I know she is lying to me about a couple of inaproppriate relationships, and is a pro at hiding them. I cant trust her at all but I do still love her. My heart is broken inside me and she acts like she could care less that she's hurting me. she wont touch me physical and says its my fault for cause of the things I say when I get mad. Im so frustrated
2006-11-05 10:28:14 · 14 answers · asked by Im leavin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to move on without her. If she is inconsiderate with your feelings now she will probably will never change. You have to look at the future and really ask yourself if you deserve better than what you have now.
If in your mind is telling you this is not who I want to be with forever you have to believe it more than your heart. People do not change unless they truly want to and to wait until they do is pointless and will hurt more in the end. Life is what you make of it, get out there and find some fun and happiness, true love will find you before you know it.
2006-11-05 10:43:50 · answer #1 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon....we all have or have had people in our lives that we love yet we can't be with them for one reason or another. All the romantic love in the world doesn't mean there is an excuse for lying.
You have caught her in some lies. Which most likely means there are more things going on than you can imagine.
You are in the fairytale phase of love that tells you that love conquers all, that this is your soulmate no matter how they treat you. This is wrong.
Time to love yourself enough to be with somone that doesn't lie and manilupate you.
An exellent book is called ARE YOU THE ONE FOR ME.
That will help you find out exactually what you want and also what you don't want. There are fatal flaws aka red flags that should eliminate a person right off. That book has saved my sanity. I no longer get involved with men who aren't for me.
Truth and trust in a relationship are essentional to it's foundation. Without a strong foundation you can't have a good or lasting relationship.
Know that you are human and you will hurt and you will have to grieve the loss. If you avoid breaking up because you can't deal with the feelings....then you are setting yourself up for years or maybe a lifetime of missery. Look how misserable you are now.
In a good healthy relationship you don't have the other person sucking the life out of you, you have them uplifting you and careing for you and not blaming you for their problems.
Time to let your broken heart mend....and next time you fall for someone be sure they have the qualities that YOU need and want in a love relationship.
She is controlling you big time. Time for you to STOP letting her hurt you. YES, YOU are the one allowing this to happen. I know it is a new concept for you, but you do have power over your life and you don't have to be in such a dramatic untruthful relationship.
2006-11-05 10:43:32 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever ur unhappy, frustrated and hurt in a relationship and it doesn't get any better the best thing to do is to end it for ur sake and the other person.
If u have given it ur all and it seems to get worst then u should just end it and work hard at making things better for ur self and know what u want in the next relationship.
2006-11-05 10:38:42 · answer #3 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While she is saying that you verbally abused her she is emotionally abusing you. Without trust there can be no LOVE but you will always have feelings for her, You have probably heard this before but maybe you should look into getting a counselor
that deals with couples counseling even though she probably won't go, they can help you get through the pain,so that you can move on and find someone who truly deserves your love. Good -Luck
2006-11-05 10:36:53 · answer #4 · answered by lagies mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave her, don't waste your time on timeless people trust is the #1 thing a person should have.Find someone to fix your broken heart.
2006-11-05 10:34:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her. Nobody needs that kind of rejection, frustration, heart ache. Get busy with a fun hobby and new friends and find someone who deserves your heart!
2006-11-05 10:30:42 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Pretty♥ ♥Kitty♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ug!
I say "move on brother".
If you "can't trust her" what's the point?
Sounds to me that you're waisting your time you could be spending with someone else (who will touch you physically).
Be careful how you express yourself when you are "mad".
2006-11-05 10:32:31 · answer #7 · answered by opinionative_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we tend to say things we mean when we are angry and it tends to stick to the other person really hard - why are you worried about her past if you love her - she knows if she tells you everything you want to hear you will probably say some more harsh things to her - she sounds like she's been through some things to make her feel so uncaring towards you
2006-11-05 10:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You lost her a long time ago. Tell her good-bye and move on. Eventually your heart will heal. You will find someone else. Good luck.
2006-11-05 10:32:27 · answer #9 · answered by Nuk.Nuk.Nuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to break up and find a new person to date. if you say mean things to her that is not good, and if she can't be trusted that is not good either. it seems that you two do not need to be together. move on and find a new person. you should be with someone that makes you happy, not miserable.
2006-11-05 10:30:40 · answer #10 · answered by ca belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋