ok im very excited my baby brother (hes really only a year and half younger but he is the baby of the family) is coming home for two weeks at the beginning of December. He has been in Japan for nearly a year and a half he will be here for two weeks then he is shipping out to Iraq, hes a Marine. The problem is that whenever Matt comes home we fight, usually the first week is great we get along, hang out, talk, but after that everything turns into a brawl, for my parents sake i want to avoid this at all cost, the thing is, is that we both have very bad tempers when invoked, it runs in the family. i need advice on how to control my temper even when his runs out of control, its bound to happen it always does.
any advise is welcome
2006-11-05 06:36:06 · 8 answers · asked by Shorty 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Try to find activities both of you like. With distraction, chances are that you won't start arguing. Look at some photos of you when you were little. Go out double dating. I dunno. Do stuff together but make sure those things won't confront you. If you want your parents to be ok, and he doesn't do his part, then you do yours. Humor him and try not to fight. After he leaves you can curse and hit a sand bag if you need to... Good luck.
2006-11-05 06:42:38 · answer #1 · answered by Horumaket 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all i really support what ur brother does in Iraq (too many ppl take it for granted)...try thinking of things that u 2 can do so that u'll have stuff to do that way there will b no time to fight...also if u end up fighting try talking about it in a calm rational manner...ask ur parents for advise too...and when he really makes u mad u should separate for an hour or so...blog all ur frustration in a journal. i know how u feel cos my brothers can annoy me sometimes too...but they're the brothers we get and we don't get any others... good luck!!
2006-11-05 07:02:03 · answer #2 · answered by dharma gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a brother a year and a half younger too.We were like that for a long time,both explosive. Check what triggers him and try to avoid it and when he does start to get riled then exit away from him quietly.
2006-11-05 06:50:32 · answer #3 · answered by cybefree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever you feel a temper coming on, just ciunt to 10 and take deep breaths.
2006-11-05 06:40:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to make jokes out of the situations that you can both laugh at..turn the situation into a joke or just change the subject, you'll have to hold yourself back a bit though.
2006-11-05 06:49:54 · answer #5 · answered by Aaron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you start to lose your temper, stop and think about the fact that you may never see your brother again! He may end up giving his life to protect our freedom! I surely hope he doesn't but you wouldn't want the last thing you said to him to be in anger!
2006-11-05 06:40:33 · answer #6 · answered by rebecca_sld 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he probably doesn't want to fight either. how about you 2 come up with a secret phrase or word to say when buttons are being pushed too much so you can signal that someone needs to back off.
2006-11-05 06:39:59 · answer #7 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
count to then and breath very deep
when he will say something to piss you off you just say to your self.
i have to shut up ! he wont be home for a while i have to shut up !
or something....or go somewhere a long walk perhaps, that will do the trick !
good luck !
by the way i know just how you feel and these advice works for me !
good luck !
2006-11-05 07:49:17 · answer #8 · answered by Pavel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋