my bascilly my whole family drinks hate being around it how do i get away from it?
2006-11-05 06:27:51 · 16 answers · asked by beatrizpandolfini93089 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell your family
2006-11-05 06:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by Mimy ImFurst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how old you were...so I assume you are a young student.
Okay...avoid all situations when they are getting tanked...Hit the books, strive for the best grades, top the class stuff, spend hours in the local library, get a part time job if you have to...seek every avenue possible because your situation is only going to worsen. Their habits are destroying your future because they should be concerned with you. If you are not going on to college (probably not with that family) get into the AF, into an area that is suitable to you, have some fun there, meet others with same problems, get a degree with them, elevated yourself, whatever. I mentioned AF because it is the country club of the military...you don't have to necessarily be deployed...talk to recruiters...it is a way out and that is the best thing I can advise you with that won't cost you money and the time will be well spent. I regret nobody told me that.
I wish you well....
2006-11-05 06:36:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcoholism is a big problem that tears some families apart, and ruins some people's lives. The only thing I can say is that I come from a long line of alcoholics and nicotine addicts, and it sucks. I choose not to drink, but I do smoke, and I know that the only way you can get someone to quit drinking or smoking is to allow them to REALLY WANT IT for themselves, not for you, as sad as it is. And the only way to get away from it is not assoaite with the drinkers in your family, which is not practical, so basically you have to deal with it, or not deal with your family. It's truly a rotten Catch 22. I wish the best of luck to you, I know how much it sucks. Sorry I couldn't offer a good game plan, but there really isn't one.
2006-11-05 06:32:07 · answer #3 · answered by dumpsterdd90 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then seperate yourself from them somehow, drinking is a choice and it can be heridatary but you get to make the choice not to do it. My parents are both alcoholics and I do not drink unless I go out and that is it. So do what I did go to a friends house avoid them and family functions as much as possible.
You can maybe if you feel comfortable enough to suggest for your family to get help let them know how much it bothers you.
2006-11-05 06:54:51 · answer #4 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure how old you are and the answer would depend on that. My father is a recovering alcoholic, who has been clean for only 2 years now. I had to distance myself from him in order to make him see that he was hurting our relationship. He is now clean and sober. You acnnot help nor love someone who doesnt love or want to help themselves. Get an apartment if yo are grown. If not get a counselor and prepare for the coming days when you can start anew by yourself away from that.
2006-11-05 06:31:14 · answer #5 · answered by megs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drink too. Drink more than they do.
Or....go to Alanon meetings, get busy making a life for yourself, and ealize most families are NOTHING like the Brady Bunch.
2006-11-05 06:37:42 · answer #6 · answered by Valerie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are to young to live on your own, then go to AL ANON they are in the phone book, and if not Phone Alcoholics Anonymous and they will find AL ANON for you. You can not make your family change, but you can and will learn how do live with them best of luck Al Anon really does work
2006-11-05 06:37:02 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I would do would be putting signs all over your house that says no drinking! It might not work but for some people it works!
2006-11-05 06:32:56 · answer #8 · answered by krazeeuna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of the danger zone. See if there is somewhere else you can stay.If not ,you might have to stay in your room when you're home.I lived with it all my life and know what you mean.It's a horrible way to live.
2006-11-05 06:37:32 · answer #9 · answered by cybefree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i have just the opposite problem-i drink and none of them do. i have to hide it by lying, but for you if they're all in one room go in another part of the house and watch tv or something. there are times though that you'll have to be around it, but you dont have to drink. dont let peer pressure get to you.
2006-11-05 06:31:31 · answer #10 · answered by collgegrl11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you are an adult and can move out, there's not a lot you can do. I grew up with an alcoholic father, and thankfully my parents divorced and he moved out. It's tough. Maybe you should talk to a trusted adult about your problems. Good luck.
2006-11-05 06:30:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋