I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months, he has been an excellent father to my son. Up until a month ago we had never had an arguement. We argued over his mother and money going to her) After that nothing has been the same. We had a small argurment about 2 weeks ago over the same thing. 2 days ago he said he has been thinking about breaking up with me for a whole week and he iddnt know how to tell me. So the next day he moved o his mothers house and now he wants to star the relationship all over again. Things to take into consideration: He is really stressed out about not being able to study with my son (he has a big training coming up on monday for days) he has told me he doenst want any responsibilities right now. So right now im really hurting because I just feel worthless, He has been the most wonderful man Ive ever had, respectful, good father... all up until now, i told i would start over again becasue he has been good but this hurts!!!
2006-11-05 09:01:56 · 3 answers · asked by acostafamily305 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He doesnt want to go back to me, all he wants to do is be with me but live with his mother. His training is a real hard certification he is studying for and is not completely ready. He used to live with me up until he told me this, 2 days ago. the next day he was gone. he has been calling me everyday and being fairly nice. But how can I can get used to that. I was already living with him. My best friend who doesnt know him I told him the whole story says I need to give him some time to realize what he wants.
2006-11-05 09:27:05 · update #1
He's not ready or willing to have the kind of relationship you are looking for. Don't allow his insecurities to become your problem and certainly don't allow his actions or behavior to influence your self worth or self value. If he truly wanted to be with you and develop a relationship with you and your child things like his mother and money would be attributes not hinderances. If he is the biological father then encourage a relationship with your son, if not, then your son needs to be your first priority. Don't confuse him or deprive him of 100% of his mother because of an ex. Your priorities and loyalties are to your son and your sons' mother. Don't give anyone emotional power over either of you. Your ex does'nt want to commit to you, accept it and move on. There's a better and more deserving man out there for you, but you won't find him if you waste your time and emotions on this guy.
2006-11-07 15:02:35 · answer #1 · answered by big dawg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no perfect relationship even if you are married to him. And since he is just a boyfriend he has no permanent commitment to you. Why does he want to go back to you after leaving you ? I think he is a mama's boy. What he means with responsibility is taking care of you and your child by another man. Why does he want to go back to you . Are you supporting him ? I understand he is still studying.
2006-11-05 17:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm... seems to me that he needs to grow-up and you shouldn't make excuses for anyone thats going to hurt you and leave you hangin
2006-11-05 17:09:26 · answer #3 · answered by common sense 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋