I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we are really happy and in love. We have been talking about the future, marriage, children etc and I can honestly say he is the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with.
He has been talking about getting married in September 2007 and said that he wanted to get married a year before... which isn't possible now as we are only looking at 11 months to go.
I believe that he is serious about getting engaged but part of me is disappointed that he hasn't proposed already and part of me is scared incase he doesn't.
He is a typical guy in that he doesn't give much information away - am I worrying over nothing?
2006-11-05 07:13:40 · 7 answers · asked by Miss Money P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Sorry I meant get engaged a year before getting married!
2006-11-05 07:14:46 · update #1
Here's another thought, if my guy was talking about wedding plans when he hasn't asked me yet, I personally would deflect his musings by saying we can make all kinds of exciting plans AFTER you propose and we are engaged. Basiclly refuse in a cuddly way to talk about wedding plans until then. You can always slip in ideas of HOW you'd like to be purposed to, what kind of setting, people, or type of ring. Gauge his response, if you still think he is putting you off, confront and face the issue to obtain the honesty you need and deserve.
2006-11-05 07:26:25 · answer #1 · answered by ♀♥☼ alycat☼♥♀ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you're going through because I have the same situation on my hands. I really think we just need to relax and trust that it will happen for us when the time is right. We really don't want someone to ask us to spend the rest of our lives with them just because we keep bugging them do we? However I don't want to wait much longer either. Asking someone to spend the rest of their life with you is a very serious thing. For us women it has been something we've dreamed about all our lives, so we're not quite as scared as the men are. Personally I think the more you talk about it, the more comfortable he'll get with the whole engaged to be married thing. Relax, he probably just hasn't come up with the perfect sweep you off your feet proposal yet. Don't give up on him, you've hung in there this long. Good luck!
2006-11-05 16:13:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my fiance for 4 1/2 years. We have been talking about marraige for the past year but nothing really came about it. One day we sat down and he said I could start to plan the wedding, but no "formal" question was popped. It was just a mutual decision that we knew we were going to be together forever. He really didnt mind if I started the planning then or now, as it is going to happen irregardless. I also didnt mind at first about not being formally asked because we had the discussion and knew it was going to happen- that and i was given the go ahead on the planning.
I say sit him down and talk about it. If a year is too soon for you to be married, for financial reasons or whatever, then let him know that you want to push it out a bit so you can get your ducks in a row. If he is waiting to get up enough money for ring before he formally asks you, but still says plan- do it.
good luck!
2006-11-05 16:20:40 · answer #3 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay don't stresss... its coming!!! Your BF knows you and he knows that your stressing right this second... he doesn't want to give it away. I was in the same boat, my bf, well fiance now, we used to talk about getting married and he knew I wanted to have a year engagment. I wanted an april or may wedding.... and so I figuered he would propose before that.... but he didn't he actually left me with only 11 months do prepare for the wedding, because he knew that I was expecting it. He waited because he wanted to suprise me... don't worry he just wants to make it special.. DOn't stress and hey... maybe you'll only have 10 months to plan... but that will be plenty of time. Congrats,,, its going to happen.
2006-11-05 16:07:43 · answer #4 · answered by totallylovableandinlove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been with him for three years and marriage is what you want, quit waiting. Ask him!
2006-11-05 15:17:16 · answer #5 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he is still paying off the ring
2006-11-05 15:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just think he wants to wait intil you least expect it. dont rush it good things come to those who wait yall gone have yall whole lives to spend together. so dont worry hell ask you just contiune to hold on to your man.
2006-11-05 16:02:29 · answer #7 · answered by take it or leave it 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋