Well when I was little and my parents got divorced I felt horrible and sick and angry at myself. How did you feel?
2006-11-05 09:58:14 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well my parents are happy now they got divorced when I was 5 years old and I blamed it all on me but now I am glad they got divorced because they are happy now I h=even have a stepmom and stepbrother.
2006-11-05 10:28:22 · update #1
the same & I never got over it
2006-11-05 09:59:24 · answer #1 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, frankly it depends on how well your parents were getting along when they were married. If they constantly fought, you'd probably have been relieved by their divorce. It is NOT unusual that children feel anger and resentment when their parents divorce. Some even feel betrayed.
I got divorced when my children were about 18 months and 3, so they were really too young to know what was going on. They have adjusted very well and I am thankful for that.
I on the other hand am 39, and my parents have for all practical purposes been separated for almost 20 years. They don't get along with each other, so why they are still married is beyond me. My mother bad mouths my dad constantly but she will not leave him, and my dad will not initiate a divorce. In this case if they got divorced I will be super happy. I guess I will have to stay on the sidelines and watch them each be miserable with each other.
2006-11-05 10:12:21 · answer #2 · answered by vanityspice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you as being the parent that got the divorce it is so hard to make it easy for your children because they love both parents and for about a year unbeknown to me my 14 yr old thought it was their fault. It was really hard but in the end i had to tell them some of the bad stuff but they then knew it wasnt their fault and like i tell them probaly better to have 2 happy houses rather than one miserable one.I encourage them to be their own person and to find their path through life. Things have been so much better since it all got sorted and i now know they dont live with guilt.
2006-11-05 10:11:40 · answer #3 · answered by blue_eyed_woman_of_3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I celebrated. They divorced when I was 10 (I'm 17 now). They were always arguing. The news came to me while I was on vacation, and I remember just being relieved and happy. As for your situation, it depends on circumstances. If you know they will be happier, than so should you.
2006-11-05 10:17:40 · answer #4 · answered by buddha 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relieved! My parents never fought in front of me, but I could tell something was wrong (I was 12). They were always tense, never laughed, and would stop talking whenever I walked into the room. When they told me they were getting a divorce, I kept quiet but inside I thought..."Finally!"
2006-11-05 10:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by ricktheirish1967 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was too young to remember but as a guy I feel that I lack some of the traits I would have gotten if I had a father around.
2006-11-05 10:02:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Angry, upset, hurt, scared. But I grew up. And now I wish they had divorced long before they actually did. There would have been alot less pain in our house.
2006-11-05 10:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 10 yrs. old at the time and I thought it was all my fault. If I'd made better grades been a better daughter, sister,etc. I felt quilty and ashamed. My self esteem went down the toilet.
2006-11-05 10:08:43 · answer #8 · answered by jacicat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relief!
My parents age was ten years apart..One wanted to retire and one hit her prime. They were not a good couple. I wanted them both to have what they wanted out of life.
I was actualy happy for them that they didn't allow each other to get in their way.
2006-11-05 10:00:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-28 19:46:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt like they were mad at me since they were always fighting. When my dad left I felt like he didn't want me. That was when I was 8. Now that I have grown kids....I know better but it still "feels" that way.
2006-11-05 10:03:49 · answer #11 · answered by bethybug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋