spanking-good or bad?

Question

I'm in college and I've got a speech to do and I'm going to do it on corporal punishment. i would just like to know some opinions, what people think about it? And if you don't agree with it, why and if you do agree with it, why? Thanks!!

Answer 1

I think spanking should be allowed as long as it isn't to the point where you actually leave a bruise or worse. I don't think it is right how society now blames parents for unruly children, but at the same time if they catch you trying to get your child under control and it involves a spank or what have you they say you are abusing your child.

Answer 2

Spare the rod and spoil the child;he that spareth the rod hateth the child ... probably not the exact words, but I guess you get the point. How many modern-day parents are so determined not to end up like their own whipping-obsessed parents that they fall totally on the over-lenient side of parenting? And how many of those kids end up in trouble, in jail, or dead? There is a wrong way to spanking, and there is a right way to spanking. The wrong way is to spank while you're pissed off, because that almost certainly leads to abuse; the right way is to keep a clear head (which of course is hard), to explain to the child at a level in which he/she understands why he/she is receiving this form of punishment, and then emphasize to the child how much you love him/her. Spanking should always be the last resort, after all other options are exhausted ... but it could ultimately serve to dissuade a possible juvenile detention horror story later on in life. Nine times out of ten, a child who knows that his or her parent will not spank under any circumstances will push the boundaries a little too much and cause a lot of problems with disrespect and rebellion. How do you suddenly handle a 15 year-old who has never had boundaries set, and who has increasingly tested his/her parents over the years? He/she will feel angry, insulted and incredulous if the parent all of a sudden flips out and attempts discipline when the child has already pretty much been raised without some form of physical discipline. That's when it gets down to screaming matches and fist-fighting between parent and child. Spanking at an early age is much more humane than boot camp discipline, prison abuse and execution later on.

Answer 3

Best wishes for your speech, and you picked a very touchy topic. I am middle ground on the issue. I don't think spanking is bad, and I do think that spanking can be used, but it varies from child to child. Some kids do better with lectures (in being reprominded) some do better with threats of a hated thing (such as ketchup) some kids have a high tolerance towards pain, so for spanking to be effective it would have to be applied borderline or crossed abuse. The best thing if for a parent to know their child and to use what works, be it "time outs" or spankings.

Answer 4

Spanking. Hm, I don't really agree with spanking. I will not spank my kids, instead I will give them a warning and if they disobey me I will stick them in a "naughty spot" for a time-out. I got spanked as a child and I am the oldest of five kids if my siblings would do something bad I would spank them, even though I was 10/12 years old; that's really not my place! I think spanking might teach kids that hitting people is ok. I see some kids spanking other kids for doing something wrong, but when they spank they do it with force. I just don't think it's necessary. Warnings, time-outs and privileges being taken away are enough. =]

Answer 5

I agree with spanking because I think it works. We do not spank our children all of the time but as a last resort. We have been told how well behaved our children are many times. I believe it is a parent's right to spank their own children within reason. I also believe that if more parents disciplined their children (with or without spanking), we wouldn't have as many bullies in the schools. Good luck on your speech.

Answer 6

I agree with disciplining your children, but not to the extreme, just enough to teach them manners and to respect other people.. otherwise I believe they can grow up to have no regard at all for society only for themselves ( which can make them have no empathy for others rights.. no conscious about right and wrong, just catering to their own whims.. ) Children need guidelines, encouragement and love.. otherwise they can become frustrated at what is expected of them, because they just don't know, they are too young to lead the adult obviously.. Love is in the form of letting your child know that you care by pulling them up when they go astray instead of letting them go which is easier for the parents sense of guilt but detrimental to the child's emotional well being.. I think they end up frustrated with life because they refuse to conform to the real world out there that always has some kind of rule, when they have grown up with none. I think the do gooders do not know how much damage this will cause down the track.. Discipline is not bashing, it is a smack on the backside when you are simply doing something wrong. Children really need their fathers if they can, but that is another story..
I found this link for your research.. good luck on your speech and be fair to both sides please as I feel this is particular subject is so terribly important ..

P.S. I have a 17yr old A student who is loved by many and a 10yr old who is also doing well and is a delight with her sunshiney nature..,both girls.. my husband and I have disciplined them the same with smacking within reason when needed..

also here is a link I found that could be of interest.. :)

Answer 7

Corporal punishment is defined as using physical pain to control the will of another person. How is spanking not corporal punishment?

Spanking = hitting...if you threaten to spank your children, say to them instead, if you don't stop making me angry, I will hit you. Now, say that to someone else and see how fast you get charges on assault. Why is it okay to hit children, and not other people? How will you explain that hypocrisy to your children? How will you stand there and watch your children hit your grandchildren?

How about having logical consequences available for your child's actions, rather than teaching them that might makes right? Discipline comes from the word disciple, meaning to mentor or teach someone to follow. Is that the path a child should follow? Instead, model for them peace and obedience, and watch them follow. Ephesians says "Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord."

Answer 8

The bible says "Spare the rod, spoil the child". I completely agree with spanking your children. I was wooped when I was a child and I do the same with my children. I do give them chances probably a little more than I should. If they don't listen the first time then the second is when they get it. Discipline is an essential part of developement. Young childrens capacity to listen to you just talk and tell what they did wrong is not that good.

Answer 9

I don't think spanking is too good. Talking to the child has better effects. I got spanked when I was a child, in front of other people too. It's embarrassing, degrading, and has long lasting effects to the mental and emotional being. It is a sort of violence making a child think it's ok to hit others. It makes them feel like a peice of crap.

Answer 10

people say that spanking is bad..but i think its good...coming from central america we never even knew what being grrounded was...but we got a spanking..you could always throw in that statistic about most the people that go to jail were never spanked and people who were spanked grew up to become dr's, judges,teacher's, etc... i mean i hated being spanked but i'm glad it happened because it helps to teach you right from wrong..i mean lets face it you can talk to a child until you're blue in the face it doesn't mean that they'll listen... and eventually they stop believing empty threats..if you show them once...usually they start believing you and have a higher level of respect for you..other wise you get walked all over!