whenever we're in a store and i tell him 'No' he falls to the ground and starts yelling,and kicking just like a 2 y/o!whenever he does this we ignore him but that doesnt work.instead of stopping he usually screams louder screams things like 'Daddy stop touching me like that' and everyone in the store stares and give me and my wife dirty looks.when he takes it that far we always give in.We know that he only acts that way bc when he was little we gave him whatever he wanted so tht he would b quite and now he's complety spoiled.and we dont know what to do.
Do u have any suggestions that can help us? he's not a bad kid he gets good grades and rarely acts up at school
2006-11-05 10:14:19 · 11 answers · asked by Charles B 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'm not a mental health professional, but your son sounds mentally ill. He hasn't matured and that's not healthy emotionally. Yet, he knows it's wrong so this doesn't happen at school. Obviously you need to stop spoiling him...and it sounds like you and your spouse are the only people he tries to manipulate...maybe you need to limit contact with him...send him off to an out-of-town school so he can get used to acting normal on a regular basis...it will be good for him. Everyone will gasp in shock at this I know, but it's the same thing as sending him to college...just earlier. What's so terrible about that? It doesn't have to be a strict place; he just needs to be with people that he can't pull this crap with. It will only help him.
2006-11-05 18:42:38 · answer #1 · answered by chelleedub 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop giving in to him. Walk off and leave him on the floor. When you get him home strip EVERYTHING out of his room other than the bed and his dresser. No TV, video games, DVD player. Absolutely NOTHING left. When he can go 2 months without acting like a spoiled brat and does chores around the house without having a fit he can start earning his things back a little at a time. A friend of mine did this with her son and he is now 25, a college graduate and has kids of his own.
2006-11-05 10:19:03 · answer #2 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
hmm...it's not really that rare! LoL...we all still do it a little, but perhaps not that bad...hmm...maybe u should start by talking to him about it and tell him its not acceptable...don't take him anywhere ANYWHERE until he starts behaving a little better...then when he promises not to do it in the store again take him out and see how he reacts...if he still does it then just walk away and leave him laying there...and if he still does it at home and stuff...take everything away from him and let him earn each thing back...good luck and don't lose hope! :]]
ok say in 10, 15 years he meets a girl and really loves her, readi to marry her...but heck...she don't like him b cuz of the way he acts...do u want it 2 be ur fault that he never grew up and never became a man!?! it's ur choice, ur chance to begin to mold who he will be for the rest of his life...u can't chicken out here...u gotta make it stop!
2006-11-05 10:36:58 · answer #3 · answered by i_love_mickeyickey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you and your wife need to have a serious talk with your son and let him know that things are going to change. When you go to the store again and he acts up, take him home and start taking away his favorite thing probably his computer. Don't give it back until his behavior changes. When you go to the store the next time and he acts up, sell his computer and keep this up until he has nothing. If this doesn't help send him to boot camp. You lost control now it is time to take it back.
2006-11-05 10:37:10 · answer #4 · answered by black jack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok this may sound harsh but in this case u r never to old to get spanked dont do it public come on now dont give take him to the bathroom or the car or even wait till u get home ur never to old if he threatens come on now its discipline if u get in trouble about it make a case actually plead for a vote ill be right there votiong for u i never liked it when i was a kid but u know u weren't given it u earned it.
2006-11-07 10:37:55 · answer #5 · answered by Selam A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is already a teenager, DO NOT hit him. He is too old, and is old enough to get you in a lot of trouble for doing it.
This one sounds like he has real problems. He is way too old to be acting like that. I'd find a good (safe) teenage "boot camp". Tell him that that is where he is going if he doesn't start acting his age. If he keeps it up, off he goes!
2006-11-05 14:44:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try telling him to knock it off before hand and ground him for 2/mo
if he refuses but make sure to tell him first!
2006-11-05 10:48:20 · answer #7 · answered by cjm 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he does it cuz you still give in tell the father 2 stop bein a pansy and take the belt 2 him, its your husbands job 2 make a man of him, do somethin though, heck send him 2 boot camp, this may sound harsh, but i think it would do that boy a world of good, but remember this every time u give in you are enabling him, and that makes it just as much as your fault as his
2006-11-05 10:19:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Stop taking him to the store. . .or anyplace. . .until he can learn to respect you. He knows you'll give in eventually, so you must not give him the opportunity to act out at all.
2006-11-05 10:18:22 · answer #9 · answered by Suzeebee 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He is manipulating you. If he has other behavioral problems (at school, friends houses) you should really contact a psychiatrist. Or see a behavioral therapist.
2006-11-05 10:20:12 · answer #10 · answered by Heather M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋