im not a mean person and ive never had said anything nasty to her she just really hates me and i dunno why?my husband wants me to get along with her and when i went to her resturant to apoligize 4 whatever i had done to her. she cussed me out in the middle of the reaturant asking why r you here!!your not who i think you are! you better turn around and walk out that door!!
like i tryed and she is like a child and just a really nasty person my husband has no other family but in my opionion no family is better than the way she treats him. she calls him only when she needs him to clean her car, or fix sumthing.
and like everytime he gos over their he doesent stand up for me and she trys to get him to leave me and move in with her daughter or stay the night.and it just bothers me i dunno what to do?
im not a mean person at all so why does she hate me so much? and its makeing our realationship not bad but we argue over the same thing constantly, his step mom
how should i hadle this?
2006-11-05 06:33:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Be strong and bold. Tell her you are not going to take it anymore, and tell your husband that also! Why does she want your husband to move in with her daughter, does she want them to be together? That could be why she doesn't like you.
You really need to sit your husband down & tell him YOU are his family, & that if he doesn't do something about his stepmother he is going to lose you.
2006-11-05 06:59:19 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She a crazy women with an agenda.
1. You don't have to get along with her.
2. Tell that to your hubby...it is not possible.
3. He should be standing by YOU! Not her.
4. What hold does she have over him that he wants you to get along with this witch? There has to be a reason for that kind of thinking. What is he hiding?
5. No family is better than her.
6. Her agenda is she wants him for her daughter?? Sounds like it.
7. If things don't change...leave them all...you are in the way of their plans anyway. Proof being he does not stand by you. This is a highly dysfunctional, ignorant family you have here.
2006-11-05 06:48:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just keep my distance from her. You are pregnant and you don't need the additional stress. Think about yourself and that baby.
How I would handle it...I would let her know she is disrespectful of you and you NOT put up with it. Sure she sounds like she'll freak out but only because she isn't used to being stood up to.
She sounds like one of the 'evil mother-in-laws I always hear about.
Mine was bad and I told her what I thought. You just have to remember that no one is going to stand up for you better than you.
Keep her away for a while. Enjoy your life and your family. Just because you married her 'step-son' she has no right treating you or anyone else like that.
never apologies for something you don't even know what it is and thicken up your skin as to what she may say about you. Let her see that it doesn't bother you at all if you really want to get to her.
I wish you the best with BABY and the evil villain...
~T~
2006-11-05 06:41:53 · answer #3 · answered by ~*bUtteRFy~*~kISSeS*~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all your husband needs to start standing up for you and his child, I mean is she going to be mean to your child because YOU are the one having the child. You need to get your husband to understand that this is really bothering you and it hurts you, and for him to please be there for you. I am sure that he feels some kind of obligation to her, she is the step-mom and if she raised him then he probably feels like he owes her something. you didn't mention his dad, is he still in the picture? And if he is he (your husband) is feeling like he has to respect the step-mom because that his is dads wife. I think you also need to stand up for yourself and not be so nice to this woman tell her exactly how you feel and ask her why she treats you so badly, make sure your husband is there when you do this so he can hear what she has to say. Maybe if he sees what you see then hopefully he will defend you, if not this marraige is going to fail because of the step mom and your husband not beinig a man.
2006-11-05 06:47:23 · answer #4 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's his step mom and he isn't sticking up for u.If I have this right then u need to really have a talk with your husband. Plus stay away from her.Don't go to any of her social gatherings and tell your husband that u would like him to stay home with u.Make up your ill if u have to.Do whatever u can to keep both of u away from her.Before she really messes up your marriage. Did u ever find out what u did to make her so mad? If u did then don't do it anymore.Stay away at least untill u have your baby. Good luck
2006-11-05 06:45:49 · answer #5 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is to stay away from her let her come to you. If she does not, just go on like she does not exist. Don't argue with you husband about it . That will only push the two of you apart. You know things like this have a way of working themselves out.She will probably need you for something that will bring the two of you together.
2006-11-05 06:41:41 · answer #6 · answered by Sugar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are calling your husband stepmother and father the only family he has, he doesn't have a family if this is the way the stepmother act. Why can't his dad and your husband put a stop to it? If they don't tell all three to kiss your- - - and get out of Dodge.
2006-11-05 07:04:45 · answer #7 · answered by bettys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who you need to talk to is your husband. Tell him that you are his wife, and you have done nothing to this woman. And that he does not have the guts to defend you. And that you think it be best for you to distance your self from her, since she does not like you. and that he should do the same. Tell him the pressure, is too much for you, in your condition. Tell him that the two of you are always arguing about her, and it is nothing you can do about it, you can't make her like you, say, I have tried. I hope your husband will see it from your prospective!
2006-11-05 06:47:10 · answer #8 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down and talk to this woman. be prepared that it's probably not going to be nice. insist that she tells you exactly what she does not like about you. tell her that you could really care less if she likes you or not but for the sake of keeping the peace in the family that you are at least willing to try to get along with her. stand your ground and don't back down from her.
2006-11-05 06:36:43 · answer #9 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why either other then she is jealous of you for whatever reason. Your husband needs to get a backbone and stand up for you, you are his wife after all.Just stay away from her you don't need that stress in your life not with you being pregnant or even after wards..
2006-11-05 07:41:17 · answer #10 · answered by tiny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋