is it advisable to be in love with someone before taking him/her to the alter or should one marry with the believe that it is better for love to grow/develop in marriage? is it really posible to grow to love someone you never felt anything for whatsoever? please, I need the prons and cons of these situations.
2006-11-05 10:07:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's a complex one. My parents got married without knowing each other (old fashion arranged marriage) but they love each other and have been together for 40 years. They love grew. Some people fall in love and never stay together because they are not compatible and sometimes you meet people that never thought they would be able to fall in love but with time some form of feeling started to happen.
I think when it comes to the matter of heart, it's having chemistry and a Strong sense of communication as well as realizing that marriage takes works to stick together but it's always nice to be in love.
2006-11-05 10:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by Leila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you get married?? You of course had emotions on your niece, why might you drag your now spouse into this? interior the long-term she's the only that is ultimately going to get harm! you have already ruined your marriage, there's no longer lots left you're able to do, yet enable your spouse pass on and locate somebody who will rejoice with and cherish her, because you're actually not that individual. How ought to you be? because you're having an affair and tutor little be apologetic approximately, such as you pronounced your niece is "great warm"? you're selfish and infantile and should no longer be married interior the 1st place. optimistically sooner or later, you will get your certainty verify and somebody you adore, possibly the niece, will pass away you for a youthful great warm guy!
2016-12-28 13:51:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make yourself fall in love with someone that is something that just happens there is no formula for that. You are absolutely right you should only accept a proposal if you love that person. There is always a chance you may meet someone else and fall in love and regret your choice. Marraige is a life descision its forever. Not just for today or tomorrow so make sure this person is the one.
2006-11-05 10:20:05 · answer #3 · answered by Missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very much like (Eastern) Indian friends of mine. They are in basically 'planned' marriages. Just go out and meet people - it will happen all on it's own and you will never need to ask again. You will know - with no doubts - when it happens. Regarding 'growing into love' - you will only convince yourself you must be when in reality you have no idea what it would feel like.
2006-11-05 10:13:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only ever grow to love someone, so finding a partner is best done with your mind. Are your values compatible? Are you compatible? Is this person what you want and need in a partner? Don't confuse attraction with love. Love must be worked at constantly,
2006-11-05 10:11:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely be in love before heading to the alter. Find someone you're compatable with and you can see yourself with this person everyday for the rest of your life.
2006-11-05 10:10:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be in love before you marry.. both parties should be in love and you can't make it happen you will know when you have found the right one
2006-11-05 10:10:29 · answer #7 · answered by goodlookin.mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is ur dad taking u to indian to get married and has he been buying gold
2006-11-05 10:11:13 · answer #8 · answered by suby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋