How can they get along??

Question

I have a cat thats about 4-years-old.. and i love her dearly... 3 days ago, i recieved a baby kitten (old enough to do things on his own and to see), he was with another kitty who sadly didnt make it (both of the of them were fairly sick when we found them, and i wanted to nurse them back to health)... Well, now i believe this kitty is lonely, and im spending every second basically with her, I would really like her to get along and become friends with my older cat so she has some1 there for her to play with when im busy. But the thing is, my older cat is kinda anti-social (when we have lots of people over she hides, and she doesnt really like it when little kids are around her -- trying to hold her) and she hisses are my kitty and runs away.. (shes done this b4 with other cats/kitties)... How can i get them along?? is it possible?

Also... how can i potty train my baby kitty to go in a litter box... she seems to always wanna crawl outa it.. if i put her outside if she really needs to go... then she'll go..

They are both females, if that makes any difference...

Answer 1

As crazy as this may sound, if you possibly have room for three cats, then I'd suggest getting another kitten! The two kittens will play all day and keep each other company. They will become best friends. And also, because they play with each other, then they won't be climbing the walls and they won't pester the older cat so much. I'm just guessing, but I think it's a good guess that an older, female cat who is already a bit antisocial will never enjoy the new kitten. She will just want to be with you or to be left alone. Be prepared that she may also beat up on the baby a bit to always keep it clear who is the "boss." I've heard advice to let them work it out themselves, but I was always uncomfortable with this and kind of hovered over the kitty to make sure the big cat didn't really hurt her. I agree with a previous poster also, that the older baby is surely jealous of the new one. Try to make some special time for her to reassure her that she still has a special place in the "family".

Answer 2

Only time will tell if they get along. Some older cats will tolerate a new kitty, others continue to fight for years. Sometimes they become best friends. Don't push the friendship. It will make matters worse. Just let them coexist and let nature take it's course (unless the older cat gets overly aggressive, then separate them. I've had 4 to introduce and 2 became best buds while the others kind of tolerate each other. Just keep showing kitty the litter box. She'll get the hang of it. Good luck!

Answer 3

Give your older cat time to get used to the younger kitty. They'll work it out, believe me. As for the litterbox, the kitty is getting used to it as well. You are being an anxious new owner. Calm down. Dont let the kitty get used to being with you so much, let it be on its own and let it seek the other - hissing at it or not, eventually you'll come home and find them together. The biger one isused to being the only cat and is a little jealous. Leave them be. I have 4 that came at separate times and went thru the same issues. They all sleep in one big pile now 4 years later. Give them time.

Answer 4

The fact that they're femal does make a difference, females are a lot more temperamental than boys (much like humans), but also, the kitten is still probably very hyper and, well, kitten-like, she will grow up and begin to become playmates with your other cat. Spend an equal amount of time with both of them, spend some of your day with the baby, put her away at night to relieve stress from the 3-year-old and spend some time with her, that's what we did, and our cats are getting along fine, it should work

Answer 5

Keep the litter box in the same place so as not to confuse the cat. Keep putting the cat in the litter box many times a day. Most cats really catch on quickly. If that does not work place cat and litter box in a room for a few days.

Answer 6

You'll have to be patient. I'd suggest keeping them in seperate rooms and slowly introduce each other. Get them used to each other's scents. Give them some wet food on each side of the door that's seperating them so that they'll associate each other's scents with the positive experience of wet food. When I first got my second cat, my other cat did the same thing of hissing and being mean to him. After sometime without any help they did become friends.

And in the worse case scenario they may never get a long. Some cats just avoid each other and have sort of a truce. They'll never be buddies but at least they aren't out for blood. We have two cats though that hate each other and attack on sight. At all times we have to keep them in seperate rooms but they're happy with the arrangement and are careful to pay attention to both of them equally.

Answer 7

give more attention to your other cat...obviously she seems jealous of the kitty...and that can make things worse...dont force them to get along....it will make things worse...let time do everything...meanwhile...get some interactive toys for your new kitty...(get one for your other cat too...so he wont be jealous)...open the radio not too loud...

good luck...

you can make a little space for her...put a blanket or build a little shelter/house with cardboard....

Answer 8

i am getting alongside satisfactory with my youngest brother and that i leave out him plenty. my moment more youthful brother, nah. we've got continuously quarreled on the grounds that we had been youngsters, or even now we dont care approximately every different that a lot

Answer 9

i think you should take you kitten to the spca and they will find a home for it it wont be lonley there theres just around lets say at least 30 kittens in spcas