If your're anorexic how do you convince yourself you're not fat? How do you convince yourself to live?

Question

Everything seems so messed up. I have doctors, family, and friends constantly bothering me about my weight. I just want to be left alone to do what I want. Even if that is killing myself. I know they care and only want to help but they just keep making things worse. I've made my choice and I know that I want to die. I can't go on like this anymore. I have dreams but none of that seems to matter. I know I'm depressed I've been taking Prozac for the past month. It isn't working. I still feel the same way. Every time I look in the mirror all I see is this horribly fat girl. I'm seventeen years old, 4 foot 10, and ninety pounds. I know I'm not fat but I can't stop feeling like I am. I realize there is more to this than just eating. I've asked for help and I've given it time but the pain doesn't go away. No one will understand if I kill myself but I can't stop thinking that that is the only way things will get better. I need so advice. There has to be something else I can do.

Answer 1

I have felt like i was fat before, and it makes you feel like you don't meet standards. But you have to ask yourself, Who's standards am I trying to live up to? The answer is the world's. Our society is making it hard for girls (and guys) to live they way they want because there are standards that everyone has to meet to be cool. it has always been this way. Whether it is about clothes, weight, attractiveness, and sometimes (but not often), grades. Not always good grades. It's actually cool if you get bad grades. Now what kind of world do we live in if people are telling us that being a poor student is good? And why are we listening when people tell us that since we don't shop at Nordstrom or have the entire new fall line, we aren't good enough?

Well, i say that that is just a bunch of lies. Don't you agree? But ever since I excepted Jesus Christ as my saviour, He has given me a new way to live. I dont have to worry so much about being fat. Now i am not saying your health isn't important, but you dont have to think you are fat.

Psalm 139:14 "I am fearfully and wonderfully made, i know that full well."

If God is the one that made me, why should i be worried? God has made every single one of us perfect, just how He wants us. You are exactly how God wants you to be when you are yourself. you are NEVER too fat or whatever. God wants you to know that even though the world is telling us to be unbelievably skinny, He is telling us the truth in that we are his people. He made us, and He loves us.

Answer 2

Ask your mother to accompany you to the healthcare professional for the specific cause of addressing whether or not or no longer you're below-weight. If feasible, do it as a stroll-in or agenda the appointment your self so she can't talk to the healthcare professional forward of time to speak him/her into telling you what she desires. Otherwise, if the healthcare professional says you're underweight, you'll be able to believe it is all her doing. So it is to defend either one of you and get a real impartial opinion. If the healthcare professional says you're underweight, inform him/her how so much you're consuming and ask if you'll have normal blood exams. It will establish any amazing chemical stages that would be contributing to obviously low weight. (E.g., hyper-thyroidism makes it very complex for an person to attain weight.) If the healthcare professional says you are nice and your mother nonetheless may not lay off, take her with you to the dentist. The dentist can be in a position to inform her if you're bulimic (habitually throwing up). All this calls for that you're being sincere approximately no longer having an consuming ailment - I fairly wish you don't!

Answer 3

I sort of had the same problem. I was very depressed. the first thing you have to realize, it's that your mind is completely independent on how you look. you have to stop blaming your appearance, like it has some relation to how bad you feel, cause it doesn't!
Then, you have to SLOWLY, at your own pace, start reconstructing your personality. there was a time, when you were a balanced, happy girl. you were in peace, with yourself, with the world. You have to go back there, To be that again. This is slow, and don't be afraid of difficulties, cause if you go slowly, there won't be any. Feel the love of your family, and those that care about you, but don't forget you are on your own, and you can do it! You are strong like that. strong and flexible to take the necessary changes. Try to eat daily with your family, when they do, ask your mother to eat all of you together. Ask for her help. Focus on your inner self, and forget about the food. The food part will only be a habit that you'll share daily with your loved ones. If you can all eat together at the table would be great. create habits, stick to them. remember, it's not your weight what we need to change here, it's your mind. Nurture your mind, your brain, your soul. I'm sure you will be fine. If it helps, find god. Find peace in your soul. it will really be alright.

Answer 4

With me i think im fat and i become very insecure about my self my friends always say im normal ive never even been picked on b4 my friends always told me things like you need to work with what u got and if u want to be loved u need to love urself first stop looking at all the bad things in life youll never be able to live it up lifes to short for all that ive made alot of **** ups and i use to be a cutter and suicidal and anger issues but i got over all of it the good ppl ion my life helped me see the better things and u have to always expect the worse.. . id kill to be skinny but with ur height u should be weighing about 100 i think
p.s im 15 so i can kinda relate to u ur not so much older then I

Answer 5

Please do not listen to people who clearly have their own weight issues whereby they are clearly overweight....remember that is an eating disorder in itself. I know anorexia is very painful i am now in my 9th year with it.

Killing yourself is not the answer but talking is. Food issues are so difficult it is not like being a druggie or an alcholic whereby you can advoid your vice, we NEED food and we have to encounter our fear everyday, ideally 3 times a day.

Please keep going you are clearly inn a bad place at the moment and the ONLY way is to tallk about it.

You have already done a very brave thing today by asking for help.

Keep it up
let me know how you are getting on
xxxxxx

Answer 6

Yes, I agree with John B. You need a support group. This is a problem that can be worked threw; however, you shouldn't go it alone. I worked with a woman (at a large hospital) who counseled people with anorexia. Many hospitals have wonderful programs. Get some real help, from people who specialize in this! Take care sweetie.

Answer 7

Yes,you can give yourself a chance and live.All in all nothing is forever so neither this life that you don't like is forever.But you shouldn't give up so early.You might not know but some good things could show up during your life if you let it be.And I'm pretty sure something good will happen because it happens to everybody.In this moment of your life you can't see anything good but that's quite normal since you feel like that.But as soon as you start feeling better,and soon or late it will happen,you will se that after all it was worth it.
Best of luck and remember,never give up!

Answer 8

I won't repeat the advice given above, but in addiction, I suggest you find some support forums or journals online with recoverign anorexants such as yourself. I have been to a few and I think they are helpful.

Answer 9

Candace, There are plenty of support groups out there, I strongly encourage you to attend one for your own sake, Please? There are a lot of people in your life who really care about you.

Good luck. I wish you well.

Answer 10

killing yourself is not the answer...mabye when you get out of highschool move to another state and just forget aboout the past... make some new friends and try to move on if you kill yourself it will just show weakness