My husband and I would like to do something special for his mother, but his siblings (2 sisters & 1 brother) all well off financially, don't want to do anything. We know that she would like to have a room full of friends & family with her to celebrate & thats what we would like to give her. We offered to pay for the event, if they would help with the planning - they refused & didn't think that they should do something for her just because she would like it. They also said that if we went ahead and did something like this ourselves, they would be offended and not come. I don't know, this isn't about them, shouldn't they think about their mother and her milestone. She had gone out of her way, solely, to make special events happen for her kids. We are talking about adult kids ages 45 (my husband) , to 55. What is the best thing to do without offending these selfish siblings.
2006-11-05 06:18:16 · 6 answers · asked by Pandora 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Who should you be more concerned with, your sweet mother in law or the silly, selfish siblings? If you would like to throw her a birthday party, then why not just do it? You can invite all the siblings (you do not want to be the rude ones) and plan it yourselves. Something in the afternoon for a few hours would be nice and accommodating for the elderly people invited. Afternoon appetizers and cake with some nice band music/dance floor and beverages would not be too outrageously priced and maybe just right for the occasion. It is nice of you to think of her and let her have some joy in her age. :)
2006-11-05 06:26:03 · answer #1 · answered by yowhatsup2day 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gather with the ones that want to celebrate this with her. Tell the others to get a life. I can hardly believe the story that they won't come and if you do it they will be offended. I do believe it but it is a bit much, what jerks. I would do whatever I wanted and could afford to do. Stupid family.
If you can't afford the big party just have people in to your house and make it pot luck, the b-day girl doesn't care what you eat she cares to visit and laugh about days gone by.
Sorry your surrounded by losers. Happy Birthday to the young lady.
2006-11-05 06:24:24 · answer #2 · answered by sideways 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think her children are being ridiculous. Throwing your mother-in-law a party sounds like a wonderful idea. What is their problem? I think if I knew for sure she would love to have a party, and could afford to do it myself, I would throw her the party. Invite the siblings anyway, and if they don't come, they don't come. Big deal.
2006-11-05 06:23:18 · answer #3 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and plan on... invite your mother in laws friends, neighbors, relatives, co-workers and family members. However doesn't attend it would be their loss. Don't let the siblings bully you into not showing your love and appreciation for your mother-in-law.
2006-11-05 06:22:58 · answer #4 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do it anyway.It sounds like they'd be offended no matter what you did. If they don't want to do anything for her anyway then what difference does it make to them what you do.I would go ahead with it and tell them if they want to come to keep their attitudes at home.
2006-11-05 06:29:47 · answer #5 · answered by cybefree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about offending them just do what you have to to make your mom in law happy.
2006-11-05 06:21:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋