k, so my boyfriend gets this call from a ***** that i hate cuz her and her friends don't think we're good together (wtf), she invites him to a wedding like as her date, **** that. and I am specifically not invited!! and so he went!! **** that. he should have token a stand to these so-called friends and tell them that if i'm not invited then he's not going! BUT NOOOOOOO his ******* dumb *** went!! and he has NO clue why i might be upset!!! help me please what can i say to explain to him how hurt i am!!
2006-11-05 06:52:03 · 22 answers · asked by jacinda_44 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
k, so my boyfriend gets this call from a ***** that i hate cuz her and her friends don't think we're good together (wtf), she invites him to a wedding like as her date. and I am specifically not invited!! and so he went!! . he should have taken a stand to these so-called friends and tell them that if i'm not invited then he's not going! BUT NOOOOOOO his dumb butt went!! and he has NO clue why i might be upset!!! help me please what can i say to explain to him how hurt i am!!
2006-11-05 07:25:40 · update #1
just tell him the truth. but just stay calm, and don't yell when you tell him. it'll only make things worse if you yell. and for the people that say "dump him," unless you hate the guy, don't dump him over this. relationships are gonna have their problems, everyone's does. some people give up too easy and you just have to learn how to work them out. good luck!
2006-11-05 06:55:18 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi jacinda 4, Well for starters...please "gate the profanity"! Your point will come across in a "mature" manner, which will be taken more "seriously". Sometimes, I write out my feelings as if I were going to send "this person" a letter. Then, I sort out the good/bad stuff. Next, I would gather my thoughts and have your boyfriend come over and have a "calm" sit-down (heart-to-heart). Simply ask him, "How would you feel if I did this to you with some guy you despised?". If he says, "I wouldn't care!", or something along those lines...then "I" suspect he's either lying or simply doesn't care about your feelings. If that's the case, then he's not worthy of your love and affection. I love the saying, "Once bitten, Twice shy". Good Luck! XOXO Moonpie
2006-11-05 07:03:35 · answer #2 · answered by Metallicamoon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a guy's point of view, he's either really, really dumb - in which case why are you with him - or he's just playing dumb. He probably knew you would be upset but went anyway, and is playing dumb as an excuse because he doesn't want to admit he purposefully did something that would hurt you. He knows why you're upset, he just doesn't care. Harsh to say, but it's probably the truth.
Probably he secretly agrees with his friends. Sounds like the relationship is headed nowhere, and if you don't want to get dumped soon you better beat him to the punch.
2006-11-05 06:57:49 · answer #3 · answered by τεκνον θεου 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
might you call your mum and dad idiots? might you call your infants idiots? Why is it okay to call your boyfriend an fool - regardless of if it relatively is basically in a playful way? i think of it relatively is the main stupid situation every person can do - under the conceal of being "playful" - is to call one yet another a popularity this is demeaning and degrading to the single receiving that remark. Its downplays that individual's ability to reason and likewise that individual's intelligence. the two you're asserting it to be sneaky and particularly advise it, or you're asserting it to make exciting of persons who're much less smart than you and reinforcing that act and behaviour via labeling one yet another this via what you do in a mocking jest and comic tale. i do no longer approve of it, and via your asking this question - i think of your boyfriend did no longer the two. this is disrespectful, and it makes the different "severe" be conscious, no longer severe - and the excuse might then be, "it relatively is basically to be playful / it relatively is basically for exciting." How unfair might that be? no longer each and every thing is exciting and video games.
2016-10-15 10:08:11 · answer #4 · answered by spates 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your an idiot, your just in love., and sometimes when we're in love we stay with people until we realize that their never going to change.Since he want to act like he don't know why your mad then just come out and tell him that you feel disrespected and if your not welcomed then he shouldn't be either because you all are one--and if he can't except that then maybe you two don't need to be together because that means he doesn't care about your feelings.
2006-11-05 06:59:47 · answer #5 · answered by mrspolish56 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he choose her over you
and he'll do it again and again if you don't stop it
you need to set ground rules
and MAYBE take a break
but also keep in mind that thats what that other girl wants!
She and her friends want you and him to break up
so just say I was really hurt when you did that! It seems to me that you choose her over me! It is either ME or HER! You choose!
Good luck!
2006-11-05 06:59:27 · answer #6 · answered by gingerg50 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are upset cause you are being not invited because of your wedding.Was it your wedding you are really going on a date.
2006-11-05 06:58:30 · answer #7 · answered by precede2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You call him a boy friend, my question is what does he call you? have you ever thought that he does not think you are his girl friend, and with a mouth and attitude like yours I would not be surprised if that is exactly how he feels. You are what give women a bad name
2006-11-05 06:57:32 · answer #8 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need to explain to him why you are so hurt? He already knows it and doesn't care. Why is your boyfriend an idiot?....Why do girls make themselves door mats and allow themselves to be walked all over. Go get yourself another guy, the game has just begun!
2006-11-05 06:55:11 · answer #9 · answered by Barbara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him as it is, you were hurt that he went on some sort of date with some people you really dislike.
2006-11-05 06:55:29 · answer #10 · answered by banana man234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋