I've been going out with my girlfriend for almost 2 years. She loves me more than life itself. The only problem that I have is that I am only 22, and I really dont feel the same about her. I feel as tho she is holding me back from doing what I want. The one thing that is really bothering me is that I can't get my exgirlfriend out of my head. I dream about her all the time. What do I do about this? Do I break up with her and stay single, do I stay with the girl that loves me, or do I try to be with the girl of my dreams?
2006-11-05 09:27:20 · 15 answers · asked by Frank 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Always go for the girl of your dreams. Just make sure your dreams aren't just fantasies.
2006-11-05 09:32:17 · answer #1 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I am in the same situation. If you really loved this girl, then you would not think that SHE is holding YOU back. Love is blind. Of course you are going to still have feelings for her. I will give you some advise, write the names of the two girls on separate sides of a piece of paper. Then write all the pros and cons of the relationship. Then see what pros's are more than the others and who has more cons than the other one. The one with the most con's should give you an indication that the two of you are not meant to be. Take your time in doing this. Remember one little change can change your life and possibly someone Else's.
2006-11-05 09:33:23 · answer #2 · answered by unknown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frank: This is a perfect example of what's wrong with going steady and not dating around. Going "Steady" ties a person down and stifles their psychological and emotional growth. While you are young is the time to do different things - be in different places and "conquer" the world ! Now; since you are "shackled " by your girlfriends feelings for you, you are in the dilemma of either, cut free and hurt her or stay on and be miserable. There is time later, to have a steady relationship with a female called marriage. Why limit yourself ? Remember though; when you cast her aside, she is free to go with whoever, she chooses without any interference from you. You can also, try a "trial separation" - this is a gamble because that makes either one of you available for the "picking". Love has to be a two-way "street". In the event that you decide to "fly the coop", don't get back into another steady relationship immediately with another girl until you had your fill of conquests in the world. Each and every one of us has to expand and grow in their thinking , ( called maturity). I hope many of the people, who are reading this answer to your posting, can take a hit from it. Good luck to you !!!
2006-11-05 09:52:25 · answer #3 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you need to listen to your heart and obviously its saying move on. Even if you know your girlfriend loves you that doesn't mean anything if you don't feel the same way. You'll never be happy and it will only make things between yall weird (talking from experience). The best thing you can do is let her go and find what you want and need even if that is the girl of your dreams. You have to be happy to make someone happy. You might break her heart and ruin what yall have but if its not meant to be its just not meant to be. Listen to your heart and never lead someone on just becuz of their feelings cuz you have feelings too
2006-11-05 09:34:27 · answer #4 · answered by K@t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your girlfriend. Tell her that this relationship isn't working out for you. Sure, she will be hurt, but there's really no way of avoiding it if you don't feel the same about her. Then, try to be with the girl of your dreams. Life is too short to stay in pointless relationships. You have to take some risks.good luck
2006-11-05 09:34:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there are things you want to do, dreams you have, you should be single so you can devote your time to them. Anyone might hold you back this gf or the x gf. Be single and conquer your accomplishments first they are more important. You are young enough to date and worry about relationships say when your 28! Have fun God Bless!
2006-11-05 09:31:39 · answer #6 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to follow your heart because the later you tell the girl the more the girl will get hurt. If you stick to what your heart and mind is telling you and if it cofuses you stick to my advice: do the right thing and the right thing is to break up with her and maybe go back with your exgirlfriend. Try to be gentle with your girlfriend in breaking up with her. goodluck!
2006-11-05 09:42:28 · answer #7 · answered by Zashtaquir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all stay in touch with the exgirlfriend. if you want hint on trying to get back together but dont make it obvious. stay with the girl that loves you until your sure that your exgirlfriend might want you back to.
2006-11-05 09:31:33 · answer #8 · answered by jonwmcgown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is unfair for your girlfriend to feel that way about you and you don't feel the same way. And if you can't get you ex out of your mind, you should probably be with her!
Honestly, I like to know the truth... If you don't tell her then you'll just be cheating yourself and you girlfriend.
2006-11-05 09:33:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like your girlfriend break up with her,I mean hey you can't force love.Did you dump your ex or did she dump you?Try to go for your ex if you dumped her and see if she feels the same way still.Don't go after her if she dumps you because she doesn't like you anymore that's why she dumped you,ok?well.....good luck!
2006-11-05 09:35:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋