I gave my bf a second chance after all his lies and dating site escapades. He promised he wouldnt do that stuff anymore. Sure enough, he did. I caught him red-handed by setting up a fake profile that he responded to.
I want to break up with him, but i'm in south carolina and he's in ohio, and i dont know if its worth my while to drive up there tommorow and confront him with the proof in person. It'll be a lot of time and money, but at the same time i think i could use the closure. What do you think?
2006-11-05 10:24:56 · 20 answers · asked by Freaked out 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not worth the drive and aggravation. Send him an e-mail.
2006-11-05 10:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. BIG 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he deserves for you to be that nice. I mean you gave him a second chance! When he didn't even deserve one! That's a long drive number one, and then you have to think about gas and the mileage on your car. Is that something you really want to waste on this yahoo? It may be better if you're not there in person anyway. He'll probably try to change your mind and beg you to give him another shot, or possibly make you out to be the bad guy because you set up that fake profile. Don't let yourself be fooled into thinking he'll change the third time around. Be strong. And I know you may need some closure, but it'll probably be better if you cut things off now. I know it hurts. And you're entitled to that. But don't let him control your emotions when he's just some scumbag who doesn't appreciate you. I can guarantee you're not the first girl this has happened to. Go out with your friends. See a movie, grab a pizza and eat ice cream. I know it's cliche`, but you know as well as I do that it works and comfort foods are amazing. Just let your friends and family be there for you right now. They love you and they'll want to help. And then before you know it you can be out there again finding someone new. And let's hope he's a hell of a lot better than that guy you've been dating. Stay strong and go get him! Don't let him make you feel bad. You have every right to break up with him!
2006-11-05 18:34:43 · answer #2 · answered by Brensgrl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is obvious that you do not trust him, so you know what is ahead of you if you drive all the way from south carolina to Ohio, right? Since this was not the first time, you've got your closure right there dear Heart. Is it worthed for you to go through a waste of time and money to satisfy the part of you who's hurt? Catching him with a fake profile? LOL... That's a good one!
That'll teach him! And I guess It did teach you too, so why bother?
2006-11-05 18:40:35 · answer #3 · answered by montralia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've been together for a while, so doing it in person would bring more closure. But since this is the second time he's lied to you he doesn't deserve you making the trip. If I were you I'd tell him through the dating site. Send him a message from the fake profile telling him that he's caught again and tell him its over!!
2006-11-05 18:29:57 · answer #4 · answered by nycguy1128 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How would you want to have a boyfriend break up with you? If it's been a long term relationship, then you both deserve to have a face-to-face.
Are you looking to punish him, or are you trying to get past this event in your life. You mentioned closure, so it sounds like at least from your perspective, the relationship was important. But don't be surprised if he doesn't have that same perspective... he couldn't be trusted via long distance, and so he may not have taken the relationship as seriously as you did
2006-11-05 18:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by princessmeltdown 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Freaked: You fore-warned him and he continued to violate your trust - dump him and FAST ! You should learn something from this too. That is to say, far away relationships very, very, seldom are what they appear to be - they seldom ever, work out ! Send "Mr. Lier" a letter telling him straight, that the relationship is O-V-E-R ! He has to learn to stop being a lier and using girls - don't put up with this ever, from ANY guy. There is no love where there is no truth. Explain in the letter; what occurred, how you know he lied, and that it's OVER ! That's all - plain and simple ! Good Luck To You .
2006-11-05 18:37:47 · answer #6 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he deserve that kind of special ending after what he's done to you? If you feel this is the only way to get closure, go throw your proof in his face (literally). But i wouldn't waste my time on someone who didn't want it in the first place. tell him what's what over the phone and give him his final goodbye.
2006-11-05 18:28:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you lived in the same town...in person is always better. In your situation, I suggest you write a note expressing your feelings (and don't hold back!) and send it through email;. Then get you a whole new profile and start completely over in the dating scene. Good luck!
2006-11-05 18:28:47 · answer #8 · answered by Nuk.Nuk.Nuk 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he's not worth your time, or money hun, just send him an email telling him how much he's hurt you and tell him that you're moving on, just dont drive all the way up there hes just not worth your time ok? if he treated you like that he doesnt deserve a ''proper'' breakup if he couldnt keep a ''proper'' relationship. good luck <3
2006-11-05 18:28:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends how long you two have been seeing eachother. If he is just a player player who doesnt care about you--he's not worth the 100+ dollars in gas money.
Breaking up in person is always better, but if your relationship wasnt that speacial or great, and he was just an idiot and if you havent ever done anything sexual with him..I suggest that you break up with him however else you would like.
Over the phone...way better than email, NO EMAIL.
2006-11-05 18:35:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Break up with him, you dont need to show him that you have proof, you know you have proof and you know its true. If you go see him, he will probably just try to manipulate you, or try telling you that its not true. Its best if you DONT see him. Dont waste your time on this loser, just call him and break up with him (even though yes, that is childish, but you have an excuse, YOU LIVE MANY STATES AWAY) Dont waste your time and money, just break up with him and move on. I'm sorry this has happened to you, but you will find someone else, someoen alot better, and someone who wont lie to you! Good luck!
2006-11-05 18:28:50 · answer #11 · answered by Ricki M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋