I love him, and loves with me, but our parents HATE each other. They tell me that if I marry him I will lose my family forever, my dad won't walk me down the aisle. My parents tell me I am stupid for even considering becoming part of their family. His family isn't bad, its just that my parents want someone more successful for me who can support me, but is it wrong that I don't care about that? I have a great job with a decent salary, I know we can survive because our love is so strong for each other. But what if my parents are right? I want to make everything right, no matter what I do though, someone will be getting hurt. His family is on our side and they are telling us to just do what feels right, but feelings are not always rational. He has gone through so much trouble to be with me, I know how much he cares, and I want us to be together. Nothing works, we have talked with my family countless times, but they are still against us! I know running aways isn't the answer...
2006-11-05 06:18:35 · 10 answers · asked by Yul'ka 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I know I don't know you our your family personally but they are your family no matter what, no matter who you marry or who you love. If you don't marry the love of your life, don't you think in the years to come you will regret it like crazy? Your parents want what is best for you, and one day when you're a parent you will want the same for your children but they need to respect you and your decisions. You are an adult, and only you know what is best for you. If you are truly in love than that is what matters most. Everything else will fall in place. Family is extremely in important I know that, but they can't live their life through you. You have to stand up for what you think is right and what you want. Its your life and your future!
I hope everything works out sweetie!
2006-11-05 06:31:14 · answer #1 · answered by MegM0930 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it really is just about money, then I say marry him anyway if you are sure that he is the one.
I am having a hard time believing that money is the only reason, though. Does he have a job, or is he a deadbeat? Or is there another reason that you parents have that you didn't put here?
My parents did not like my boyfriend at all, but now that we've been together for four years, moved in together, and have a son, they like him a lot more. He's not their favorite, of course, and I don't think that any girl's boyfriend is a favorite of their parents.
But they will eventually learn to tolerate him, at least, and they won't really cut you off from the family forever. They'll be angry for a while, but they'll get over it.
Good luck!
2006-11-05 15:57:47 · answer #2 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can not see your parents hating some one just because they are not as successful as them. This doesn't make sense, I think you need to find out what this is all about ask your parents, they are the only ones that know, and good luck with this
2006-11-05 14:23:44 · answer #3 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just think that maybe your parents are right I mean you need to totaly stay with him for a long while and see what he is all about. I mean chances are you parents might be seeing something in him you dont. And after a while if you parents still dont want it to happen you really need to talk to them about it.
2006-11-05 14:37:20 · answer #4 · answered by SunShineBabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one...It sounds like you already have your answer. You aren't marrying your parents. You should marry someone who is good to you and good for you, which it sounds like you have. You have his parents' support, which is great! I understand that parents want what's best for the kids, but sometimes they need to butt out. Stop trying to convince your parents to like your man and your situation. It sounds like a waste of time. Good luck!
2006-11-05 14:23:44 · answer #5 · answered by Steph L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you have to do what your heart tells you despite what your parents say. I understand parents want what is best for their kids but it's really sad to ever say that you'll disown them. More than likely in time they'll come around.
2006-11-05 14:45:00 · answer #6 · answered by secsee27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same thing happened to me if you love him get married your going to spend the rest of you life with you husband not your family, their not going to love you like he can, eventually they'll get over it and accept each other. Like my husband say to me "All you need is love, everything else can be worked out"
2006-11-05 15:53:41 · answer #7 · answered by chase 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor thing...I feel for ya! I cant tell you want to do but I will keep you in my prayes! I hope everything works out for you and your fiance!! Best of luck!
2006-11-05 14:25:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dad always knows best...there mustbe some reason why they dont like him! Dads know guys...and i have been there...my dad was always right.
2006-11-05 14:24:26 · answer #9 · answered by Julia C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
giv them time
explain them
they have to know its yur life
its u whoo gonna liv it not them
2006-11-05 14:24:18 · answer #10 · answered by Angad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋