is going on. Some of them see it's a problem, but either they're too lazy or stupid to do anything about it or they're too scared of him. Everytime they call the police he gets away before they can find him. He's hit my grandma before and he pushed her down really hard on the floor about a day ago. I have no idea if there is anything I could possibly do, I'm just in high school. It's possible that he will kill her and I hate seeing her be so blind to this. I never get to spend any time with her anymore with all this going on. She may have to move in with us sometime. I just wanna know what it is I could do or even better, if there's anyway I could convince her and my parents to have her move in w/ us. thanks!
2006-11-05 10:29:38 · 11 answers · asked by 77684 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yeah my whole family knows. my mom tells them what to do but they don't listen. and my grandma knows what he does w/ the money she gives him
2006-11-05 10:38:35 · update #1
He would come and do something really bad to me if I did anything. He hates my mom and he knows where we live. He's like the devil or something.
2006-11-05 13:27:55 · update #2
If your family wont listen talk to counseler at school. Do your parents know whats going on? If she was just abused by him a day or two ago then call the cops. Tell her to get a restraining order against him, adventually they will find him and he will do sometime. But talk to your mom and dad and tell them you are scared for her and what is happening. Then if nothing see if anyone at school can help, there is something someone can do.
2006-11-05 10:39:01 · answer #1 · answered by bradosmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, do I feel so sorry for you. First of all you should have really checked these things out before you got married to her, but regardless of that fact, now you are together and you have major issues with her. It almost sounds to me like she has OCD, which is obsessive compulsive disorder. It is a disorder which many people get. She needs some serious psychiatric counselling for her problem. The problem is definitely not you. You should be able to see your friends etc etc. She could possibly have control issues where she is trying to control you and everything around her. Holding the baby hostage in regard to not sharing the child is definitely wrong of her. She needs to grow up and be an adult and stop trying to control her family and your family. Your family deserves to see this child and hold the baby. For her to deny them of showing their love for the baby is totally unacceptable. Get her some help fast. Have you thought about talking to a priest or minister about this problem with your wife? The very first thing she will have to do is ADMIT that she has a problem and then she can get the help she needs. Please, get her some counselling before things get worse for you. Good Luck with her.
2016-05-22 02:06:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If nobody will listen to you, then go talk to a teacher and ask to see a social worker during school time so you can tell them. Social workers deal with the elderly as well as the very young. That is what I WOULD do.
2006-11-05 10:32:27 · answer #3 · answered by lollipoppett2005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family does have a problem! Does your parents know what is going on? The cops need to be notified. That is elderly abuse. I would talk to you Gma and tell her that you are scared for her. Talk to your parents about calling the law. SHe might be frightned of him and not want to be hurt by him. Do something QUICK!
Good Luck!
2006-11-05 10:34:43 · answer #4 · answered by WestWife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to open your mouth an SPEAK and I mean NOW!!! How can you live with yourself knowing this is going on??? Find a frying pan and bash your cousins head in. If you continue to allow this to go on I'll bash yours in! This is your grandmother for cryin out loud. you can spend all the time with her you want so I don't want to hear your excuses. What are you waiting for, do something now!! 911 >>>Catch my drift? You need to turn to your parents and make them aware.
2006-11-05 10:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by Vicki A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU go to the police station..... file a report of
abuse....... stand up for your grandma....... she needs you
now..... not in a day or two..., a week, or a month, it might
be too late..... my brother did the same thing....but I
didn't know at the time......and didn't know who she was....
but cry ed all the same for her life..... because I
didn't try........... some-one will eventually listen....
2006-11-05 13:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by jojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the sheriffs elder abuse detail. Look under county listings in the white pages of your phone book.
2006-11-05 11:15:39 · answer #7 · answered by cybefree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what you could do is that you could go to your principal or some relative of your that really cares about your family and you . and you could tell them what happening. or you could even go to your grandmas doctor and tell her doctor what happening. well i hope that this may hep you a least a little bit.
2006-11-05 10:40:25 · answer #8 · answered by liz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its kinda hard for u to intervene cause u r so young,its the adults around u who will have to fix that.all u can do is pray that she comes to live with u b4 he hurts her too bad or b4 its too late.then u can show her the difference between real love and that punk
2006-11-05 10:50:36 · answer #9 · answered by auntymadness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when ur cuz goes near her, go near ur grandma and protect her, and say grandma, don't give him money, he is taking advantage of u and is buying drug
2006-11-05 10:32:58 · answer #10 · answered by Ledzeppelin324 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋