I have been married for a month and am 7 months pregnant. My husband left for basic training November 1st. Ever since he left I have felt like we're broken up even though everything was fine before he left. I am also feeling insecure that he will find someone else in the Air Force. I know a guy who just graduated Tech school that did. I have never felt insecure with my husband before. He has always made me feel like I was the only one he wanted. He even worked with nothing but girls before he left and I didn't feel the way I do now. But now not having talked to him it makes me feel like this. I know that I won't recieve a letter for probably another couple of days. But I want to know if anyone thinks that my feelings are vaild and if anyone else has experienced this? Any help would be appreciated.
2006-11-05 08:01:36 · 9 answers · asked by Mark and Allie 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
We do have a strong relationship which is why this is so confusing for me. We have always been able to communicate so well and have faith and trust in each other. I think it could possibly be the pregnancy hormones messing with me and the fact that my friends boyfriend just did this to her. It still bothers me a lot, it feels like a peice of me is missing. I know it's only temporary which is why these emotions are so confusing!
2006-11-05 08:17:44 · update #1
Trust me, he wont be fooling around during basic training. They do a good job at keeping the guys and girls seperate. Plus, there's no time. I married my husband right before I left for basic. (he's a civilian). I was soooo worried he'd cheat on me while I was gone. And he was so worried I would cheat on him while I was in training.
You have nothing to worry about. Now, as far as tech school. He moved to Texas to be there while I was in tech school. Yes, a lot of people cheated while there. They are horny ( 6 and 1/2 weeks without sex can do that) plus, thre is more freedom in tech school than basic training. If you can move to where he is having tech school, I would. I'm not saying he'd cheat if you don't. But it was very helpful for us. But it was the WORST time ever for us. Tech school is designed to test your ability to deal with more stupid and pointless tasks to evaluate your ability to deal with stress.
If you want more info on what it's like for him during basic training I can give you all the details and tell you what his day is like. You can e-mail or IM me. I hope this helped.
Congrats on being pregnant
2006-11-05 09:28:44 · answer #1 · answered by ur a Dee Dee Dee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-12 08:26:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is worriesome because it sounds like you guys have a poor foundation. A strong relationship would not bring about these kinds of feelings. However, it could be the fact that he can have no contact at this point that is causing these feelings. You have nothing to worry about at this point. He is in Basic. His time is totally accounted for. He is nowhere near the opposite sex. He is told when to eat, sleep, etc. He may not write or call but that is because he won't have much for free time and when he does get it he may just want to chill for a few minutes. So, don't be too hard on him. His life sucks right now...big time! The best thing you can do is be supportive. If he does find a chance to call, don't whine or nag at him on the phone. He doesn't need to hear it right now. He just needs your support and to know you are missing him because he is missing home in a big way.
Tech school is different. Can't you move to wherever he is for tech school? He'll have more freedoms and since you are married he should be able to move you with him. This isn't always the case but it does happen. It did with us.
I think you are worried for nothing. You are insecure and I'm not sure why but a strong relationship of trust would not bring about these feelings...not matter how far away your husband is. What will you do when he is deployed?!
Just relax and be there for him.
2006-11-05 08:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by Amelia 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey! My boyfriend is in the air force, he just finished basic training! I rarely talked to him.. and felt insecure as well.. things like ..he would find another girl too. But instead to my surprise when he saw me at his graduation from basic training he said that he thought about me the entire time, and cared about me more than ever. He said that he was sorry for any pain he caused in the past, and that he sees things a lot differently. I think your pregnancy is getting in the way of your emotions! and you will be fine! believe me he is def. thinking about you constantly! need any help you can talk to me! :) hope everything works out well!
2006-11-05 09:38:12 · answer #4 · answered by janelli057 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I had that feeling before. I am a male but my gf isn't in any air force. She went back to her hometown in China and I had this anxious feeling that she would be with another guy.
It turns out that it was all in my head. She was so faithful to me. So don't worry!
2006-11-05 08:04:57 · answer #5 · answered by Webballs 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hey there, i understand where you are coming from. but you have to realize that this is the whole point of basic training. the point is to cut all recruits off from the outside world its part of the training concept. but needless to say it will be over soon. and depending on how long his tech school is you might be able to go with him to live there... but if not at tech school, you defenitely will be able to live with him at his duty station. just hang in there... you will be alrite.
2006-11-05 08:08:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all boils down to trust.. do you or do you not trust him? don't compare what someone else did, only base your feelings on what you know about your husband. besides, being a boyfriend is NOT the same level of commitment as a spouse.
2006-11-05 11:01:26 · answer #7 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is in training and cannot talk to you right now. I'm sure this is a choice you both made so now you must live with his absence while he is in the serivce.
2006-11-05 08:12:07 · answer #8 · answered by Gettin_by 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have a strong relationship then all will be good. Congrats and welcome to the Air Force family!
2006-11-05 09:03:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋