my friend has been feeling down for about 6 months now, she has started putting on weight, doesnt want to get up in the mornings because she feels there is nothing to get up for, she can never be bothered to do anything. i havent been seeing as much of her as usual and i plan to change that but i want to know how i can help her be happy again She is 17.
2006-11-05 10:19:50 · 10 answers · asked by miss_dippy 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I went through that for a period when I was about that age. The best thing that helped me was to take things from day to day, and just find things to do that would make me want to get out of bed that day. As a friend I think the best thing you can do is listen, and help find things to do with her that she can look forward to, whether it's watching a movie together, going to a concert, or just hanging out at a fun spot.
I got out of my funk when I applied to some schools and found one that I really liked (and a program I was really interested in learning about). I knew that in 6 months I'd be going somewhere new and doing something different. If your friend doesn't know what she wants to do after school maybe take some trips to some local colleges or training schools. It's pretty scary when you don't know what you might be doing in a year.
Just make sure if it seems worse to tell someone - your school probably has a counselor or psychologist who could talk with her (and she wouldn't find out that you said she needed help).
2006-11-05 10:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by Pook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go over there and find out what the real problem is.
A doctor will only label her depressed and give her medication sad but true since they can be alot more harm.
There is a REASON she is depressed....get in communication with her :) Take her out...if you live near the water go for a walk...help her to find out what she feels she cannot accomplish or something she probably feels that she lost or doesn't have.
She will be happier by getting something done and getting out of the house....maybe she is on a drug? That can cause that also.....go see her and help :)
Good luck!
2006-11-05 18:27:13 · answer #2 · answered by YourShopGirl.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call and try to talk to her.
Ask her if the two of you can make plans for something.
What would you both like to do?
Tell her you need her advice on something....and think of a problem you have....and try to ask for her help...it may help her feel needed again.
Perhaps she's in a slump...perhaps she wants a future, and her friends are getting ready for college.
Perhaps she feels a boy/girl hurt her feelings and doesn't want anyone to know.
....let her know that you miss her friendship and you treasure her........forever!!!...and that's a special treasure that lasts!
2006-11-05 18:23:56 · answer #3 · answered by May I help You? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am feeeling like that right now with the winter going i am also putting on weight i am 17 if i need attention, i need someone to love me other than mommy i feel like that and be there for me maybe she needs the same. Ask her what is wrong and tell her youll help her aith whatever it is
2006-11-05 18:29:34 · answer #4 · answered by Praiser in the storm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing to do is talk to her in casual manner, in that case, you will be able to know the reason of her changing attitudes. anyway at that age, she is undergoing of this so called age transformation, by being lazy, locking herself alone, no energy to get involve to any actvities, doesnt want to communicate to anybody. give her enough space, as i said talk to her in casual manner until you discover her real problem. if it does not work, talk to her parents and and seek advice from the doctor. or maybe shes suffering from stage one of depression and anxiety, that really needs the doctors opinion and must have a proper medication.
2006-11-05 18:31:09 · answer #5 · answered by Salvacionf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Miss Dipp. Your friend is definitely depressed. The best you can do is get her to a Psychiatry. He can help diagnose and give medications in case she needs them. I suffer from depression and had the same symptoms. Meds (Cymbalta and Zyprexa) help diminish the symptoms. It is really nice of you to try to help your friend. As a friend, listen to what she has to say
2006-11-05 21:15:40 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her to a doctor for a physical and a mental health assessment. She sounds depressed. It is a physical condition and you can't "cheer her up" out of it.
2006-11-05 18:21:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do, she has to decide to overcome it on her own. Try talking to her about it, but don't be critical, don't tell her she needs help, it will make her feel worse.
2006-11-05 18:36:30 · answer #8 · answered by littleblondemohawk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-05 18:27:29 · answer #9 · answered by Golden Ivy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-05 21:15:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋