What would you do if you and your fiance was walking into a store
with you daughter and futuer mother-in-law and Two girls pass by
and tell your fiance hi, knowing that your standing next to him? Also the girl thats calling him by his name was his EX- girl-friend.
would you ignore it or would you think that was disrespectful of her?
2006-11-05 08:12:57 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He has cheated before, at one time we
were homeless and stayed at a hotel
and when I got back a girl was in the room,
If they weren't diong anything then why did
she jump out the bathroom window?
2006-11-05 08:41:17 · update #1
He has cheated before, at one time we
were homeless and stayed at a hotel
and when I got back a girl was in the room,
If they weren't diong anything then why did
she jump out the bathroom window?
2006-11-05 08:41:36 · update #2
Eeeks that sucks. First of all the cheating is DISRESPECTFUL.. I think the ex saying hi is pretty rude too, but its the ex you have to expect that kind of stuff from them... your fiance should have said... hey you remember my fiance... and introduced you, that way it put you in the power and the ex is left looking and feeling stupid... you need to talk to your fiance and let him know that he has messed up in the past and you forgave him, but he has to really step it up in situations like that. Whenever a girl comes up to talk to him in front of you, make sure he knows to introduce you and don't be shy make sure you make your presence known to those mean girls. You have chose to stay with your fiance even though he has cheated so its up to you to make sure he knows you will not put up with cheating or disresting from other females.... don't worry he will never let that happen again after you have a talk.
2006-11-05 10:06:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay calm down, it's understandable that you are a bit traumatised after that whole bathroom window experience, but it's okay for his ex to say hi- just so long as she's not coming back to his house to continue the greetings! You need to talk to your husband, clearly there are a lot of unresolved issues here. It's important you do this before the wedding, because you are going to need to decide whether you trust the man you're about to marry. Good Luck :)
2006-11-05 09:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by jemm4president 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all they did was say "Hi" to him what's the big deal?
IF you are secure in your relationship with your fiance then you shouldn't be concerned with his past relationships. The past is the past. Besides saying hello to someone you know is common courtesy. Did she do anything else to make you feel threatened?
Even if there was an attitude in her "Hello", if you believe in your relationship and your fiance why are you worried?
His mother I doubt was worried about a woman saying hello to her son, even if she knew it was an ex-girlfriend.
If you don't know the answer to any of these questions, or are even for a second questioning your relationship then please seek out marriage counseling. Don't enter into a marriage with these kind of underlying issues, it will only lead down the path of mistrust and possibly divorce.
2006-11-05 08:33:20 · answer #3 · answered by Angy FFRTFC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being waaaaay too sensitive here.
I've been in a similar situation and here's how I handled it. I made a point of moving away from my guy so that he'd feel comfortable talking with his ex and to let him know I wasn't threatened by it.
And I didn't ask him about it later either.
Do you feel confident about his loyalty to you? If so, I'd think you'd recognize you aren't the only woman who's ever been in his life. He does not need to pretend that previous relationships didn't exist. He also can be cordial with his ex without that meaning anything about your relationship.
2006-11-05 08:21:44 · answer #4 · answered by Pat D 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To be honest I wouldnt think anything of it- he is marrying me- not them. Now if there was something sneaky about it, then yeah I might question him, but otherwise, I wouldnt worry about it. Some girls are just rude like that and there isnt anything you can do about it.
Take it by his reaction- if he looks nervous or over anxious to shoo you inside, then yeah there might be a problem, but if he said " Hi Mary, this is my Fiance Jane", then no problem there.
2006-11-05 08:42:08 · answer #5 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, you dont want to look silly in front of your future mother in law, and you dont want your daughter to see a confrontation, so in that instance I would have just smiled and held my head up after all she's the ex and you are the future Mrs. you've already won. Now it was disrespectful of her and childish which could be a reason she's an ex, she's immature.
2006-11-05 08:23:00 · answer #6 · answered by Stormy Waters 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop, breathe and now take a deep breath.
Smile, you are the fiance, not either of them.
But this happens.....even to married women...so figure out how you wish to handle it...keep smiling...and remember you are your own person. You can still smile...regardless of who speaks to your fiance, husband, children, parents, friends....and whoever...got that....you still are you....and no one can ever take your self-respect from your own self...so keep smiling.
Who acts respectful or disrespectful is not up to you....only you can control you!
And I think you're doing just fine.......Happy Wedding!
2006-11-05 08:23:26 · answer #7 · answered by May I help You? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they said hi in a quick way and kept going, I wouldn't care. If they said hi in a flirtatious way, I'd be mildly annoyed, but I wouldn't find it worthy of making a scene. If they stopped your fiance and engaged in a conversation, making no attempt to introduce themselves to you, and in fact being rude to you, I'd find it disrespectful, but I'd step up and introduce myself (if my man hadn't already made an introduction).
Bottom line: you cannot control who your fiance dated previous to meeting you, nor can you control these women's actions. You can, however, decide that they are not worth worrying about, and move on. Life's too short to waste time worrying about inconsequential people.
2006-11-05 08:31:45 · answer #8 · answered by nosleepthree 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was she who he cheated with? If not then just let it be. He chose you over her for a reason. I know from experience this is easier said than done. If she is the one who he cheated with then I'd be suspicious.
2006-11-05 13:26:53 · answer #9 · answered by spacedchic00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, they apparently have a past and that's something you're going to have to realize if you are going to be in a relationship. As long as your fiancee isn't doing lunches and telephone conversations with his ex don't worry about it. After all, he's marrying you, isn't he?
2006-11-05 08:25:46 · answer #10 · answered by Aubrey's mommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋