I have been in a committed relationship with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. I have two wonderful daughters from a previous relationship which he is very good with. It was my oldest daughter's birthday this weekend, and my boyfriend never even gave her a card. In fact, he has never bought them anything ever, not for Christmas, their birthdays. The odd time he will take us out for supper but honestly I treat him for meals more often and quite often have him over for supper. I've always tried to look past his frugleness but after two years, I would have liked to have seen him accept my children and treat them as his own.
It is not because he doesn't have money - he use to make twice as much as I do and I still would pay for most of our meals out, groceries, etc. Now that he's gone back to school, finances may be a little tighter and I understand that, but not even a card???
2006-11-05 06:42:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow! After 2 years, he should get something for your kid's birthday. It is courtesy and respect! I think if he took your relationship seriously, and wanted to get it to a higher level, he would be bending over backwards to get your kids on board. Stingy is one thing, but not being thoughtful is quite another.
2006-11-05 06:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he worth it? Are your kids happy where they are if their "Dad" doesn't even care enough about them to buy them a birthday card.
Haven't you seen the movies about how the bf & gf love eachother, so the step is nice to the kids while their birth parent is around, but bully them when they're NOT around?
This might be the situation you and your daughters are in, ask them privately if they are really happy, but tell them that no matter what they can tell you what's happening
Tell them if they're being threatened not to tell you what's really going on, that you are their mother, and will always protect them.
The odds of them being threatened that way are 1 in a million, but if they seem sad or scared, it's smart!
And to answer your question, he's both and he's SOOO not worth it
2006-11-05 07:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather have my boyfriend buy my children nothing and treat them well, than to have him buy them everything and treat them like crap.
It's not what you do, but how you do it that matters in the end. As long as he is good to your kids, you should care less about what him buys them. Material things last as long as they're into them, good relationships lasts forever.
2006-11-05 06:50:14 · answer #3 · answered by sleepingbeauty123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your boyfriend is JUST cheap, probably always has been and always will be.I do not see him ever giving of his own free will to you or anyone unless a huge fuss is made each and every time, and then he will buy the peace, but not ever before
2006-11-05 06:46:31 · answer #4 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cards cost two dollars. This guy has nothing in his heart for your children.
I don't want to date a women with children. But if I did, I would find it very hard not to go overboard to make a child happy.
You owe you kids more than to have a guy around who feels nothing for them.
2006-11-05 06:51:34 · answer #5 · answered by hankthecowdog 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Lol, thank you for that. you have gotten situation merchandising him as there's a glut of those on the marketplace on the 2nd. you need to purpose including somewhat grubby photograph of a few b*mbo as an incentive. sturdy success
2016-10-15 10:07:52 · answer #6 · answered by spates 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happened to your first "relatiohship?" And what does this man have to do with your daughters? The whole thing sounds like another typical unwise and unbright scenario of this day and age.
2006-11-05 06:46:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
because u have been paying for his meals and stuff....you have spoiled him....he sounds like a cheapskate....kick him outta the door....find someone who won't take advantage of you....someone who will care for you and your kids.
ps: if you ever go to a restaurant with him again...just make sure to ask him to pay for his own meal for a change.
2006-11-05 06:49:25 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥♥GODDESS♥♥♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop letting your kids get away with everything. He probably resents them BC of how you treat them. But he's a cheapskate bc u let him be and settled for it, hope u dumped his butt.
2015-08-12 07:53:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yours may be mines was and i dummped him yeterday, and he is rich, ha thats just plai selfish, but in school he may have alot on his mind when the love and money is gone, its gone ! dont let a card ruin your future.
2006-11-05 06:48:54 · answer #10 · answered by constance b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋