When I was 2 my father was the most enjoyable thing in my life including my mother and sister. My father was a true man named herby jr. but bad things happened. He smoked witch he had done for along time. He got his 2 kids sick all the time and the one girl now suffers from asthma. He had very bad coughing problems. Seen that he smoked he lotes of fluid in his lungs. in 1996 he passed away and went to jessus because he had brain cancer and at the time there was no cure for that. So jessus took him away from us. He left his two little girls alone including his wife. As i got older aroung the age of 5 i new he died but i didnt understand it very much. Now i am 13 and i have depresstion over my dad.
HOW WILL I GET OVER THIS DEPRESSTION AND SADNESS( i dont want to get help i only want help from this web-sight not a doctore os shrink.
Please help me im in danger!!!!!!!!?????
2006-11-05 08:37:56 · 10 answers · asked by Tiffany F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do things that if your dad were alive he would be proud of. Then when you accomplish something, for example get an A on a test, secretly say to yourself that you are doing it for him. You miss having a father figure, so find someone, like a big brother to talk to. This may help you even more than doctors or shrinks.
2006-11-05 08:42:26 · answer #1 · answered by Ofie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you are in pain i say you need to let it go i mean all the feelings hindering you like him not being ther for you and so fourth if you believe and look at it the right wayyou will undedrstand he was always there watching over you. His blood runs within yours and im sure he loved you parents try to do right by their children but it is not always possible and they have regrets too
My father is to this day an alcoholic although he still drinks i belive he knows how much he hurt us over the years and these are the things that make us stronger and make us who we are
so if you are blaming your father you should be thanking him for making you a strong person who can get through almost anything if you can survive growing up without him you can survive anything
cheer up you have what it takes to go far in life talking is the first step and having the courage to talk is a fantastic trait good luck in all you do
2006-11-05 09:17:43 · answer #2 · answered by crystal s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their are group sessions at hospital or churches of children that had a parent die. You really need to get help your so young and right now is the most critical time in your life with your hormones and peer pressure going on. You never really got to mourn your father's death and now your hurting over that. Talk to a counselor or if you can talk to your mom. God bless and good luck.
2006-11-05 08:44:10 · answer #3 · answered by bribri1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you want to get over this depression it might take a while do to the fact that yur maturing and your a girl and girls are senitive to things but you always have to remember one thing god loves you no matter what he is your friend jesus is to. so you cant go thrugh thisthe rest of your lifeyou need to move on you need to have a goal in life all i can say is keep going that yellow brick road of life dont call for glinda all the time beacause eventule some day when you might need that help she wont be there an dyou need ot be self relinte and remember you always have friends going with you down the yellow brick road of life ,but if you dont have courage to go down the yellow brick road and with out it yoru an easy target for the www so always have courage .
2006-11-05 10:22:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you in danger?
By all means feel sad for your Dad going to be with Jesus, but also be happy that he made you and that you made him happy by being born.
I would think that to see you and your sister come into the world was probably the proudest moment of his life, and if he is watching over you he would be very upset that you are sad.
Grieve for your father, but also live for him. He had hopes and aspirations for you too, you know.
2006-11-05 08:43:24 · answer #5 · answered by steven b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A website isn't going to give you closure or help for dealing with your father's death. The person you need to speak with is your mother and family. I don't think you necessarily need a shrink for it, you just need a friend to talk to. I know how hard it is to lose a parent (my dad died when I was 9). I became depressed and developed an eating disorder because of it (I couldn't talk to my mom because she hated my father... long story). Anyhoot, find someone to talk to while you're still young. If you're really depressed, you may need a doctor, but talking to a psychologist is impersonal to me. When I had to go to one, I didn't open up to her. We just spoke about her dating life. lol
2006-11-05 08:42:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh wow. i'll totally pray for you. you can email if you need someone to talk to. the only way you can get over it is after time. each morning, when you wake up, think to yourself "do i want this to be a good day or a bad day?" and each decision you make, think "do i want to be positive about this or negative?"
2006-11-05 08:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by nameisie90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes things like this are bigger than yahoo answers can give you. sometimes maybe talking to your mom or close family about how you feel can help, don't hold all the sadness inside you, cause it will hurt you and eat you up inside..
2006-11-05 08:42:34 · answer #8 · answered by goodlookin.mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need grief counseling in a group with others who are also needing to grieve. Ask your minister, or teacher or a a relative or friend. It is normal, you need to grieve.
2006-11-05 08:44:15 · answer #9 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must make pease with it first ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,it is not easy
2006-11-05 08:41:26 · answer #10 · answered by amberharris20022000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋